<p>Oh, NM, you’re expressing how we’ll all be feeling soon. JSM, how is it going for you with your D being already gone? We leave in 3+ weeks, and thought we had a couple days of orientation, but comparing the student and parent versions of the schedule showed otherwise, and was confirmed in a phone call. So, we land on Tuesday, move him in Wednesday morning, hopefully reconnect at a picnic, and then…gulp…say goodbye. </p>
<p>He’s more distant than ever with me, but interestingly, is more connected to my H (his SF) than ever. I think there’s a big part of me that still sees him as my little boy, and perhaps that makes him sad/irritated/anxious?</p>
<p>I’ve ordered bedding, underwear, some adhesive hooks, etc., but his roomie said the fridge/micro was too expensive through the school and we should just get it once we got there, so S is adamant that’s what we do. Of course, we have no time there and I doubt even a mini-fridge will fit into a rental car. H says to stay out of it, S will have to figure it out if it doesn’t work out, but I’m STILL trying to fix things for him, although intellectually I know he’s quite capable of taking care of himself.</p>
<p>Hmmm…probably some good reasons I haven’t been on this forum much lately - it stirs up all the anxiety I’m trying to suppress!</p>
<p>Just found out that S is to get his wisdom teeth out now–trying frantically to schedule with just 27 days left til he leaves. He told me last night that he want to wait until Holiday break. This is hard for me because I have made all these calls, etc. But then I got it–he just cannot cope with one more anxiety producing thing. Friends leaving, GF problems (now fixed but a crack in the relationship finally), and mom reminding him of all of the things to shop for. I am trying to deep breath and let this go. I and my D would push through but this one is wired differently. Now of course he is not saying any of this…</p>
<p>NM, it’s very painful to hear your experiences. I know I’m going to be right there in 2 weeks. </p>
<p>cpeltz, don’t forget mail order for anything which won’t fit or you don’t have time to get there. Always works well in getting things to college just make sure you have a good mailing address.</p>
<p>Thanks all for the info on Dropps. Will plan to pick up at the Richmond Costco (hopefully they have similar inventory to ours). Do not want to pack any more than necessary. Already have a feeling it won’t fit in my car.</p>
<p>oregon101, did they tell your son he could wait the extra 4 months? D’s top wisdom teeth had come in but the bottoms were pretty impacted and I can’t imagine that a 3-4 month wait would have worked. As it was they had to cut the teeth in half to get them to come out.</p>
<p>S has an appt. with the oral surgeon this week about his wisdom teeth - going to see if it can wait for his one month winter break, but we’ll see.</p>
<p>Ordered a ton of stuff through mail order (including Dropps!) and have had it sent to my stepdaughter who lives a few miles away. Convenient for me, but she has a pretty full spare room! I do think a minifridge might be a little much for her to have to store.</p>
<p>We started the process to get authorization to have D’s wisdom teeth out in June. And we are STILL waiting for authorization. Luckily, she doesn’t have any significant pain. But at this point it seems wiser to wait for her one-week Thanksgiving break or her month off at Christmas time. She said it’s okay, and she’ll decide what to do depending on if the teeth give her any problems.</p>
<p>Well, I pulled open a cupboard in the kitchen, and realized the top roll out shelf is what we have always designated “the lunch shelf” – where supplies for making lunches for school are kept. And now, we don’t need it anymore … sad…</p>
<p>NM, the tears and puffy eyes are heart rending. I’m sure she will have fun; but it’s hard for her to imagine it now. Bless her. Hope it goes well and you soon here a good report.</p>
<p>Wisdom teeth: Older D put off getting her wisdom teeth out. Top doesnt seem too bad but so much for the four years of braces on her bottom teeth. Son recovered very quickly and basically after about a day or so he was pretty good to go. I would think that getting them out now would be better than it taking up a holiday of any kind, especially when you may only have a weekend to recover. Just my two cents.</p>
<p>I am waiting patiently for an update from NMn’s daughter and how it went - the roommate, coach, getting settled, etc… </p>
<p>Hopefully S will find out roommate on Monday, but apparently his dorm that we suspect he has been assigned has a lot of suites and singles. When I mentioned the possibility of a single, he looked a little disappointed. He is fairly outgoing,but I also think he’d probably prefer to have one other person to walk into a room with at least those first couple of days. The only upside is that if there are a lot of singles, there will be more in his shoes than not.</p>
<p>Roommate & dorm info received today! Three weeks from today we will be moving S into dorm (at 7:30AM!!!). Reality is setting in and there are many piles of items ALL over my house. Can start shipping boxes next week and hopefully complete the shopping. Just my luck, I have to move my office two days before we leave - double the packing. I’ll certainly need a vacation once this is all over! :D</p>
<p>Funny about all the wisdom teeth stories. D (rising college senior) will have her single impacted one out a week from Monday. She made the appointment herself, following up her own consultation with the family dentist - that was a big moment. The timing gives her a week to bounce back. I’m hoping that since it’s just the one, the week will be enough.</p>
<p>Yep, DizziMom, we’re almost at three weeks here, too; it’ll be three weeks from Tuesday, though we’re going down to the area the day before. The piles we had carefully segregated are starting to creep out from their corners. </p>
<p>D comes home tomorrow and is excited about helping me finish the shopping for reluctant S1. S1 has now asked me (nicely) to stop talking about anything to do with his move-in day. </p>
<p>We’d do the wisdom teeth now, if we could get authorization, but we have one week here (this coming week); then one week on vacation; home the 16th, and she leaves the 20th. With that week away, I’m not sure how to fit ti all in, esp. if there are complications … very frustrating HMO, we’re thinking of leaving it.</p>
<p>That’s got to be really frustrating, Zetesis. Yuck. </p>
<p>Modadunn, I hear you about your S’s wanting someone else to walk into a room/dining hall/party with for the first couple of weeks. But if he does have a single, along with finding others in the same boat, he may well find himself appreciating the privacy after a while.</p>
<p>S1 observed this past week that the only time he’s ever shared a room with anybody is on family vacations. I think he’s in the apprehensive-about-the-roommate camp.</p>
<p>My husband asked me if I would be sad when D left. Sad wasn’t the word. Meloncoly isn’t. I am trying to find the word that describes that feeling of so much joy and at the same time be “sad”. Bittersweet doesn’t work. </p>
<p>She is leaving in 3 1/2 weeks, is gone this week. So when she comes back, while she is working fulltime, we need to squeeze in doctors,hair, facial, packing, shipping, etc…</p>
<p>All this while I am dealing with reallllly old dogs (2 are basically blind).
