<p>This all sounds so familiar… Bumps in the road…first exam shock…first New Engaland winter for a texan…first boyfriend…first boyfriend breakup…however in due time they will be so busy they won’t have time but to enjoy…in some ways do you ever feel our children are telling us just enough info for us to twist in the wind Lol…Listen, give them encouragement and tell them you love them sooooooooo much…then privately cry wondering why you agreed to BS. Aw they will survive, it’s us parents that have a tough go and we too will be OK. Remember to smile. It does get easier for everyone. When D1 was a first year BS I as a Dad had many sleepless nights worrying about my child. As time went on it became easier and all the concerns of no friends, the food sucks, my teachers suck…well that changes. Mark my word, your child will have one foot out the door dying to get back to school at X-mas break.</p>
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d loves the place, but hates the food, but great pizza and china delivery</p>
<p>PDad you got me…the food will always stink!!! The rest will fall in line</p>
<p>I’m glad to hear that the boys are doing better. Unfortunately,(or fortunately)I have the opposite problem. My son is so happy that I don’t think he remembers that we exist until he needs something. Then we get a 10 minute phone call and the orders to write it all down. </p>
<p>Linda - Football is tough and it is a shock to most kids when they begin. Sometimes when I watch practice, I cringe. I can’t imagine someone choosing to put up with such abuse.</p>
<p>We visited baseballson and took him out to dinner and walmart (who knew this would be a highlight of the visit!?), then a spent couple of hours at the hotel where son could lounge and watch tv before heading back to the dorm. We stayed overnight and son had morning classes, then we went out for lunch.</p>
<p>Baseballson does NOT have a best friend, but he had lots of stories about other freshmen boys that he knows. While on campus many other boys said hello to him by name, so he is not the anonymous lonely boy we were imagining. He was in generally good spirits, had a sense of humor, and enjoyed showing us around. He seemed more polite and grown up. </p>
<p>He needed this visit and so did we. I was expecting him to cry and beg to come home with us when we left, but he was fine. We exchanged really good hugs!</p>
<p>The only real problem is the bully who lives on his hall and focuses on my son. The bully is being watched by the administration. I don’t think baseballson is his sole victim, so it’s just a matter of time before the exit papers are delivered and bully gets a one-way ticket home!</p>
<p>I’ve often wondered about bullies at BS. I know they all have no hazing policies, but I wonder how well they deal with them.</p>
<p>I’m sure your son will find that “best friend.” It’s only been a few weeks yet. Wait until they all have exams at the end of term. I think that is the kind of “crisis” that tends to forge close friendships.</p>
<p>At my son’s school, they have a no hazing policy. The usual response is dismissal from the school. Hazing is defined in the student handbook and specifically includes that repeated harassment is considered hazing. </p>
<p>I know from another poster on CC that two boys were expelled for hazing last year from my son’s school, so, surpising as it sounds, I took it as good news. It is not tolerated, but I suppose they need to wait to throw the kid out until they have iron-clad evidence. </p>
<p>Our bully is on borrowed time and it was apparant from our conversations with several different people in the administration that they were already well aware of the bully’s activities and were tiring of it.</p>
<p>We went for a quick visit today. We are lucky to be just and hour and a half away so we went for the varsity football game. He too seems to know a LOT of kids, but didn’t seem to have a “best” friend. Food is better than it was last week…humm…it can’t be TOO bad as he’s put on at LEAST 10-15 pounds in the last 2 weeks!!!<br>
Warriorboy- yes football is hard, but he was completely on the wrong team. He’d NEVER played and was on a team with kids who had been playing since 2nd grade. He is now on a more appropriate team and much happier about it. It’s still hard, but he’s enjoying it. </p>
<p>Interestingly, we learned (i should post this in the roommate thread) that his roommate likes the windows open when it’s cold AND he stays up until 2+ in the morning and then sleeps through his morning classes! I told my son, he just might have a single before long if that keeps up.</p>
<p>Who won the game?</p>
<p>Make sure the administration stays on top of this bully. They can be a nightmare for his/her targets.</p>
<p>prepparent-my son knows he can tell us anything and we’ve been encouraging him to immediately report incidents to the proper adults. The latest one happened this morning, so it may come to a head sooner than later. It’s made the first 3 weeks of school miserable for my son since the kid is in his room most of the time.</p>
<p>Please keep us posted on the bully situation.</p>
<p>I hope the bully situation gets sorted out soon. It may be a mixed blessing that the behavior is so egregious - good in that there will hopefully be a resolution soon, bad for baseballson in the meantime.</p>
<p>One of my pet peeves is when ‘bullying’ goes unaddressed because it’s more subtle. Sometimes, teenagers can have to put up with a lot when dealing with the peers (I know, I know, they’re learning experiences).</p>
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Well, it was very close for most of the first half. Actually very dull, mostly 3 and out for both teams with Salisbury scoring and leading 6-0. Third quarter much of the same. Then in the 4th quarter, you’ll be happy to know fun, that Salisbury stopped them deep and then had like and 80 yard TD run. On the kick-off, it was fumbled and recovered and returned for ANOTHER TD. We left at that point, but it was late in the 4th, so I don’t imagine anything changed the outcome.<br>
So, the long answer to the short question is Salisbury. LOL (but I needed you to know that it was closer for most of the game than is reflected in the score).</p>
<p>Thanks, that’s funny - today in the Hartford Courant it actually read:
Salisbury 27 Avon 0 (But it was much closer than that).</p>
<p>Hey, I make the little joke.</p>
<p>bbalmom, I feel for you and your son. This will get sorted out i’m sure. In the meantime the house parents and proctors need to be up to speed on this ugly situation. What a way to start the school year… my prayers are with you on this situation.</p>
<p>So far, so good…change is in the wind!</p>
<p>baseballmom, Tell your son to hang in there! In a year or two, he probably won’t remember this kid’s name…</p>
<p>All’s Well that Ends Well!
Details aside, I’m relieved and happy to report that the school, my son, and the bully worked everything out.</p>
<p>Turns out there ARE things to do on campus and my son is making friends! Mom and Dad need a vacation after 4 weeks of stress and no sleep, but maybe we’ll renovate a bathroom instead!</p>
<p>Thanks to everyone for your kind words, thoughts, prayers, and PMs. It worked!</p>
<p>baseballmom - Great to hear that it all worked out. It’s amazin how difiicult it is when our kids are oin throuh difficult times.</p>