<p>H says he liked Jennifer Lawrence when he thought she was a nobody (we also really liked her in Winter’s Bone).</p>
<p>Question: SIL has been contacted by a recruiter for (big name company) to interview for a position; he will do so on Friday (all day interview). He hasn’t told his current employer or coworkers, because if he doesn’t get the job, he’d just rather let it go. He hasn’t told anyone but us and his parents (and his wife, our daughter). Is that the way it works? Does one not tell a current employer that one is interviewing elsewhere? It came to him out of the blue, so he’s not been looking; he’s happy where he is; and dreads having to tell them he might leave.</p>
<p>Z, yes it would be unusual to tell a current employer that you are interviewing elsewhere. In my world (before I became self-employed), if your employer knew that you were looking, that could have a negative impact on your bonus and/or future promotions. If he gets an offer that he wants to take, the employer would typically have an opportunity to give him a counter offer if they want him to stay badly enough. I generally feel like it’s a mistake to interview unless you would take a reasonable offer because you do take a risk that your employer finds out and that can be really bad.</p>
<p>On my eyes, I think I have mentioned before that they can no longer be corrected to a point where I am legal to drive. I haven’t lost my license yet because it isn’t up for renewal for a couple more years, but I rarely drive anymore. I don’t remember being told I have macular degeneration but I admit I don’t pay a lot of attention. I just know my eyes get worse with every appointment and he has maxed out on the corrections. He has mentioned a corneal transplant will be tried at some point but it didn’t sound like that would be any kind of miracle fix. I think I can get along OK without seeing.</p>
<p>Z, very common for the reasons TA has explained. After you have the offer, you tell them and some companies will make an offer to keep you (not just $$ but responsibilities) but others will consider you disloyal and want you to leave. </p>
<p>TA, I have spent a little time with eye issues as ShawD was incorrectly diagnosed with a rare juvenile form of Macular Degenaration when she was 8 or 9. It is definitely worth getting tested as her problem turned out to be completely different and largely fixable. Less likely to be the case with an adult, but leave no stone unturned. Do you have access to good ophthalmologists there who know about retinal diseases?</p>
<p>Thanks. In the past when I have been solicited/courted by other institutions, I have typically told my boss(es). But I grant my working situation and relationship with my boss is somewhat unusual.</p>
<p>Given what I know, SIL’s company really would like to keep him (he has gotten several promotions and raises in the 3 years he’s been there); don’t know how it will all play out.</p>
<p>TA, no words of wisdom or advice, but hope for your situation and eye sight.</p>
<p>TA – I’d second Shawbridge’s suggestion of getting an opinion from a retinal specialist. </p>
<p>Shawbridge – those are good thoughts on the presentation. I was thinking of getting the powerpoint translated, but having speaker notes (which I usually don’t use) in English to cue me. I think I’m going to see if one of the translators is willing to sit down with me and talk with me about what might work best. Whatever I do is likely to be better with a little more time to plan, not one day’s notice. Cognitive observation: My last Spanish class was 38 years ago. Listening to the questions posed by the Spanish speakers I almost always could understand (and mentally translate) the interrogative pronouns (Who, Why, What,…) and quite a few of the verb stems – but not nearly as many of the nouns. Given how terrible a student of Spanish I was (it was all about translating and conjugating verbs in 13 tenses back then) I probably should be happy I remember any of it, but I would have thought the nouns would stick more easily.</p>
<p>TA–agree on the leave no stone unturned. I am like you in that I enjoy silence. Rarely think about listening to music and am more likely to listen to a podcast when walking.
D’s BF has RP and there is great news on the reseach front for transplant. He may or my not need one at some point but the future is taking a turn for the best in that world.</p>
<p>My mother has Macular D. It worries me for my own future. I have a significant hearing lose so do not want any more obstacles in my life. </p>
<p>I was handling BF’s not coming with us to Spain just fine until a BGF pointed out that this is not very fair to D. His parents do not owe him $ for a trip to Spain but they also easily could offer it for his graduation from law school this May. D has driven BF 3,000 miles as he wanted a road trip and he wanted her to attend his uncle’s wedding on the Cape. She has made 2 other trips to be with his extended family–all at her expense. So now I am feeling perturbed. D comes home in two weeks and I hope I can either keep my mouth shut or be diplomatic. She is taking it just fine.
