<p>But since then I hadn’t used it at all until one of my instructors recently required it for a class since he found it easier to post related pictures there instead of on the college affilated web page.
But still- it seemed really weird & while I knew my kids had used it- I also felt like it was TMI.
:eek:
but trying to find another way to procrastinate- and finding that some people I knew had found me- I started adding and looking for things & am finding it sort of fun.</p>
<p>But I think my kids might be freaked if I made them add me.</p>
<p>I did look for both of them & while I found one- I can’t access any of her stuff other than to see who her friends are ( that is how I knew it was her- since I recognized her friends)
and I admit I did send a request- which she refused/ignored.
A friend of * mine* did join facebook after I told her , her teen daughter belonged, which she didn’t know- but she really doesn’t know much about it either. ;)</p>
<p>I’ve been on myspace since son started and then got a facebook page awhile back. Mostly I talk with friends and family members there that I don’t see very often. But I do keep an eye on my kids too ;)</p>
<p>I am on facebook but my son did not accept my request to be a friend! He said, “It’s too weird.” </p>
<p>Like 3drummersathome, I have friends who are friends with my son on facebook and who keep with his myspace page. He knows that but I don’t remind him of it. I want him to be able to feel like he’s got that privacy as all he really used them for is having fun. </p>
<p>I am enjoying facebook a lot. When I left home for college, I gradually lost touch with everyone I want to high school with. I got an invitation for our 20th reunion (how did they find my address?!) but could not attend. Out of curiosity I put up a facebook page with my maiden name only. Within two weeks I had found a few classmates and a few had found me. It’s been nice to reconnect. I’m glad I did it.</p>
<p>I do not be-friend my kids’ friends or my kids. I have also told my kids not to accept any adults as friends. My D1 accidentally accepted someone we knew, her sorority picture (all young girls) ended up on his online photo album, which I saw when he shared his album with me (the picture was randomly there with his vacation pictures). I do like FB to share with my own friends.</p>
<p>I joined FB months ago just to see what it was all about, but I was overwhelmed - way TMI for me. Never gave it another thought until a couple of weeks ago when my grad school roommate and my D (!!) sent friend requests. For Hanukkah, one of my D’s gave me Facebook tutoring sessions :)</p>
<p>My older daughter supposedly is on facebook, but when I looked for her, I couldn’t find her.
She does assure me, that she checks on her sisters page and that she doesn’t post anything sketchy.</p>
<p>I have classmates that are my kids age- but I don’t think I want my kids posting on my page anyway- however I will maybe show them that I have a blog too! ( not that I ever update it) I figure it could be good for networking- maybe I will find a job that pays money! :)</p>
<p>Mrs. Wharfrat2 and I both have facebook pages. Both of us have friended our kids but at their request not ours. I’m also friends with several former students (all of whom have graduated college) and numerous extended family members. We do not friend our kids’ friends though, our kids said that would be “too weird.”</p>
<p>I actually became a Facebook member at the request of my children, because they said it let me find out what they were doing without it being a big deal. I used to check it about once a week. Some friends of mine asked me to “friend” them. No problem.</p>
<p>Then my worst enemy from high school (keep in mind I graduated in 1972) asked me to “friend” her. So I took down my profile and left Facebook because just the thought of her knowing what I was doing, or being able to email me, made me queasy. So now I’m not on Facebook any more.</p>
<p>And EK4, your older daughter’s profile is just fine. She’s a friend of my D’s.</p>
<p>I sort of have one…no pictures and I do not attempt to contact my kids at all. They never said so in so many words, but I have heard them mention that they do not want to friend my sister or older cousins.
I don’t want to crash their party, so to speak…one of my daughters feels sort of stalked by my husband’s ex-wife ( for good reason too )
I went on to see some old friends from where I grew up that my sister has been communicating with, but that is the extent of interest.
