<p>No, I really won’t have to learn to be more flexible. At any point. I’m already fairly flexible on almost everything. There are just a few non-negotiables.</p>
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<p>Obviously. One could claim that a good boss bears in mind what makes his employees really tick, but that’s not the point. Clearly, the job must be done well. That doesn’t mean staying late at all – my father never stays late at work, and holds a STANDARD, high-level corporate job, much along the lines that people seem to be describing. He works from home as necessary in the evenings, with his laptop and Bluetooth.</p>
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<p>That’s not what I said – please do NOT infer from my posts anything else than is explicitly there. I said that for a variety of reasons it will not be an issue. That is exactly what I meant, nothing more. The first fourteen words ALREADY assume more than I said.</p>
<p>I really don’t get the issue. If I’m totally unable to find a career (assuming I want a standard career at all) that permits me to live a particular lifestyle, I will have to change. Problem solved. If I am able to find a career that does, then I will be even happier. What’s the problem? The issue resolves itself. Arguing on a factual basis with no evidence here is useless – I will learn the truth quickly enough.</p>
<p>Here’s what I don’t understand. I know that this is a college forum, but I would still think that people would put personal values above career development. I understand many here do not share those values, but just imagine, if your child had values that defined him or her, wouldn’t you tell them that those are more important than career development?</p>
<p>My point is, a lot of people here are lucky enough to not have to choose between starving and working one particular job. I, at least, can tell you that I wouldn’t work a job that required constant one on one interraction with male clients (and, by the way, I do have a job, and it doesn’t require anything like that). I am of the opinion that being true to yourself is a whole lot more important than how far you get in your career, how much money you make, or whether or not you get that promotion. That’s what success is defined by, not by your job.</p>
<p>Poor OP. She wanted advice on handling a specific situation with her 16 year old daughter, and she got 23 pages of people debating values systems and now its on to how to handle workplace situations?</p>
<p>I hope somewhere in here someone actually wrote something that had to do with her very valid question about a very common but difficult parenting situation. Maybe back in the first few pages… hopefully…</p>
<p>Meanwhile in 10 years if her daughter has to work at night in an abandoned building with a male co-worker she’s all set. Geesh.</p>
<p>in my experience parenting sons and a daughter, the best approach is simply talking openly with your daughter about your concerns, your values and what you hope for her, in a non punitive, loving manner. ie. I hope you wait to become sexually active until you are a bit older and more able to deal with all that accompanies it… keeping the relationship in a place where continued talks happen will most likely lead to your daughter really hearing you, and respecting your perspective. which will not mean she will do exactly as you want, but will influence her choices to some extent. and most importantly, keep you as a trusted mom/confidante on these kind of issues as she grows. I am very proud that my d (1st yr in college) still talks with me about these issues and it is special to share the emerging adult to adult relationship…</p>
<p>red963, I already explained the potential problems in my previous posts.</p>
<p>And I am not going to hide behind “deal with it”. I believe in living life according to your beliefs, not according to what the job market requires. “Deal with it” is just an excuse to go the easy way,and this doesn’t go for just my beliefs. I think everyone has beliefs that will be challenged in the work place, and it’s up to you to stand by your own.</p>
<p>You’re making too many assumptions framing it that way – for some, it’s just a religious or personal regulation, a blanket prohibition. In that case, it’s not that they are afraid of anything, it’s that they believe in a particular religion.</p>