<p>I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband and the girls’ dad. It is heartbreaking even though you knew it was coming. I am glad that your D got to come home to be with her dad at that time and that all relatives got to spend time together at the end. I think your husband did wait for that. I’m glad you were able to work things out for D at her college and I am sorry for the hassles involved at this time. I’m glad you are all together this week at such a sensitive time of healing. It will take a while. I hope you have support for yourself. You seem like a wonderful mother and caring about your girls but you have your own loss to contend with. I send my sympathy and wishes for healing at this difficult time.</p>
<p>I am so sorry for your loss, but glad that your daughter in college was able to see her dad shortly before he died and to achieve closure. And though I’m from Boston, I hope your husband enjoyed seeing the Giants win. It’s good that your daughter will be able to come home every other weekend or so. It will give you both a chance to help each other and your younger daughter go through the grieving and healing process together. My thoughts are with you and your family.</p>
<p>UCD. I am so, so sorry.</p>
<p>So glad he was able to be home, and complete the circle, and very glad your college D got to spend that last lucid time with him. Those are true gifts. </p>
<p>I’m so very, very sorry for your loss. Your story has affected your CC circle, the silent and the not-so, quite deeply, and though we can’t offer real hugs or cook for you or drive your younger one around, please know that we <em>do</em> care.</p>
<p>Please accept my deepest condolences and prayers for you and your girls. I am grateful you were able to keep us in your loop. </p>
<p>Peace to you all.</p>
<p>I am glad that you are getting support in this difficult time.
Thats quite a story - with the super bowl . interesting.</p>
<p>His family mourning was very hard on our younger daughter
Different mourning styles can be very hard to take-</p>
<p>I remember when my father suddenly died in his early 40’s, when I was 17- and old ladies with hairs growing out of their moles were coming up to me at the memorial service just wailing and grabbing onto me.
I had no frigging clue who they even were- I had to hightail it out of there ( I actually walked out and walked home- because I didn’t want to be around people)</p>
<p>I didn’t really process my dads death for a long time- I think it is a protective mechanism. Your kids are lucky that you are so thoughtful and are taking into account what they need.I hope you are taking care of yourself too.</p>
<p>a hug to you.</p>
<p>I’m very sorry for your loss but I’m very glad that your daughter got the vital closure that she needed.</p>
<p>Wow…reading the first page of this thread…and then page 5… shows how very quickly life changes…the take away for me is that your daughter, the one you were worried about, was able to make the best decision for herself and her dad… and I like to think that a higher power was watching over all of you. What a wonderful sense of closure you have… and so does your daughter. Humans love to find peace of mind somewhere, somehow…and you have that. Thank you for letting your cyber peers know about your life altering situation. It helps all of us…now and later… I like knowing your daughter’s relationship with her father ended on a high note… which is a gift for her and for him.</p>
<p>Bullet’s and my deepest condolences. I agree that sometimes people choose the time they leave this world. My Dad waited until Bullet got home (he was away for work purposes for 4 mos). Dad kept asking the week before he died almost daily when he would get home…I kept saying Dad, I told you he comes home on Saturday. Bullet arrived home on Saturday and we went directly to my Dad’s house. We had lunch, laughed and he “looked fine” (that happens with luekemia, they never wither) Dad went semi-comatose on Sunday, comatose Monday and died Tuesday. We also found out after his death he went out to lunch with long time friends for the 1st in over 6 months on the Wednesday before he died.</p>
<p>Why do I tell you this? I do it because it gave us peace at a horrible time that he made peace with his situation and his impending death. It sounds strange, but it is easier to let go and start remembering the laughter instead of the pain when you know they were okay with the hand that was dealt.</p>
<p>It will take time, that I know as a daughter, and there will many important days that will occur in your children’s lives that they will shed tears, but I hope that there will be more days talking of how Dad made them laugh…</p>
<p>Our very best wishes, thought and prayers are with you. Please remember to come back to the forum and share with us whenever you need to talk…we will be here</p>
<p>I join all the others in sending my condolences. Best wishes to you and your daughters…after you get past the memorials, etc., just take each day at a time.</p>
<p>UCDAlum, I’m am so sorry you have lost your dear husband. It is a blessing that everyone was able to say goodye. Please take care of yourself, as you’ve been the rock for the whole family and will have difficult weeks ahead.</p>
<p>You have my best wishes and my prayers as well.</p>
<p>I am so deeply, incredibly sorry. I wish for you strength and peace.</p>
<p>My sincere sympathies on your family’s loss.</p>
<p>My deepest sympathy to your family. I’m sure you and your girls will continue to be a great source of comfort and strength to each other.</p>
<p>UCD,
I am so sorry for your family’s loss. I’m glad your had the chance to cxome home and spend some good times with her dad, and that his family was also able to get some closure. Please take care of yourself over the coming weeks. Love, prayers and strength to you and your Ds.</p>
<p>Hope the dean took that one professor to task about the exam.</p>
<p>Please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss. I am so happy that your older D was able to spend some quality time with her Dad. That will be a great source of strength and comfort for her. Let your IRL friends help as much as they can with the mundane day-to-day chores. They will be grateful for the opportunity.</p>
<p>UCD - I’m so glad you were able to resolve the issue that was tugging at your heart just a couple of weeks ago so that you could move through this without questions. My condolences are with you and your family as you move through this initial period of grief. </p>
<p>No matter who’s playing, I’m sure all future Super Bowls will have a special significance and meaning to you.</p>
<p>I also want to say that I am sorry to hear of your loss. It’s wonderful that your older D was able to have that final weekend with her dad. I have great respect for the strength and optimism you have shown; your younger D will take a lot of comfort from that. Best to you and yours.</p>
<p>My thoughts are with your family, UCD.</p>