I’m going to take a stab at this, but it’s really not going to be helpful unless you are willing to say the names of the schools or I magically happen to pick the random two schools that match you situation.
So, let’s compare Horace Mann with, say, St. George.
- You will be paying $120,000 for high school, as opposed to minimal for St. George’s
- You say you kid is a kind person. Horace Mann, while it has kind people, is known as a competitive school and stressful.
- Your kid will need to commute to HM, which is probably 45min assuming you’re in UWS/UES; factor in an hour if you are downtown or in NJ.
- It sounds like the BS thinks your kid will be a ringer; she’ll probably not be tippy top at HM (which is fine, but will make college apps harder).
- she will probably meet a wider diversity of kids at SGS. She will meet kids from overseas and from all over the US.
- She will become a lot more independent bc she will have to deal with her own laundry, etc.
- She may be able to pick up some new sports at SGS, or at least be exposed to them, like sailing.
Good luck with your decision and congratulations on your scholarship