<p>Wow. i only read some of this saga, although I do remember reading the initial post the day it was posted. Good luck op! This all sounds like so much drama and a hassle. Makes me even happier that I live alone and do not ever need to consult with someone else or factor his opinion on the matter. I can fold laundry how I want, clean how I want, decorate, cook what I want or not cook, throw stuff on the floor or keep it spotless. I don’t see the appeal in it any other way. Good luck op in the rest of your journey!</p>
<p>“Regarding Redroses being correct…I wasn’t ready to move on - heck I am still living with him! I made many attempts to offere solutions, I was not ready. I WAS ready to start being a little more about my needs though, which is really helping me get through this. I think also, from now on, I will be more attentive to ‘me’.”</p>
<p>I don’t think being ready to move on means move to another person. In this case, it sounds like you are ready to move on to start taking care of yourself, putting yourself first, instead of continuing to try to turn the other cheek and suffer through it. To realize that it’s time to let this one go, and do what is right for you for a change.</p>
<p>thanks everyone…I am lining up good advisors. He is being surprisingly cooperative, but I want to make sure I get the correct value for my share in the real estate LLC, or at least close to it. I am having it professionally evaluated. He has given me a dollar figure, which sounds OK, but I am not sure. </p>
<p>As for the house…I am planning very carefully regarding where I will live and how much (if any) mortgage I will take on. Though I love the idea of a small bungalow and a garden, I might end up in a nice brick townhouse. I can’t be a slave to a big yard, a high maint exterior, or a mortgage. Our current house is exactly the opposite of what I want. I can actually afford it, but it’s on the higher end of what I can afford and it’s much more maint, which I must avoid.</p>
<p>Busdriver, you are completely correct. I was ready, at that time, to begin to do right by myself. I need to continue to be that way, in all aspects of my life.</p>