<p>My step son attends a very good college and this year had been waitlisted to get into some new dorms which in Oct. he got into. He ended up being in a quad with 6 other boys, all of whom are either on the football or baseball team and all the stereotype to a tee. My stepson is a great kid, low key a musician, likes tennis, not a major die hard sports fan but enjoys them…not tough or rough, the surprising thing is that he ended up getting along with this kids very well despite how different they are.
Soon into this situation, he started being a part of their many many parties, all of which involved getting plastered to the point of being very rowdy,etc…this is not my stepsons thing. He would have a drink or two but doesn’t’ enjoy getting actually drunk…these kids try to outdrink themselves. The thing is my stepson has many very good processions, a very expensive laptop, nice clothes, a very expensive guitar and bass, amp,etc…these kids think nothing about going into his closet borrowing shirts, taking his new socks, their mentality is whatever each of them has is to be shared amongst everyone. On one hand that is very sweet but on the other it allows no one to have something and keep it for themselves.
So…recently my stepson went to visit his girlfriend at another college, came back to find the door broken off the dorm room entrance, beer, throw up, food everywhere, all over his bed and all the others. All the posters ripped off the walls, sticky residue all over his laptop, beer cans and garbage everywhere, you get the picture. He was beside himself and I can totally understand. He called upset and said he has no respect for these “animals”
and while I do know kids in college drinking and having parties is normal, they seem to take it to an extreme every weekend. Three of the 6 kids are already on probation having gotten caught with alcohol a few times before, you would think they are asking to be thrown out. His roommate does this for the acceptance and attention and told my stepson that he would “do his best to clean everything up” as my stepson refuses to touch a thing even though he is disgusted that his dorm has turned into a pigpen.</p>
<p>He says he is calling the housing dept. on Monday and wants to move out, which we fully support. I feel however like our hands are tied, the first thing we wanted to do was to get on the phone with someone and demand how and why this is permitted to go on. Apparently everyone knows this is the biggest drinking, hardest partying rowdiest group on campus. One of the boys was so drunk he was going around punching and trying to hurt everyone, then broke the door off and ripped the posters off the wall, some of which are my stepsons. We are just LIVID and furious, and really could use some advice from you seasoned veterans out there. This is our first child to go to college and thus far things have been pretty good, having him move out is not good enough for me at this point, I want these kids to pay for what they have done, to pay my son for anything of his that they have taken/ruined.</p>
<p>Am I being fair and reasonable? Do you have any suggestions to go about this? I was thinking of calling anonymously. Let me know your thoughts…we are just so upset about this and feel like we need to have a satisfactory resolution. Thank you.</p>