So…no pictures of me standing near a keg with a red cup to muddy my reputation !!</p>
<p>I actually became a Facebook member at the request of my children, because they said it let me find out what they were doing without it being a big deal. I used to check it about once a week. Some friends of mine asked me to “friend” them. No problem.</p>
<p>Then my worst enemy from high school (keep in mind I graduated in 1972) asked me to “friend” her. So I took down my profile and left Facebook because just the thought of her knowing what I was doing, or being able to email me, made me queasy. So now I’m not on Facebook any more.</p>
<p>And EK4, your older daughter’s profile is just fine. She’s a friend of my D’s.</p>
<p>I resisted for a long time because I felt it was for kids and since mine are adults and I have no reason to know what they’re up to daily, I didn’t join when others suggested it. But I finally gave in when I got a request from a friend overseas. Since then, I’ve friended only adult relatives and friends far away. Except that a few nieces and nephews have requested that I friend them and I felt too rude not to. None of my own children have though.</p>
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There is some way that people on facebook can be invisible to you. Your daughter may have done that. I know this for a fact because my cousin, who is much younger than I am, is friends with one of my nieces, although I cannnot even see the niece’s name as a friend on my cousin’s list. When my cousin checked, my niece was in fact, still on her list.</p>
<p>And EK4, your older daughter’s profile is just fine. She’s a friend of my D’s.</p>
<p>I don’t worry about my older D,( but thanks, that is good to know) I worry about my * younger* one, mostly because of her age, not her personality.
I know she is a good kid- but I still haven’t talked to her about the half full bottle of beer I found in her closet when I was looking for a shirt to wear. ( I dumped it out- but then put the bottle back!) </p>
<p>o I took down my profile and left Facebook because just the thought of her knowing what I was doing, or being able to email me, made me queasy.</p>
<p>eeew.
I think you can block people though- can’t you refuse anything from people who aren’t on your address book?</p>
<p>A friend wants me to show her the ropes- I suppose I should have one of my 22 year friends give both of us a lesson.
:o</p>
<p>I’ve been on facebook for a couple of years and I love it. D friended me but WildChild will not. Nephew did, niece will not. In the last few months, many of my friends, neighbors and coworkers have joined. It’s a lot of fun and provides an easy way to update each other and reconnect with people. The picture sharing is great. too.</p>
<p>Interestingly, we recently had a little family drama which was revealed by facebook. D, her husband and I found out we had gotten on my son-in-law’s sister’s sh…list by the fact that she unfriended all 3 of us on facebook! Oh the pain! It’s a different world today. There was recent article in the WSJ about “friending” and “unfriending” and the implications thereof.</p>
<p>I have a facebook account, because I went to a training and the alumni started a facebook page to try to keep in touch. I have not friended my sons, or anyone else. One of my students wanted to “friend” me :eek: and I ignored the message.</p>
<p>I recently joined facebook at the request of high school classmate. A reunion is in the works and the people in charge thought posting on Facebook might be easier than emailing 200+ people. I have enjoyed seeing pictures of my nieces and nephew’s children as they are all on Facebook. </p>
<p>My kids do not want me to friend them and I like it that way. I can see their friends on their list but can not see their profiles. At first my daughter thought it was creepy for me to be on Facebook, but now that I have a valid reason, she is ok with it.</p>
<p>EK–yes, there are options for “ignoring” people who want to friend you, and of course I got some satisfaction out of ignoring her officially, but it made me think about the wider ramifications of being on Facebook and that was the end of that. I guess I prefer not to be quite so public. (For years, in fact, I didn’t allow my husband to use my last name on his web site–it’s different than his–as a way of guarding my privacy.)</p>
<p>Re: privacy concerns.
I have a friend who is hyper-concerned about his privacy. Turns out his church’s newsletter is available online and if you google his name you get ALL his contact information, including email address and picture!
I have stopped worrying too much about it.</p>
<p>dmd77 - you could actually just block a group of people where they couldn’t find you or see you, but everyone else could. You could also only let your friends see your profile picture, so if your long lost friend should find you on FB he/she wouldn’t know for sure if it’s you. There are a lot of privacy settings you could config to protect your privacy.</p>
<p>I went on Facebook recently since it is starting to be where professional people are looking. Since I am a consultant, my name would come up more often on a search with a Facebook page. But I use LinkedIn more for professional contacts. I would not friend my kids and my siblings aren’t using Facebook yet so no real family networking. I may suggest it though. It would be easier to exchange pictures and news.</p>
<p>My children talked me and dh into getting on Facebook, “all your friends are there!” They then requested us to friend them. We must have a really open social circle here because my children and most of their friends have adults and kids both in our circle as their friends. Kids post on parent’s pages (their own and their friends) and vice versa and no one seems to get up tight about it.</p>
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