<p>There is a third aspect to the solution that I neglected to mention. We talked to son quite a bit about how to make friends and that he had to make an effort to get out of his dorm room when he had free time even if it just meant walking over to the student center to get a snack. He had gotten into a habit of calling us every time he returned to his room and would say he was doing nothing and had a free period, an hour before the game, nothing to do that night, etc. </p>
<p>We told him he would never make friends if he went right back to his room and called us and that he had to make an effort to be sociable.</p>