I think one of the things that is being left out of the conversation is that we don’t know whether he grieved … or not. Some people are assuming he did not grieve enough because they feel as though he has moved on with his life too quickly. I’m assuming he did grieve based on this statement in the article:
“Two things helped him reach this point in life, Borinstein said: the strict but supportive environment at VMI and his faith in God.”
I’m interpreting the “supportive environment at VMI” to mean that his fellow cadets helped him grieve … and to move on … and “his faith in God” gave him some type of extra security to deal with the deaths. Others obviously have a different view.
Again, grief is very personal. Some people grieve in a very public way while others turn inward to their faith in God (or some other supernatural power they choose to believe in). Faith is a very powerful thing, something that science hasn’t been able to explain. Neither way is right or wrong, but as long as they are grieving in the way that is best for them, we don’t need to judge them.