<p>my dad recently got a very high paying good job in china so now my parents want us all to move there. they also want me to attend college there. </p>
<p>i’m going to be a junior next year. i wanted to go to junior prom. i wanted to intern for my congressman. i wanted to go on our school’s senior trip to disneyworld. i wanted to go to senior prom. i wanted graduate standing next to my friends.<br>
i had serious plans for my future but now they’re all ruined. i wanted to go to boston college. i wanted to have the college experience i’ve always dreamed of. then i wanted to be a veterinarian in new york. </p>
<p>i don’t know chinese. i’m not familiar with the culture or anything. my friends won’t be there. i don’t know anything about university life there. </p>
<p>i feel like dying. seriously. you might think i’m overreacting but imagine if you were in my shoes. </p>
<p>limmering - When I was a kid we moved right before my sister’s senior year of high school and she was devastated to be leaving her friends. I’ve known of students who have stayed behind and lived with other families to graduate from the high school they started in. You are not alone in your feelings about this shake up in your life. And add to that - you’re talking about moving to China! Wow. It’s not like your friends can come visit or you can fly home for prom.</p>
<p>All of that being said though, this may be a really neat opportunity and adventure. Not everyone gets to experience another culture like that in their high school years. If anything, it will make you more interesting to colleges. And if you learn Chinese while you’re there - more power to you - that will make you a hot commodity in the coming years. In the meantime, while a move like that will rob you of some things you’ve been anticipating (prom, trip, etc), it will offer you other experiences. It’s not just a sacrifice - it’s a gift too. We had a chance to live in Hong Kong for a couple years and passed it up, and i do regret that.</p>
<p>If you really, really don’t want to go, you may be able to talk your parents into letting you stay behind and finishing where you are. But that may be a mistake and a regret that you have later in life. Why don’t you spend a week trying to find the silver lining and feel excited about it - at the end of the week re-evaluate and see if you still feel so strongly about it being a bad thing.</p>
<p>So my friend’s family moved to Colorado and he ended up staying with his Spanish teacher so he could stay here. He goes to the other high school so I don’t know the details but definitely consider staying with your Spanish teacher.</p>
<p>I know how you feel about moving (well to an extent, I can’t imagine assimilating in Chinese culture or even the country itself) It’s not an easy transition, especially making new friends. Maybe you can try to convince your parents to let you attend high school in China but college in the United States (you could argue a degree from the United States would further your future career). I seriously hope it works out, moving is a difficult transition… I’m still coping with the stress of moving myself (though this is also due to my social anxiety) Best of luck</p>
<p>Who the h-ell wouldn’t want to get out of shyt highschool, move to the future power of the world, and be a fellow student with some of the most smartest ranked people of the world? I would LOVE to live in china. Highschool there is supposed to be extremely rigorous, unlike the bullshyt here, plus if your dad is getting a high paying job, he can send you off to an international college. I would rather go to a college in a city, which you probably will be in in China. You would have the same experience in pretty much any city college anyway.</p>
<p>Now you can major in something important, plus learn the most used language (by population) in the world. In stead of being an unimportant congress man, you can now be a successful businessman in China.</p>
<p>Future plans: when I grow up, I want to go to Boston College, which costs 50,000 a year, to become some vet in new york. Wow.</p>
<p>I think your parents know the best for you. Follow them and suck it up.</p>
<p>I am being rude because I would love to have this opportunity. Even though i have my best, life-long friends, I would love to move to a different country. you are not going to see them in college anyway, so why do you care. All we do in highschool everyday is come home and do busy work. The only thing I would argue about with your parents is where you want to go to college.</p>
<p>Living in a country without knowing the language is a wonderful experience. It teaches you that your small highschool is not the only thing happening in the world. It’s like studying abroad. you should probably get a Chinese tutor now.</p>
<p>Okay, first off I’m an Asian (who can speak Chinese) and I live in South-East Asia. </p>
<p>I’ve been to China recently and I have friends who are from China and I can tell you that if you really have to go there, you should definitely choose an international school. The Chinese have a different system, where they take something called the Gao Kao at the end of their senior year. The Gao Kao is way harder than AP subjects and even harder than A Levels. It’s supposedly equivalent to the second year of college.</p>
<p>The good thing is that as long as you’re an American citizen, you’re not going to be considered an “international applicant” into college. If you were an international applying with aid, your chances of getting a lot of schools would be very slim.</p>
<p>Like everyone said, just find a good international school, take the SATs, and you can come right back here in two years. It’s inconvenient, but in the long run, you’ll be fine.</p>
<p>thanks everyone. right now, i’m doing some research on beijing and the apartments there to try to cheer myself up. it does look like a fun city but still it’s a whole continent away. </p>
<p>@082349 if you’re an international student, do you still have to take the gaokao? @bigkev do they offer the sat’s there? i can’t find that anywhere online</p>
<p>once again thanks for all the advice and support!</p>
<p>Where will you live in China ? There are lots of Americans near Shanghai and Beijing .You will be fine if you attend an American school there .In Beijing ,there are all American communities where any Chinese speaking is not necessary .I spent a month traveling in China ,not on a tour ,but with my son who was a permanent resident and worked near Beijing .Go on some websites and you will see it can be a great experience!! Good luck -it will make you stand out when you apply for college !</p>
<p>China is a great country (though not as good as Taiwan ;)). I can understand your tribulations, though. I couldn’t imagine having to assimilate to a different culture with different friends in a different place–and I speak fluent Chinese with roots in Taiwan. Good luck, OP, but be optimistic! China’s a great place.</p>
It’s not an easy transition, especially making new friends. Maybe you can try to convince your parents to let you attend high school in China but college in the United States (you could argue a degree from the United States would further your future career). I seriously hope it works out, moving is a difficult transition… I’m still coping with the stress of moving myself (though this is also due to my social anxiety) Best of luck</p>