This is my first year at university and it’s safe to say I hate it. I didnt get into my first choice uni so Ive been depressed over that and I could go to the more prettier and social one but my parents did not let me go, so i was forced to go to the one university I did want to go to. (Word of advice: please choose the uni you want to actually go to). I was thinking about transferring somewhere else, but thats easier said than done.
Everyone is telling me to keep a positive mindset but it is so hard. I go to Simon Fraser University in Burnaby and for those of you who dont know it… this place is the most antisocial place ive seen. There arent even any parties in dorms or upper year rooms and people dont talk. This campus is small (15 min walk and youve seen the entire campus) and it’s covered in concrete and on top of a mountain which is so depressing because this place was designed by a prison architect and it’s isolated. This place is 90% commuters (people who just want to get off campus and go back home as soon as they can and don’t make any effort to make any friends on campus or chill with them). The few people in dorms are just antisocial in general.
I live in res and the people on my floor don’t talk to each other, you would be lucky if anyone even says hi back. I haven’t been able to make any friends, well close ones really and I know that takes time. It always does. I hang out with a group of people but I feel like i don’t fit in with them and they don’t ever wanna go off this mountain to explore or anything. I know homesickness might factor into it but how long does homesickness last especially if you have your university (yeah i’ve been going home every weekend because there is nothing to do here and nowhere to explore and I get depressed if i stay here).
Clubs and societies are inactive as hell and never host anything or have meetings. I really tried being social and friendly my first month and i still continue to try but I don’t know how much I can take. People at other universities are having the time of their life and I feel very sad about that. I don’t want to commute from home either because my situation at home is not good so I am just kind of stuck. I do have a lot of uni work but it’s hard to focus when Im sad. Counselling waitlist is 3 weeks long so thats not much of an option. It’s only first semester and 2 months in and I’m depressed.
For those of you who need to choose between Simon Fraser University and another university… choose the other one!