Not all alcohol abuse is alcoholism. Plenty of people abuse alcohol in college or during short periods of time, but then move on. So it’s a red flag, but not a definitive diagnostic tool.
And I agree that the text is a very good sign. It lightened my heart to read about it. It’s hard when your daughter is hurting, but that looked like a sign that she at least is ready to start healing.
" Maybe I missed something in all these posts but I just do not understand the underlying reason for the rift. "
@HarvestMoon1
I am trying to figure out the underlying cause of the rift myself
" It could be that the OP knows exactly what caused the rift and doesn’t want to share the details with a forum of strangers. "
@beebee3
Nope, am not that calculated in my motive. I posted honestly with the hope of shared ideas from the good folks here at CC, who may or may not have experiences similar to mine. This was the most intimate and difficult topic thread I have ever started in my 10 years of being a member
I have been reading through every post , and I can honestly say that I have given a lot of thought to the advice / responses.
I appreciate the input very much
@lje62 From everything you’ve described, I think the underlying cause is that your daughter called off the wedding, you gave her a hard time for it and now she’s upset. Thoughts?