I’ve never heard of anything like an anonymous reporting system at any of the schools that my kids have attended (day or boarding). Sounds horrifying and I don’t understand its purpose. Nor have my kids found their peers to be cutthroat or competitive with each other. Though certainly they’ve had some very driven classmates, it struck me more that those ambitious kids were focused on stretching themselves to do their best not to beat their peers. My kids haven’t experienced a zero-sum mindset about the college process or about succeeding in school in general. My sense is that some public and private day schools can be just as cutthroat as boarding schools. The nice thing about independent schools for students who are privileged enough to attend is that parents can try to find one with a culture that matches their family’s values. I imagine that is true for families who live where there is public school choice or the ability to choose from different types of charter school communities as well, but my guess is that the range of choices is usually more limited.
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