<p>I agree with at least once a week to at least check in, but sometimes it ends up being much more depending on what is going on. Today, in fact, my daughter called me about about 8 times as she needed to make some important decisions regarding next fall.</p>
<p>Oh I love the girls at my ds’s school who post pictures on Facebook. It would never occur to him to post anything. He’s far away and it makes him seem a bit closer! (And I never comment on anything. That’s a quick way to get de-friended!)</p>
<p>We usually talk once a week and there’s text here and there when needed or we just feel like it. I let him initiate phone calls because then I know he has time to talk. He’s pretty funny because he’ll call when he’s procrastinating studying. I can tell because he lingers on the phone! If I call him it’s likely to be quick.</p>
<p>Once a week via phone is plenty - except for study abroad. My D started up a travel blog which was easier on all of us. No time change to work with, and it was a great place to post ideas and pictures at her convenience. I always recomend this now for study abroads.</p>
<p>(shuts down rotors)</p>
<p>10-20 texts a day with pictures from what she’s eating to what she’s working on at studio to funnies, one call a day usually when I drive home, and once a month we visit (3 hrs away). DD1 and I are friends on FB also.</p>
<p>It may be a lot but we’re a close knit family and we enjoy each other’s company.</p>
<p>Very similar to oldfort… D1 and I talked at least once a day (she was calling me 90% of the time). Chatterbox, used to telling mom all about her day, just couldn’t stop. 
Now that she is out of college and working, we probably talk a couple of times a week, and email every other day or so. Occasional Facebook chat. </p>
<p>D2 is more reclusive. I am hoping for a text a day when she goes away, but we will see…</p>
<p>Weekly would be nice. Knowing my kid, I may hear from him only when he gets himself into a Warren Zevon situation.</p>
<p>My D has asked if I’d like to friend her on Facebook. I decided this would be a bad idea, because I’d know every time she was going to a party late at night, and I’d worry. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. However, she is Facebook friends with my 87 year old mother, who occasionally updates me with thing I didn’t know. Proof of life is often money disappearing from the joint checking account or a credit card charge :)</p>
<p>Love the Warren Zevon comment!</p>
<p>I have daughters and while I don’t talk to them daily, at least a few times a week…even if it’s via text</p>
<p>I would like at least a once a week text or call. My fresh,an son really doesn’t do small-talk, and so far has only called when he had something “important” to discuss. I text him at least once a week. Sometimes he replies. I did send him an e-mail recently when his phone appeared to be off for a couple of days letting him know I would really appreciate he use the phone I pay $50 a month for to let me know he’s alive. I try to pick my battles. He does not use his phone much to talk to anyone. I think everyone he wants to talk to plays on-line games with him… But that’s for another thread.</p>
<p>Oh, I should mention too… we are also FB friends. We have been for a long time. I was on FB first, actually. I was wary of adding her to my FB because I want my privacy! But, we are FB friends now. I also follow her on Twitter, by her request. My son and I are FB friends but he wants his Twitter to be parent free, which is ok. She’ll tell me if he posts something I should know about because they follow each other. What is odd is when they are having a conversation via Twitter and I can only see her half of it.</p>
<p>She asked me once if I look at everything she spends money on through online banking. I told her I go in there once in a while when I’m transferring money in and usually glance at what the majority of expenses are going toward, but I don’t scroll through and analyze it carefully. Just enough to know most of it is going toward restaurants. We’re working on figuring out which meal plan she should get next year.</p>
<p>We never specified communication intervals, but have settled around; a couple or 3 text “exchanges” and a phone call per week between DW and I. Just spontaneous, nothing scheduled. The call can last a minute or an hour, depending on circumstances. And DD comes home for a weekend or an overnight about once a month.</p>
<p>Momof3 - I am FB friends with two of my D’s but not with the other one. I love her dearly, and we’re friends in real life - but I JUST DON’T WANT TO KNOW. Plus I don’t want her friends list having any level of access to any of my stuff. Universes must not collide.</p>
<p>every day via text. every other days via phone. every weekend via skype.
we will see.</p>
<p>Maybe it’s because I have sons and the oldest is going off to college in the fall. But I’ve already told him I would like him to call every 2 weeks. He’s not much of a talker on the phone and I just can’t see him texting me daily about his life. He’s only going to be a short distance away so I am assuming if he needs something he will call and let us know.</p>
<p>I want communication from my kids once a week. I’d be fine with a newsy e-mail, but I rarely get one. We agree on a general weekend time and call them. Older son was always forgetting to charge his phone, but we did hear from him at least once a month. We’d email him when he didn’t pick up and sometimes he’d respond to those emails. Younger son generally talks to us once a week. He’s dong a junior year abroad this year so if they have weekend trips he often doesn’t talk those weeks, on the other hand he seems to email pretty regularly with requests of one sort or other has he tries to organize applications for internships from a distance.</p>
<p>Only younger son does anything with facebook. He’s very savvy about letting us see only what he wants us to see.</p>
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<p>By the time college comes, I know very few students who still pull the high school wah-my-parents-can’t-know-what-I’m-doing thing. Unless they have very controlling parents.</p>
<p>My dad and I text a few times a week. Maybe talk on the phone once or twice. My mom and I can go weeks without talking. None of us are big on small talk and they know they’ll get news right away. As my roommate and SO are friends with my parents, they know that if I’m dead, they’ll find out pretty quick.</p>
<p>S1 - bi-weekly text followed by phone call (graduate school).
D1 - 2-3 phone calls per week to W (graduate school).
S2 - weekly phone call (service academy undergrad). Very little time.</p>
<p>Not friends on FB with any of the three. Occasional texts when something of interest is going on.</p>
<p>This is a big issue when the kid living at home goes off to college. I think we were typical. Son #1 ignored us, ignored our phone calls, blocked emails, I got so ticked off I almost cut him off financially. I don’t even remember how the problem was resolved. Now we talk to both boys at least once a week. They often call us to let us know what is going on in their lives. If we don’t hear from them after a few days (we have to ask ourselves, “Have you spoken to S1 or S2 in the past few days?” ) we call or text and usually reply pretty quick. </p>
<p>Then you forget that it ever was an “issue.”</p>
<p>Once a week for us, during either his UG years or his graduate school years.</p>
<p>We wish there are more phone calls or email exchanges. But we think it is better for us not to overdo it. He has his own life there (which is thousands of miles away from us) and we had better not “disturb” his daily life too much, I think.</p>
<p>A coworker once told me that the central problem for his family is that the topics he (as a parent) would like to talk about is not the topics his S/D would have any interests in it. I think he’s very honest when he said this.</p>