Well said.
With that in mind, I somewhat agree with the comments about inspiration porn. How many times have you read in an obituary “She faced her cancer with grace and courage. She never once complained. She only showed concern for others, never once for herself. She was a saint.” That’s all fine and good. But it’s not the only acceptable way to deal with one’s imminent death and physical suffering.
If I ever get untimely, painful, terminal cancer, I will try not to be a total shrew, but you will NOT be able to say I never once complained and only thought of others and gave no thought to my own predicament.