I can only assume there must be steaming hot chemistry and nothing and nobody is going to stop that runaway train. The heart wants what the heart wants?!
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Seems that way.
Mil’s neighborhood is the type where homes all have garages in the back with rear alleys to them for access. Friend L lives four or five houses down from mil. Bob and mil left the restaurant from the Thursday night neighborhood birthday bash shortly before she did. When Friend L drove past mil’s garage (garage door still open) they were outside her back door in between their cars completely lip/locked with hands all over each other 
Friend L said it took every fiber of her being not to throw her car in reverse, go back, and holler, “Are y’all locked out???” 
Apparently, they couldn’t even wait to get inside her house.
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They won’t be the first couple to marry based on sexual attraction.
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Not surprised.
Bob sounds like an overbearing butthole.
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Well….they met in high school but then had zero contact for over 50 years. Is that right @Hoggirl
MIL is uprooting herself, and I hope this works out for her. Wife number….five.
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Didn’t work out so well for #5 Catherine Howard (beheaded).
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Here is a thought. @Hoggirl if things go well, you will be there for your MIL (as will your DH). And if things go south, you will be there, and will provide her the support she might need.
She is lucky to have family that cares.
I hope she finds happiness, and Bob doesn’t die soon, and she is able to create a new life for herself in the CCRC.
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I do wonder how long she will hold onto her house.
The plan seems to be that she will buy into the CCRC but hold onto the house so they can come to her town to see her friends. We are wondering if the CCRC has contacted Bob about the frequency of mil’s visits. No idea what the rules are on that.
As I wrote above, it’s unclear how long she’ll keep the house. My fear is that once Bob gets her to marry him and move into the CCRC, his willingness to drive her back to her current town will quickly diminish. She won’t drive it by herself.
Just seems tough with two ex-wives living there.
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You have to wonder how those two ex-wives are dealing with each other. Maybe it’s fine…
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They are #s 1 and 4. #1 (mother of their children) is remarried and moved into the CCRC with her current husband. I mean, I don’t know, but I’m guessing it’s not a big deal 
Not sure how long #1 and now husband have been there. Most recent #4 has lived there nine years or so?? Moved into as a widow and then Bob pounced.
Did she and her current husband move into the CCRC AFTER Bob? If so…really no big deal.
Maybe they’ll have a trauma bond.
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Okay, this begs the question “Does everyone in Arkansas know each other? Is there only one CCR?”
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I am kind of assuming so. Bob has lived there 24/25 years?? Maybe 27 years. Wife #3 (with whom he bought in) was three or four years older than he.
Ha ha. No, there is more than one. But, the entire state is somewhat like one large-ish small town.
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And why should they wait?
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They certainly don’t have to. I’m not sure why anyone would make out in their garage with the door up when you could just go inside the house. They were standing right by the back door. He’s not kissing her goodnight. He’s going in for more robust activities. People drive down those alleys, walk their dogs, etc.
Just kinda makes me think of when you see a couple all over each other in a public place and someone yells, “Get a room.” But, her garage is not a public place, and if she wants her neighbors to potentially see that, that’s her choice. I find it tacky.
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Well, I hope that MIL makes choices that make her happy and work well for her. It’s great that at least she isn’t going to sell her house immediately (as it will take time for her to get her stuff out of it so it can be shown and sold anyway). Best of luck to everyone in helping MIL make choices that will work well for her.
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OK, so she is keeping her house for a bit even after she moves in with Bob.
I have a question and for all I know, it was addressed at some point within these 1,000 posts, LOL. Can’t she just move in with Bob for a while before legally getting married? I mean young couples do this all the time. My kids did before they got married. Or is this not permitted at the CCRC place?
From the get go, I saw nothing inherently wrong with her possibly having a relationship with this man if it makes her happy. But she is rushing into marriage. I guess marriages don’t always work out, so there’s that. And she is keeping her house for a bit. But couldn’t she do all that and just live with Bob before going to the altar? How can she be sure she’ll be happy living together or even happy living at the CCRC?
Also, this particular man seems very eager to snag a wife right after each time he loses one.
I still maintain that chatting with MIL and inquiring why she wants to rush or why she is hesitant to give it a bit more time would be enlightening. That takes the issue of Bob personally out of it and just a general gist of the benefits of waiting or rushing no matter who the man is.
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Bob seems to like being married, so much that he was looking for wife #5 (MIL) while still married to #4. Seems like MIL may not want him looking elsewhere.
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