They do make compression socks with zippers.
Wow, learn something every day!
MIL is 96. One day she will be okay & the next sheâs on deathâs doorstep. No rhyme or reason. She is being monitored by medical staff from her AL facility on a regular basis, and basically she is wearing out. Itâs hard to get used to, but itâs our new normal.
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My dad tried those once, but you have to have the strength to pull up the zipper, while holding the material to keep from zipping your skin!
I not sure it my aunt and I will survive my mother. She hasnât answered her phone since 5:00 when my aunt called, and she call a few other times. I do have the phone number of momâs friend in the building, so we called her to see if she had talked to mom; when I talked to mom earlier, she was not going down for dinner. Friend answered her cell-she and mom were at Friday night services after dinner! Mom of course did not have her cell, not that she hears it ring, and I knew it wasnât on as I had check Find my iPhone.
Friend handed mom her phone and mom was a chipper as every. We are going to have to set some ground rules for mom if she is going to act like she canât move and then gets dressed and goes down for the evening! My aunt lives the closes and she and my uncle were going over there at 8:30 if we hadnât heard from her by then. This is like having an irresponsible teenager again. 
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And in any chain pharmacy, you can buy compression knee-highs that are not so hard to pull upâno zippers. Iâve bought these from Amazon:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07NZBC24N/
several times. They are not so hard to pull up and do the job.
ETA: mom could put on ordinary knee-high sheers and pull on the compression ones over them, easy peasy.
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This is as good an argument as Iâve ever heard for a geriatrician! Going to multiple specialists, polypharmacy, each focusing on their own organ system can do more harm than good when treating older adults. Look up âde-prescribing.â Sometimes less is more!
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My mother in law was unable to put on compression socks until she got this:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00U9TWCXU/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_image?ie=UTF8&psc=1
It takes her 10 minutes, but she now wears them every day.
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Good for her. I know that before I had vein procedures to relieve inflammation, it felt so much better to have them on.
I finally bought regular knee socks for my mother. Better than nothing. She would take compression socks off, or try to, when I wasnât around. If they end up half way off and tight, they can cause harm.
My mom wears knee highs â you know, the old fashioned pantyhose kind. they always are rolled halfway down, tight around her leg, and I canât get anyone to care (not the siblings, not the pcp, certainly not mom) Drives me crazy but I am not fighting every battle. Her feet are a mess and I am fairly sure that none of her doctors have ever even looked at them.
Wish me luck.
Family zoom with siblings and spouses today to see if we can all get on the same page with regard to the necessary senior care plans.
Itâs been a rough week, but the plan seems to be coming together.
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The amazon write-up for this product states ânot for compression socksâ.
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How to Put on Compression Socks, the Easy Way â Sockwell.
how to put on compression socks with video
Iâm not going to tell her that!!!
It works for her. I believe an OT recommended it to us.
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YPCBYNBS Stocking Donner,Sock Aid for Putting on Compression Socks,Easy Grip Foam Handles,Just for Small-Medium Calves
This is what husband uses. Comes in two sizes
OK, the sibling meeting went well yesterday in terms of the issues we agreed upon.
BUT! We discovered significant overpayments to someone who had been helping them with the apartment rental business. That person (P1) has ingratiated herself and is telling them (we) kids donât love them and we have kept them apart. (Um â SMOM92 needed rehab, he didnât?) We found excessive checks to P1 in the last three months â and she has visited Dad and SMOM92 at their separate facilities and asked both to write her checks this week.
Brother just got POA in the last month, and the checking accounts were changed back in the fall, so he can only see the new/current accounts. There is MUCH LESS money in the accounts that someone with his real estate assets would be expected to have.
SMOM92: hates her rehab, refused transfer, has had the flu, now has laryngitis, only believes P1. SAYS SHE IS CHECKING HERSELF OUT AMA TOMORROW.
SMOM92: we do not know who her POA is. She signs her husbandâs name on a checking account she is legally on. She also signs his name on my deceased motherâs trust account.
SMOM92âs Will was done in 2013 by a lawyer who has since been disbarred. Itâs a crappy document with no reference to her post-nup and no contingent beneficiaries. She has a folder of notes with âcodicilsâ â that wonât be admitted in court because they were not properly witnessed, dated, and notarized. Oh, Iâm the backup executor on that one (after my father â who really canât do it). We have talked about re-doing her Will but she has given me only additional scraps of info. I have also asked if she would like someone from her family to be responsible â she doesnât want to bother them.
TWINS: I have reached out to her nieces throughout this month of hell. They have been very hands off. When I reach them last night about her AMA intentions, it was obvious that she has told them a very creative version of all of this. I asked them to try to convince her not to check herself out AMA.
BFF (neighbor and nurse) wrote a very strong email that sheâs no longer able to help â and she left town as an escape. Two reasons: SMOM92 is only listening to P1 and SMOM92 has been treating BFF like a servant.
P1 was never formally an employee. After she was notified that we hired someone new, P1 contacted tenants and told them not to comply with the transition (to the proper, legal, licensed management team). And she even billed for hours after her last day of employment.
Our lawyer sent a cease and desist to P1. She returned some materials to his office, with a significant attitude. P1âs Boyfriend, visited the lawyers office the next day and threatened him.
SMOM92 is twisting all stories. She blamed the rest of us for âpouncing on [BFFâs] freedom.â [BFF called at least three of us to tell us SMOM92âs requests were crushing her.)
The lawyer has been asked to enter an order of protection (restraining order, or whatever) to keep P1 away from the properties, business interests, and seniors.
The lawyer also put in writing that he feels P1 has lied to him in the past.
I have called SMOM92âs facility today to advise them she is planning to check herself out tomorrow. They have the BFF as her emergency contact! Good luck. Really I wanted to advise the facility so if there is something else they can do to prepare and prevent, they have the notice.
ME: somewhat exhausted after Hâs death in late January, then thrown into senior âmanagementâ accompanied by Covid 2/21. I have a short business trip to Europe this week. Itâs my great escape right now.
There are many layers to this onion. We certainly have senior citizen fraud/grooming by an unsavory P1. (I have had a couple of calls with friends I havenât seen in years who have said STAY AWAY from P1.)
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Does she have good foot care? âHer feet are a messâŠâ Is she ambulatory?
If she allows you to inspect her feet. If her circulation is fine and she has these pantyhose kind of knee highs off for bedtime, she should be OK.
Diabetics have to have a lot of caution with feet. Inspecting every day.
Replying with an update.
SMOM92 did not check herself out. We had quite a campaign of family and friends tell her she wasnât ready, was taking too great a risk, was putting the Medicare payments at risk, needed 24-hour care, could not get/afford that care at home.
On Sunday morning I advised one of the nurses of her plan to leave, and my brother cautioned the young woman (SMOM92âs house cleaner) who had been asked to drive her home of the unwise decision.
Yesterday was a nice stable day.
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Glad to hear crisis was averted for now.
When my mom was in rehab, her roommate checked herself out. AMA She had a lot of visitors tell her that it was a bad idea.
She said that when her parents were ailing that their children took care of them and by god, she deserved the same respect. I felt bad for the family.
The rehab facility was actually very nice. And the workers were so kind. The food wasnât great but thatâs to be expected.
Hope that there is some relief for this situation and some resolution.