I have stayed out of the whole thing other to say that we would enjoy having him. To his credit I feel certain he would not allow us to pay his ticket which I am not offering anyway. Accomodations and dinners and transportation is plenty.</p>
<p>Enjoyed most of the Oscars. Not too crazy about whats his name MC. I did see Ted and thought it was OK for light entertainment.</p>
<p>Hope all the mice and rats have left the forum!</p>
<p>I thought Ted did better on the oscars than in his own movie… just saying.</p>
<p>I think Jennifer Lawrence is a perfectly normal 22 year old. And I certainly like her than the vampire chick, whose name I refuse to learn or remember. </p>
<p>Love Sally Field, hated her dress. Thought lead actor guy could have given her more of a shout out instead of fawning over Meryl. But then again, I’d fawn over Meryl too.</p>
<p>Booked a ticket to go and see D’s team and hopefully do some intel on her possibly getting some scholarship funds for next year. This, however, means that with graduations and weddings AND the possibility that we are now in the mix of parents hosting a rather large (and dare I say elaborate) grad party for S and friends… my spring travel may be completely tapped out. And let’s not forget, I still have to find a dress for this wedding!! Who knows what I will end up having to spend to appease both ego and body fat index.</p>
<p>Fortunately, I think my eyes continue to improve. The upper lids are really just about all healed and most importantly, with makeup can’t even tell. The lower lids still have some swelling, and maybe not evenly so still but they look better than they did before surgery so I figure I’m headed in the right direction. Have an appt next week.</p>
<p>Mod–how did vampire chick (who looked out of it) get to sit behind Speilberg?
She just always looks like she needs a bath.</p>
<p>Good luck on the dress! I have already started looking for something for a June wedding and I am only a guest and am finding nothing of quality out there. I am actually thinking it may be time to find a seamstress/tailor. The most amazing outfit in my opinion last night was the woman who won for costumes. Her own outfit was so nicely tailored. Loved it. Good material too. Showing my age now. What? I should not mind that my bra shows? Could I please have a button waist on my pants and not pull ups that won’s stay up? Ok just ranting. Finally have the $ to buy whatever and there is nothing ever.</p>
<p>Oregon, (and Moda) a tailored dress or suit is an awesome idea. I was fortunate enough to have interviewed a rising designer once (for a magazine) who I then later was able to contract (for a reasonable price) to make me a feminine tuxedo suit (with skirt) for a black tie event over which I had to preside. It was wonderful to have something that fit me like a comfy glove that also looked fabulous, and I got a lot of mileage out of it by swapping in different glittery bodice-type tops. I still have it and one day hope to FIT into it again Which, of course, is the downside of having something unique designed for you … It’s rather sad if you “outgrow” it. But hey, I’m now down 14 lbs since I started hauling my butt up that hill last month, so maybe I’ll get there yet I suspect the going will be slower now that the first flush of body-shock has passed :)</p>
<p>So. Mch is getting ready to catch his flight and i’m hunkering down for a busy week. But at the end of the day his new doc’s idiot receptionist called him to say his liver ultrasound looked fine but there was something abnormal looking in his gallbladder that they wouldn’t be able to see with an MRI so they wanted him to “just have it removed since he didn’t need it anyway.”</p>
<p>What on earth ever happened to a doc calling someone into his office, showing the scan, and discussing risks and options? He’s furious about the delivery of this information so I’ve suggested we go in together and get some appropriate information next week. I don’t really understand what there is about a gallbladder or neighboring tissue that you can’t investigate with a HIDA scan, guided CT or an MRI, frankly. And I would like Doogie Howser to explain this to me. </p>
<p>Is it normal here to just refer to a surgeon without meeting with a family doc first? Is that one of those quaint Canadian healthcare luxuries? Or perhaps a sign that its time to go doc shopping? (He says he was “starting” to like the guy who took over from his (deceased) doc, but now he’s not so confident in him.) That the man has outlived two of his docs now does not promote in him much confidence in the medical system in general, I must say ;)</p>
<p>Good morning all! Today is going to be crazy busy at work today.</p>
