<p>Don’t worry about skipping the prom…</p>
<p>I didn’t go to either of my HS proms (back in the Stone Age)</p>
<p>I was thinking of asking a quiet, shy male friend of mine… One of the popular girls asked him first…</p>
<p>I found out later that she was actually dating, and later married one of our history teachers!!</p>
<p>After all these years, I’m still glad I skipped the drama : )</p>
<p>Don’t worry about it. My son would have skipped his proms without a thought. However, his girlfriend (senior year) wanted to go badly enough (she was 2 years younger) that she offered to pay. I didn’t know this since they were at boarding school. When I found out I was mortified. Her mother was even lining up the tux rental (they were closer to the school). I, of course, did not allow any of this and we paid for the tux. I think the girl still paid for the prom tickets. Why girls bother with my son is beyond me. And the mothers seem to adore him. Go figure.</p>
<p>My D didn’t go to her Jr. prom and I felt so bad, but it really didn’t seem to bother her. She did go to her Sr. prom, with a friend, but (thankfully) did not go to the after party/overnight stuff. Looking back it really didn’t matter. She’s gone on to college and is having fun.</p>
<p>Back in the day, I didn’t go to my prom, my H didn’t go to his, my oldest S did not go either. No big deal here. Tonight is prom and D is there with a date on crutches. Can’t imagine what’s happening. Unforgettable? Probably…but not for the right reasons!</p>
<p>Didn’t go to MY prom. Black Kids wouldn’t go if the white kids where going, and vice versa. </p>
<p>Son went to his, black and white couple.</p>
<p>Off topic, but interesting to me.</p>
<p>Neither S1 nor S2 went to prom…just not interested. Neither was much for the school hoopla type activities. S1 was one of those stealth kids…he lettered in a sport but that’s about it was totally happy to get high school over. S2 was a “rebel” type kid so didn’t do anything in organized groups. S2 even had a friend girl ask him because she didn’t have a “boy friend” and he wouldn’t go. S3 is going this year with an “older woman”. He loves dances and the school hoopla and the clubs and everything about high school. None of this stuff “defines” kids…</p>
<p>S never went to a HS dance or prom (at least none I am aware of). D went to some dances, balls and proms. Both were happy with their choices and have few or no regrets. S seemed slightly sad that he asked a girl he liked after she already had a date for SR prom; ended up he was sick the week prior, week of & week following prom, so probably just as well he didn’t have a date to disappoint. ;)</p>
<p>His dad also never attended any such events back in his day; I attended most that I was invited to & had an OK to good time at most of them. No harm to H from his non-attendance.</p>
<p><i’ll just=“” post=“” this=“” for=“” a=“” little=“” sympathy.=“”> DS#2 decided not to go to his prom this year. He transferred schools two years ago, including repeating a year, so had already been to two proms, but at New School the seniors dance with their opposite sex parents in this pattern that they all learn the week before prom. Very sweet, I thought, and the only reason I asked once or twice if he was sure he didn’t want to go. “Mom–I’ll put on my tuxedo and we can dance around the house.” <sigh></sigh></i’ll></p>
<p>Parents attend the prom?..</p>
<p>My daughter (a senior) and her boyfriend aren’t going to prom, not there type of thing.
However, I was a bit unhappy when she told me this past week that she’s not going to the senior pary nor does she want to have a grad party.</p>
<p>Is this just a “mom” thing? Let’s get a poll going? For those moms that feel a sense of “sadness”, please ask H and report back. </p>
<p>BlueDad</p>
<p>Haha. D1 went with a group of friends her junior year, and went with her bf senior year. However, she was so sick of the h.s. bullxxxx that they went out to a fancy dinner, and made it to the prom just so she could take her “walk” (she’d been voted onto the prom court) and then they left after a couple of dances. Same D didn’t want a grad party (she was val) and only made a cameo appearance at the senior party as well…just not her thing (and she’s graduating in a couple of weeks a very self-assured and awesome woman…heading off to a Ph.D. program). Not to worry.</p>
<p>A standing joke at our house (which my D’s love to bring up…) DH moved to my hometown in the middle of our senior year in high school. We didn’t really start dating until we were both at (different) colleges. However, I was SOOOOO hoping he would ask me to senior prom. He, instead, invited one of my good friends…and she said YES. I was devastated, and went to a movie that night with one of my other “dateless” friends…back when you “had” to have a date to go. My D’s (nor I) will never let him forget it. (His response, well SHE got me for prom, YOU got me for life! gag… 
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<p>I think it is a “mom” thing. My H never went to his prom and can not understand why I am sad about our son not attending his. I have to admit I was more looking forward to the prom and pics than my son. As someone points out, it also intensifies my worry that he does not have much of a social life in HS and is being left out of party with his classmates.
That said, if the prom is a paintball or sport event I believe my son would jump right in.</p>
<p>My H didn’t go to his prom and thinks that it is no big deal. My D almost didn’t have a prom date (broke up with BF of 3 yrs just prior to prom), luckily a friend came to the rescue. She would have been devastated. Yes, I think prom is a girl thing. My S (a sophomore) was just asked by a senior friend who didn’t have a date. I am making sure that he takes it seriously and helps her have a “magical” evening. Girls dream about these things, boys don’t care. IMO</p>
<p>sunnydayfun, my intellectual, introverted son never went to a prom in HS. He also did not date. Although he went to dances in jr high, he disliked those at the HS and only ever went to one. He did have a circle of friends and team mates that included girls, and I could see that at least one of them appeared to be interested in him, but he seemed oblivious. He had relationships when away for summer programs, but just didn’t want to be involved in HS.</p>
<p>I had the same concern that you do: I wanted him to open up a bit and have a satisfying social life. I was afraid it would never happen.</p>
<p>As a sophomore in college, which is when his school does rush, he decided to join a fraternity, despite being adamantly opposed to them initially. You could have knocked me over with a feather when he told me that he volunteered to organize their spring formal! Since then he has held various house offices, and is now co-social chair. And he has a serious GF.</p>
<p>So don’t give up hope. :D</p>
<p>Reporting back: I asked H what he thought about S not going, since H–unlike me–actually went to his HS proms. He said “It’s nice to go to these things, but I don’t really care all that much.”</p>
<p>Yup. It’s something we moms just need to get over. My S did not go to junior or senior prom. Robbing me of my birthright Kodak moment :).</p>
<p>I worried about it a lot for the junior one - same worries others have described. At our hs, kids do go stag. Mom of one of his guy friends (also not going) and I tried to convince the two to go together stag. Nope.</p>
<p>Senior year, DS had a girlfriend (from another hs) and <em>still</em> didn’t go.</p>
<p>I’m over it (he graduated college 2 years ago, lol).</p>
<p>I did not go to prom either. I feel a little bad about it. My somewhat boyfriend at the time
didint want to go. he was older. My H went with his girlfriend at the time. We graduated frim the same HS and year but didnt know each other. He said it was not a big deal.</p>
<p>I do think this is largely an X chromosome thing. I am positive that our son would never have attended prom if his gf hadn’t cared about it. My husband would not have cared one way or another. I would have worried a little bit, in spite of my own prom non-attendance in HS, because I am so good at worrying.</p>
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We all have our gifts, lol.</p>
<p>I didn’t attend my prom and I have never regretted it. Mine is going but it is not a big deal.
And, I must admit to being somewhat appalled at how expensive it can be. I know of one girl spending around $600 on a dress.</p>