<p>lkf725</p>
<p>I think it can only help crabbylady for you to share your pain and I admire your courage in doing so. Don’t think it is hihacking the thread at all.</p>
<p>My condolences on your loss.</p>
<p>lkf725,
I am so sorry to hear that you are also bereaved after 37 years of life shared with your husband. Please take very very good care of yourself as the holidays approach, and I am sorry for your children’s loss of a beloved father.</p>
<p>Faline2, Virginia</p>
<p>I’m sorry, lkf. You and Crabbylady and your families will be in my thoughts.</p>
<p>ikf- I am so sorry to hear about your terrible lose, my condolences to you and your family, hopefully you get great strength from each other.</p>
<p>Prayers for a peaceful Holiday season, this must be unbearable!</p>
<p>{{{HUGS}}} from your CC family.</p>
<p>Dear LKF,
I am so sorry for the loss to your family. We share the same profession and our sons went through the undergrad appplication process at the same time. I have always respected you and felt you were an asset to our profession. You are my prayers
LA</p>
<p>So sorry for your loss, lkf.</p>
<p>Thanks everybody. I really appreciate your posts because they make me feel a little less alone. Hopefully, we will all eventually get our bearings and be able to get back to the business of living.</p>
<p>LKF, I am so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. I think many of us hold your situation and Crabbylady’s in our hearts as one of our greatest fears, and we know that none of us are immune. It could happen to any of us - but for some unknowable reason it has happened to you. Our thoughts and prayers are with both of your families as you find your way through this darkness. CC’rs are a great source of advice and a good place to vent when you feel uncomfortable venting to family and close friends. So vent away! We’ll be here!</p>
<p>lkf725 - Please accept my condolences on the loss of your husband. I often find this is the most difficult time of the year to do my job; I’ve seen how death during the holidays can add another dimension to grieving - while so many others are spending time with their families and loved ones, it can seem sort of surreal to those who have just lost a loved one. I hope you find courage, strength and peace to get through this time.</p>
<p>Crabbylady and LFK - just letting you know you are in my thoughts this afternoon.</p>
<p>lkf:</p>
<p>I am so sorry for your loss. H and I have been married for as long as you and your husband were together, so I can well imagine the sense of total bereavement you are experiencing. As I wrote to Crabbylady, one can only live one day at a time. Big hugs to you across cyberspace.</p>
<p>lkf: I am so sorry to hear about your husband. This must be so painful right now. I wish you strength and encourage you to continue to reach out for support.</p>
<p>LKF and Crabbylady (who seems anything but), I am so sorry to hear of your the holes your hearts suddenly have. The other night I was so irritated at my H, and suddenly, CL’s loss popped into my head and I got a grip on myself. Having lost my beloved sister-in-law last year after a debilitating and painful few years of cancer struggle, I see how my brother floundered and felt so lost. I don’t think time heals a loss like you’ve all experienced, but the pain does lessen. </p>
<p>My heart is with both of you, particularly with the changes the holidays will highlight. </p>
<p>As others have said, take care of yourself, and do what you need to get some sleep.</p>
<p>lfk, I wish you the best also. A loss at this time of year is very bittersweet. My heart and prayers go out to you especially at this time of year. One moment at a time.</p>
<p>Crabbylady and lfk~I have been away from CC for a few weeks, and am just seeing this thread! I am so very sorry that either of you have to go through such grief. I will keep you in my prayers that you will have the strength to take each day and know that you have your children to remind you of the special love you had with your spouse. The legal hassles will ease with time, and the insanity of the paperwork will give you something to vent about–but try to focus on the happy times–keep those alive for your children!</p>
<p>Sending strength today, CL & LKF.</p>
<p>I just got back from trying to do some Christmas shopping. The longer I walked around, the more depressing it got. ARGH! </p>
<p>What are you doing about the holidays, CL?</p>
<p>Lkf, just want to add one more voice of support.</p>
<p>May you and Crabbylady and your children find some peace soon and be able to once again embrace life’s adventures.</p>
<p>FWIW, a friend a mine who lost her spouse decided to do something totally different for the holidays. She and children took a trip to the Caribbean where they were not constantly reminded of their loss, not that they could forget, but the change of scenery, activities, and no expectation that there be any “celebration” of the holidays, and the fact that no one where they were knew what had happened provided a bit of relief. </p>
<p>They did this for a couple of years until they could again face the holiday family traditions with out the same acuteness of pain they felt initially. After time, they could reminisce about the good times without so many tears.</p>
<p>Praying for both of you and your families. I too had a friend whose husband died. She had 4 children 2 to 10. They also went on a cruise for the holidays. Being out of their environment helped them get through. I will be thinking about you and praying for you in the coming weeks.</p>