My dread is that one of the dogs will die soon after daughter leaves. </p>
<p>NM when evre you feel sad, just picture your daughter with her new friends, exploring. Its almost like kindergarten all over again. As soon as they walk through that door, they are in their new world. Were we sad then? No we were proud, happy for them, so glad they were moving on!!! Remember that feeliing!!</p>
<p>I rarely log in on the weekends, but I just had to see how the NM D departure went. Better the tears at home than at school I guess. Doesn’t the parent in all of us want to say, “Well just stay home with me then!!!”</p>
<p>Missypie - I’ve already jokingly told DD that she must stay home and attend CC because who else will help me find my glasses when I take then off. Ha!</p>
<p>She is spending almost every waking moment with her friends - actually with them, or facebooking them, or texting them. Doesn’t want to talk much about going away to college. Not facebooking her new roommate much at all to discuss things. I can tell she is just squeezing every moment out of this summer with her hometown buddies before she leaves them. </p>
<p>We had a family discussion and I told her that her dad and I need her for one day on the weekend before she leaves. Just to be together as a family - doesn’t matter what we do. I feel like I miss her already because she is hardly ever around.</p>
<p>I cried the other night. </p>
<p>Luckily, she will only be about an hour and 15 minutes away. I know that we are so fortunate that way.</p>
<p>Where do I start??? D arrived safely at school. Had some issues last night. She is a quiet kid and not the best communicator. Got a call from her last night at 10:30 sobbing hysterically. She was by herself in her car as her host teammates had left to attend a party before she got back to the apartment and she was locked out. Said “most” of the team was going to the party and they would be drinking. Talked her through trying to find someone who didn’t go to party. She found another OOS freshman who was in another apartment not too far away. Thank heavens I made her add numbers to her phone and gave her our GPS! She got address and drove over. Spent the night with other players there but didn’t have any of her belongings. Rocky start but it has to get better, right??? Went through strategies about parties/drinking. At least she did find a group who didn’t go! I can tell it will be a long week. Didn’t sleep again last night so I am fried.</p>
<p>We have spent so much of our time helping her through HS avoiding the drinking issue since consequences are so tough here. To be be confrontedd a few hours after you arrive at school was unexpected. We will spend more time talking to her.</p>
<p>NM–my heart is aching right now for you and DD. I bet by the time you arrive next week, she’ll be well on her way to feeling at home. It’s a start to find at least another like minded freshman. </p>
<p>DD and I have had one drinking talk recently, and I expect we’ll have a few more. It’s pretty tough for kids that choose not to drink sometimes. We sort of rehearsed some repsonses and possible scenarios, but until the time comes who knows if it will help.</p>
<p>Older sister who also plays contacted her. Told her she couldn’t isolate herself and could go to parties and not drink. D1 wasn’t thrilled but at least she is considering different options. Her shyness complicates things. I have mentioned before she is a “slow to warm” kid and all the change is hard for her, always has been. I am staying strong, positive and encouraging her to let the older girls know her. Half of the team was let go by the coach this year to make room for his first class of freshman recruits. I tried to explain that some of the girls are afraid of losing their positions. Tough lesson but one she really needs to learn. (It still makes me feel bad though!:()</p>
<p>Life is changing so fast! H and I just moved out of state (Ohio to Illinois).</p>
<p>Son #3 moves into his dorm in DC on August 15. I haven’t been with him all summer becasue he is a counselor at a camp in Ohio.</p>
<p>Son #2 leaves for a semester in the Netherlands August 16. I haven’t been with him all summer because he worked at a camp in Pennsylvania.</p>
<p>Son #1 got married on July 5th. He has lived in DC for the past 2 years and I’m still not used to missing him, even though he went to college out of state as well.</p>
<p>At least I now have a daughter! who I love very much.</p>
<p>But I would love to have all my babies back under my roof. But they won’t be.</p>
finally), and mom reminding him of all of the things to shop for. I am trying to deep breath and let this go. I and my D would push through but this one is wired differently. Now of course he is not saying any of this…</p>
D arrived safely at school. Had some issues last night. She is a quiet kid and not the best communicator. Got a call from her last night at 10:30 sobbing hysterically. She was by herself in her car as her host teammates had left to attend a party before she got back to the apartment and she was locked out. Said “most” of the team was going to the party and they would be drinking. Talked her through trying to find someone who didn’t go to party. She found another OOS freshman who was in another apartment not too far away. Thank heavens I made her add numbers to her phone and gave her our GPS! She got address and drove over. Spent the night with other players there but didn’t have any of her belongings. Rocky start but it has to get better, right??? Went through strategies about parties/drinking. At least she did find a group who didn’t go! I can tell it will be a long week. Didn’t sleep again last night so I am fried.</p>