I like the idea of a calendar. My dad won’t let me put anything on the walls because he is “moving out soon”. He seems to remember visitors, but although he has only been there a month he tells me he has been there “for years”.
FIL knows he has memory problems and now when he says some one has not visited and we correct him, he accepts it, but he still feels neglected in his heart.
He also refers to being there for years rather than months
I posted earlier about trying to simplify my dad’s medication as I saw not benefit in helping his heart with a rapidly failing memory. His doctor hasn’t been supportive. About 10 days ago, my father was so confused, I left his cholesterol medication out of his pill box. I’ll have to say, when I saw him on Saturday, and my husband yesterday, he was remarkably better. Still poor memory, but able to carry on a genuine back and forth conversation. Anecdotal reports that I find show those who report memory problems with cholesterol medications do improve pretty rapidly. Is the improvement just a good day? Did the Aricept kick in suddenly? or is it the cholesterol medication?
Anyway, getting ready to have another possible argument with his doc. But, if your demented elder is on a cholesterol medication, I see no reason to keep them on it.
@GTalum, my mom also improved with the removal of cholesterol meds. Her Dr. wouldn’t take her off, but hospice did and I won’t let him put her back on. I felt there was definitely an uptick, although it is gone again. She has been off for a year now.
Statins are for protection in the LONG TERM. what long term are these Dr.'s protecting?
So, my mom died (age 94) today of what sounds like complications of sepsis and probably an embolus. A very full life with quality of life not so good in the past year due to dementia. This all happened in 20 hours. She was living at an assisted living. I cannot say enough about her geriatrician who called me after seeing her in the ER at 4 am, then at midnight. And the funeral director who came and got her at 3 am. I happen to know the funeral director from my high school class. Pretty dedicated people. She died almost like she wanted to, in her sleep. Her dementia made her a dnr/ dni and no surgery. I am flying off tomorrow for the funeral. This may sound strange but I am thankful for the timing as I will not have to drive in the winter weather and my visit with D abroad will happen.
Condolences RMH, it’s a long road for all.
Condolences to you, rmh. Sorry for your loss and best with the next steps.
rmh, glad it was peaceful and that your medical team was compassionate to you and your mom. May your memories be a comfort and blessing.
I’m sorry, rockymtnhigh. Glad that you can look back to her long full life.
Condolences RMH. Certainly you may feel blessed with the timing.
So sorry for your loss, rmh.
I’m so sorry, @rockymtnhigh.
So sorry for your loss @rockymtnhigh .
I’m so sorry too, @rockymtnhigh. May her memory be a blessing.
I am so sorry for you loss, @rockymtnhigh. I hope it was a peaceful passing.
Sorry for your loss, RMH.
Condolences -peace to your family RMH
condolences, RMH.
@rockymtnhigh , That is one last gift to receive that she passed easily and did it when it wasn’t a complete disaster for your plans. Hugs because it is hard anyway.
And I am hoping for a similar end for my Mom’s long road home.
I am sorry for you loss, @rockymtnhigh. I hope memories of her will be a comfort.
@esobay – I’ll add my hope to yours.