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<p>Will you please have the designer call the Pentagon and offer to design formal attire for our women in uniform??!!! Did you see those poor young women standing by Mrs. Obama when she announced Best Picture? Just because a man looks dashing in his dress uniform, that doesn’t mean you can just swap the pants out for a shapeless long skirt and it will look good on a woman. And must they really still wear their tight buns?</p>
<p>Kmc – how unprofessional and inappropriate for a receptionist to be communicating medical information like that. I have (thankfully) never had a doctor’s office where issues or concerns were communicated to me by anyone but the doctor, P.A., or R.N… And I’m sorry, but gallbladder removal is not drive through surgery like getting a skin tag removed.</p>
<p>Very unprofessional of the nurse/physician. Hope you have a productive meeting when your H returns.</p>
<p>Tadashi Shoji is a designer that makes beautiful dresses for curvy women like me. missypie mentioned Octavia Spencer…he dresses her for award shows.</p>
<p>I was at Target this week hunting for a white bikini bottom for D2 and was happily surprised to see some nice spring/summer skirts/dresses for D2 for grad school since she has to wear business appropriate attire. Picked up a few items that she will mix & match with other things she already has. I picked up a pencil skirt for her last week at TJ Maxx but she doesn’t seem to like that style. Oh, well…back to the drawing board!</p>
<p>NM I agree, Target has some very cute clothes. If pencil skirts aren’t your D2’s style, I see that there are a lot of fuller skirts out for spring.</p>
<p>KMC agree with the others that the receptionist’s call was very unprofessional. I blame the doctor in this case as he should have made the call or a arranged to have your H come in for a private talk. Glad that the liver scan was ok.</p>
<p>What an awful way to deliver the medical information. Wish your H had demanded to talk with the Doc. So now he gets to worry about this while he travels…</p>
<p>The bride and groom are eloping so I am off the hook for an outfit. What a relief. Her mother was making everything way too stressful. So just a nice gift.</p>
<p>I got such a call about my gallbladder, it turned out, I had a single very large ston, and it had to come out. Calls sould not be up to assistants, the have no experience with how to say things.<br>
D is finally starting her internship, there were some papers thatneeded to be completed.</p>
<p>Hi all. Well, the doc was actually good enough to call me back after I bandied about some “in the interest of coordinated care” type of phrases with the receptionist and plainly stated that in my books a meetup was in order to discuss the results to date in an integrated way, particularly since they’ve also scheduled mch with an internist Monday for additional screening, which means one more finger in the pie, so to speak ;)</p>
<p>The convo with the doc was very productive and informative and we now have a plan together for what to cover off at a meeting next week. I now at least understand why resecting the gallbladder looks at least on the surface like the safest bet (there is an an area of focal-type adenomyomatosis, which means a flat area of dyplasia that is very difficult to differentiate from a carcinoma, though the likelihood is pretty low that its the latter) so dr. Google and I can go to town </p>
<p>The gp wouldn’t be comfortable making the call whether to use guided ct biopsy instead of resection,etc., and would leave that up to a surgeon. Fair enough, I said, tell him that in person! Show him the scans! Give him some advice on the diabetes and now fatty liver and explain how all these things tie together. Etc.</p>
<p>Poor mch. He’s completely asymptomatic, and a tough cookie, so i can understand why he feels about the medical realm the way I do about taking a car to a mechanic (in my world, there’s never anything wrong with my car until my mechanic gets ahold of it :)</p>
<p>kmc, so glad your H has you as an advocate.</p>
<p>Did anyone watch Makers on PBS last night? I missed the first hour, but it was terrific. Amazing how much has changed for women during our lifetimes.</p>
<p>missypie, H and I watched it. I sent an email to D telling her we were watching it (with the URL), and discovered today a co-worker also watched it. She’s 10 years older than me and her family only sent her brother to college (none of the daughters) because she wouldn’t need an education. She earned her bachelor’s degree in computer science in 2000 while working full-time and attending school full-time.</p>
Which, of course, is the downside of having something unique designed for you … It’s rather sad if you “outgrow” it. But hey, I’m now down 14 lbs since I started hauling my butt up that hill last month, so maybe I’ll get there yet