<p>Speech, well, duh. :)</p>
<p>I know that’s good parenting; I was just trying to project the way our kids saw good parenting. They tend to have a different take on the issue…</p>
<p>How about ‘herding cats’ I’ve always liked that one.</p>
<p>My d is a freshman- her two friends who had parents who were the strictest have gone wild in college. these were parents who controlled when their kids could go somewhere and with who or who had unrealistic goals for these girls. Now they are far more wild than my d. We had rules, but we also trusted. We listen to their side and sometimes changed our minds. We also told them no plenty of times and do not give in to everything they want. For this, the older ones are both thankful for. They younger ones are still wanting everything- they’ll learn soon enough.</p>