<p>My wife has a late model… let’s just say nice car. On the back she has stickers for two Ivy League colleges where our first two sons go. Our third son is going to a big university in the South - not an Ivy. My wife refuses! to put a sticker for that school on her car. I have them all on mine. Seems awfully rough on my youngest though he acts like he doesn’t care. Should I continue to make a big deal about this? </p>
<p>lol…sounds like you married a snob. If it truly doesn’t bother your child, then let it go.</p>
<p>Hey, put TWO of his school’s stickers on YOUR car…and wear the hoodie all the time!</p>
<p>Wait until he makes more than the other two and sends you only one of you plane tickets to visit him. 
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<p>She either should have all or none.
I agree with wearing a baseball hat or sweatshirt from youngests school when you go out for date night.</p>
<p>I think she should display all three.</p>
<p>If she’s motivated by what others think of her, you could point out that her friends may have noticed the omission, and drawn their own conclusions about her character.</p>
<p>I agree with @texaspg and the rest here. And, yes, people who notice the omission are going to know exactly what she is. </p>
<p>Shame on her. </p>
<p>Wow. That’s a pretty sad story.</p>
<p>Has she explained WHY she won’t put that school in the South’s sticker on her car? Maybe she just thinks it’s ugly?</p>
<p>Does not matter if it’s ugly as sin. What does she say when asked? I can’t imagine saying to a child “well, son, your college is just too embarrassing compared to your brothers’.” that’s rather appalling.</p>
<p>Really not trying to defend her, just wanting to know what her response is when asked! And let’s remember, there are always two sides (or more) to every story!</p>
<p>I think Periwinkle nailed it</p>
<p>You can’t force her.
But the kids will notice. You son says he doesn’t care, but he notices. I’m sure all your boys love their mother, but they are old enough to see what their parents emphasize. This, however, is her issue. I think she has heard you and made her decisions. </p>
<p>Celebrate all your kids. Wear the hats and shirts, put all three flags in your yard and the stickers on your car. </p>
<p>There is nothing about the stickers, shirts, or other college stuff at any college my kids attend that is ugly.</p>
<p>My husband would be sleeping in another room if he did that. I think it’s unconscionable for her not to put your 3rd son’s sticker on her car. </p>
<p>I will put the sticker tonight without her knowing!</p>
<p>Sorry but this story strains credibility. What mother isn’t proud of her kids equally for what they have achieved?</p>
<p>LOL.</p>
<p>Reminds me of the case of a guy I know. He’s smart but didn’t apply himself during HS. So he started out at Rutgers (and not the main Rutgers campus but one of the branch Rutgers) before doing well there and transferring in to a prestigious school (back then, it wasn’t as hard to do so as now, especially since that school had a heavy attrition rate).</p>
<p>Anyway, when he was at RU, when her mom’s friends asked her where he was going to college, she would say that he wasn’t.
She would rather that her friends think that he wasn’t going to college than that he was going to Rutgers.</p>
<p>Although I tend to be extremely gullible, I’m having difficulty believing this story</p>
<p>Assuming this is true, it’s sad and very cruel of the mother. But I can believe it. How many threads do we see from kids or parents freaking out because there’s a “B” in the grades or the kid wants a non-Ivy but parents won’t even consider it. I’m for some of these a state school somewhere down south might as well be ditch-digging. </p>
<p>Queen Lear</p>