<p>fendrock, it might also be that the coaches don’t want to have the parents of the kids who didn’t make the A team *****ing in front of the parents of the kids who did, or worse, God forbid, banging on their door and insisting the coaches explain themselves. This has been known to happen where I live. The parents tend to be the problems, not the kids ;)</p>
<p>We had to stop posting names for band rosters on line. Some parents complained that they don’t want their kid’s name posted anywhere a stranger might get access to it. I suspect someone objected to the public posting more for that reason. You never know what someone is going to do with your name these days.</p>
<p>ag54, I should have been more clear in my post – “team” is the term used for students who share the same academic teachers, so every student is on a team and it has nothing to do with athletics.</p>
<p>An op-ed on the topic this morning. </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.boston.com/news/globe/editorial_opinion/oped/articles/2006/06/30/friendless_in_america/[/url]”>http://www.boston.com/news/globe/editorial_opinion/oped/articles/2006/06/30/friendless_in_america/</a></p>
<p>Thanks for the link, -Allmusic-</p>
<p>I do think the use of cell phones can be alienating.</p>
<p>Has anyone else experienced parents who call their kids on the cell phone from the driveway when coming to pick them up from your house? No need to come to the door and actually MEET the people who have been hosting your offspring for the afternoon.</p>
<p>It’s very interesting. I think college life, or at least my college life, has encouraged the development of community and friendships, especially because many of the alums who work in the area retain social ties with the kids who live on their old halls and such. When I had my 21st birthday bar crawl (right after finals finished this past term!), I went with a group of nine friends who ranged in age from 21 to 35. And then we walked back to one of these friends’ houses, where he lives with a couple more of my alum friends, and they cooked us pancakes. Because I got to choose my dorm and hall, I live among mostly friends as well.</p>
<p>But then, once you graduate from college, unless you’re working in the area, you’re expected to go away and leave your friends behind. Like someone said earlier, transience isn’t conducive to friendship. It’s the aspect of grad school that I’m least looking forward to…I never had a large number of people I really cared about before. :(</p>
<p>jessiehl, that is wonderful that you have formed such strong bonds in school. Like emeraldkity said, even though she may only talk to her friends that are far from her rarely, when they see each other it is as if they had never been apart. It will be that way with your friends too. And, because you have had this experience, perhaps whenever you settle down, you will be able to reach out and form new wonderful relationships! You have learned the art of friendship :)</p>
<p>fendrock: That’s bad enough. But I really hate it when the kid gets the call, doesn’t tell me, leaves the party or whatever and I didn’t realize he got picked up. To me, I’ve got a guest that just disappeared. This was when they were a little younger of course, but a “goodbye, gotta go” would have been nice.</p>