@HImom if you keep on top of the sales place you may be able to get a tighter delivery schedule. Also check the night before and then ask when they meet in the morning to ‘coordinate’ the deliveries. I got my new dryer ‘moved up’ by Lowe’s- it was supposed to be first on the delivery schedule (which I asked for when I bought it and also in checking up on it) but didn’t get written down with the right person - so someone else got a delivery before me but then they came for me. It worked out. My house is also pretty convenient location to where the store is too, so no excuses.
Given your location, they can sort out how to get your delivery made early, and ‘the squeaky wheel gets the grease’. Explain that this is not for your home but your parents’ home and they are elderly and you have many care-taking responsibilities — you will almost assuredly get some sympathy.
By talking to them early enough, they can load your refrigerators to also have them delivered first.
My brother was able to get the delivery bumped up to this Saturday but NO time window, we someone (me) will get to hang out there all day until it comes. Otherwise they were scheduling 1/14!
We finally talked FIL into getting rid of functional but old refrigerator and freezer in the basement by reminding him how much electricity they use. He was always the one threatening to shut off the hot water if the kids took showers that lasted over 3 minutes, so saving money on electricity was a big selling point. The food inside was mostly old enough to start grade school. BIL even found someone to take the old equipment. I guess that guy doesn’t care how much electricity he uses.
Hope things are looking up for eyemamon, surgical recovery for elders can be such a roller coaster.
Posting here in the middle of the night. Today was the day they said would be the worst, hopefully that’s true. I know it’s just a few days post op but I feel bad to see her go through this. She is so frail? She almost reminds me of a little broken bird. She’s still in icu and today they may take out the chest tube. For a procedure that was supposed to be so easy for her age it doesn’t look so great. They already said she’d need to go to rehab, which we expected.
We’re still here and wishing the best for her. It’s major surgery and a wallop. Rehab can be so helpful, the attention of the experienced staff, their routines, the PT, which starts slowly. And conveniences like the hospital bed, etc. We found the staff was in good communication with the docs, when my mother needed, eg, a shift in her med timing. All so different than trying to manage at home. Hugs.
Eyemamon, your comment about frail “broken bird” reminded me of my 4’ 11" 100 lb mother, who was blown over by wind gusts two years ago resulting in severe pelvic fractures,
Seeing her in that hospital bed, so tiny, so pale- awful, and she lost 12 lbs before she was released 7 weeks later.
But, here to say, those little ones, can pull through, and what a difference even a day can make, when meds get changed. Hoping she is on upswing, and rehab is successful.
I hope this for you. If they say you’ve been through the worst of it, wishing you and mother in law better days ahead.
Ps when my mother had brain tumor ( benign meningioma ) removed in early 90’s dr said, to my sister and me- she won’t remember these days following surgery, but you will, and he was right! Take care of yourself, too.
Eyemamon, sorry this has been so difficult for you and your mom. Please know we’re thinking of you and hoping for an upward trajectory re: recovery. Will she be able to travel to a rehab near where one of you or your siblings live? Be sure to take care of yourself, best advice we received after my dad’s stroke.
Sometimes the frail looking ladies are the most resilient, so hoping for the best for your mom and family @eyemamom . A very tough way to start 2016 and remember the Holiday Season…
MIL/FIL were rough looking. No way to know when the straw breaks the camel’s back so to speak.
Mom got moved to her regular room today. She’s so weak. This morning she looked much better with color on her face and seemingly nirmal. By 330 or 4 she started having trouble breathing, was getting confused again and is obviously exhausted. Tomorrow she gets an echocardiogram. She still has the catheter and with the lasix and how weak she is they won’t remove it. We were thinking when she was looking better she could be released to rehab. The fit I threw last year to get her moved was wonderful in many ways. Her place has a sub acute rehab floor where she’s been many times and everyone knows and loves her there. It’s right in her building so part of the rehab is taking her back to her apartment. But I’ll be honest, I’m still not sure that putting her through this was worth it, especially if she still has to take lasix.
@SOSConcern, be happy for every minute of free labor applied to cleaning out the junk in the basement, garage, attic, storage shed, etc. We’ll spend months cleaning out FIL’s one of these days, so if someone would rather do that than take him to the cardiologist, I’ll thank them and mean it.
Yep, my sister still goes pale when she talks about our mother in ICU after her valve replacement. Then we look at our mother 10 years down the road, knitting hats for the homeless, chasing her cats off the china cabinet, and relaxing with a glass of wine at the end of the day and think it was all worth it.
The problem is MIL/FIL have been losing so much freedom and having so much taken from them already. The problem is BIL/SIL come and want to do ‘something’ and before now have come up short on matching what MIL/FIL want done. But now MIL/FIL are so far gone (MIL can no longer safely go down basement steps) that we all can do stuff w/o them either being totally aware or getting upset about. Probably almost everything in the ‘deep freeze’ (basement freezer) can get pitched.
Our DD will call grandparents after we talk to BIL about valuation of the car. They won’t feel so bad about giving up driving if they have the car going to GD.
Things are falling apart here. They moved my mom to a regular room today. At 330 she started seeming disoriented again and started really panting. They gave her lasix. Around 530 she really got agitated had trouble breathing and then her eyes rolled back and she looked like she was having a seizure. I ran out yelling for the nurse and a team came running in. They said it wasn’t a seizure but that her heart rate dropped too low too fast. We were hustled out of the room and they intubated her, and put in a central line and brought her back to icu. We’ve been in the waiting room an hour now while they’re in the room. They did bring me in to see the monitor to show me her heart was beating. I rubbed her foot and told her we were right there. My sister and brother are on there way now.
FIL called today to report we need to prepare ourselves he is dying (not!)
Massive fluid retention and he wanted us to take notes so we can sue the doctor and AL as soon as he dies(not!)
Oh eyemamon, so sorry. Thoughts are with you and your siblings tonight. Hope your mom can be made comfortable so she can heal. She knows you are there.