My daughter got engaged in March. She met her fiancé through a dating app. She’s quiet and not a bar/party/dance girl so this worked well for her. She texted back and forth with several young men and then met with one or two others before meeting her now-fiancé. All seemed very nice; one she had several dates with before they moved on. It turned out to be a great experience.
I was horrified when my daughter started using Tinder last year. I really thought she’d only find the nasty boys there (and yes, some were absolute creeps) but she did end up meeting a nice guy and dated him for a few months. I agree with @ignatius, a dating app might actually be better for the non-partying types.
Already sent it to DS and DD. DS replied with smart-xxx remark. DD, no reply. Loved the line about the mom complaining about the iPad only playing Christmas songs. Cute article.
Um… minimally we might need:
Sons looking for daughters
Sons looking for sons
Daughters looking for sons
Daughters looking for daughters
I have never heard of Tinder before this thread. Learn something new everyday!
Thanks for posting! I enjoyed the article and he has a good “voice.”
Is there a stereotype of those who use Tinder?
Fun article. I sent it to my kids and they had some fun with the sort of conversations I might have and apparently my way of talking properly would give it away!
If this is any indication of how poorly Dads are at matchmaking, we better leave it to the Moms:
http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/06/dad-takes-out-dating-ad-for-adult-son.html
My youngest tried Tinder and wound up matched with a guy I tried to fix her up with last year. Perhaps a mom developed the Tinder algorithm.
Is anyone else picturing the scene from Harold and Maude where Harold’s mom fills out his application to a dating service? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reJAzTE980s
My daughter met her boyfriend of nearly three years now via OK Cupid. He’s really a great match for her – lots of overlapping interests, same age, not so dissimilar background – and much more conventional than I had thought her taste ran. If that’s what online dating does, it’s a wonderful thing.
We tried to fix her up a couple of times with sons of friends. In one case, it totally didn’t work because the son in question (whom we didn’t know at all – this was a very old friend who lived elsewhere) turned out to be a prominent a-hole (as she put it) at her college, fratty, competitive, arrogant, and right-wing. Not her cuppa at all (and she not his). In the other case, the guy’s mom couldn’t get him to call her, and it later turned out that both already had relationships going they hadn’t told their parents about yet.
I had one true blind date set up by my mother and her friend, when I was 19. Several things were funny about it. First, the person both moms wanted to match me with was my date’s younger sister, but they agreed she was too young for me then and they should wait on that. Second, the date was about six months short of coming out as a lesbian to her parents. That alone would not have precluded us liking one another – as it happened, within the next few years I had a couple of perfectly nice down-low relationships with women who were publicly gay. However, at that point it doubtless strained our discussion, because she didn’t feel like coming out to her mother’s friend’s son . We had a perfectly OK, chemistry-free early evening together.
I finally met the sister a few years later, and pretty much fell head-over-heels for her.
What’s a down low relationship with a publicly gay woman?
D1 is still going strong with the fellow she met 2 years ago on some app. (She dated a few nice guys via Tinder, too.) It was only after they met and hit it off that they started realizing how many similarities in their backgrounds and experiences. The sorts of things that you wouldn’t put in a blurb. Uncanny.
I’ve told this story on this board before, but not for a few years.
One of my best friends was sitting in the stands at an athletic event next to another mom. They knew each other casually because their younger kids had been competing together more than a decade. They started chatting and the other mom told my friend that her son had just moved to City X. My friend said, “my daughter lives there; let me give you her phone number to give to him.” Other mom looks at my friend and tells her, “my son only likes really smart women.” My friend responds, “my daughter is in a PhD program at Ivy U in City X and went to a different undergraduate Ivy U. She’s smart enough.”
Finally the other mom was persuaded to take the phone number. That couple has been married several years now. Very happy. I am not going to post anything, on any of the wedding threads, about the wedding these two moms helped the couple plan. They get along pretty well these days. They don’t have a grandchild in common yet.
When they do have a baby, I’m sending college onesies from the mama’s colleges. 
My ods is engaged to a perfect girl for him via a dating site. I’m 100% for them. I’ve known so many happy matches.
Tinder isn’t exactly a dating site… But I am not saying that I completely disapprove. My niece met a guy via Tinder who helped her get over a bad breakup – she did end up dating the new guy for several months. She was really on the mat after the initial breakup, do I was just happy she rebounded.
^^^^^
I’m aware of that. But many of D’s friends met their boyfriends/girlfriends on tindder.
D has a tinder date tonight. I hope it goes ok. My college age niece met a boy she is dating on tinder.
However you meet and whatever your intentions are, there is something for everyone.
So tinder is for hook ups? Are there actual dating apps for college kids? S2 is hopelessly shy outside small circle and he’s in a curriculum with very few girls. Which one should I push him to try?
Yes, @AllThisIsNewToMe Tinder is mostly for hookups.