Not inviting family to graduation

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Dear lord, who want to attend extra graduations, unless the speaker is extraordinary?!? I’m thankful when were are just invited to a simple reception after. :D/

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I believe we’ve worked it out. We spoke to our son, his dad mentioned them wanting to come and him saying not to - son said “good, thank you”. Instead when we all get home we all agreed to go out to dinner to celebrate with the whole family. Everyone was happy with that.

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@eyemamom

Good compromise. Enjoy the graduation!

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Good compromise. I really hope, however, that your nephew gets the help he needs. Sad situation.

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I was bored as heck at my own graduation! Not sure why someone would insist on attending somebody else’s graduation.

If I was given the option of attending a graduation or a congratulatory lunch/dinner, I’d go for the after-event every time.

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I can’t image anyone but parents, a spouse, possibly some siblings or grandparents, wanting to attend a graduation–unless they have lifelong super-close/influential relationship with the graduate. Just crowded and boring. (I’m also from a big family. There are several graduations every year–can’t even keep track of them. No one cares. Some even skip their own graduations.) 
Make it about your son and what he wants. "That’s so nice of you to think of S, but we only have 5 tickets. " (Whether or not there is a limit, you are only ordering 5 :wink: ) I don’t know how long it has been since you’ve seen the nephew, but I recently had a dreaded visit from H’s nephew who had always had behavior problems. I did not want him in my home, but he was passing thru with a friend and needed a place to stay. H couldn’t say no to his sister (though he wasn’t home during the visit.) All my worries were for nothing --the kid had done a 180 since the last time (age 16 to 18) I’d seen him. Truly a miraculous change. Wishing the same for your nephew! ( I realize he is much younger.) I hope it works out–even if they somehow manage to force their way in. We have a similar issue now --not wanting to invite another disruptive relative to our son’s wedding.