<p>misspypie and shaw, so sorry to hear about these deaths . That is tragic. Hope the young man who is not doing well will be okay. He is lucky to have your son and his friends.</p>
<p>shawbridge, sorry to hear the bad news.</p>
<p>Helping the young man will be a big job. We are 11 months past D’s graduation, and her path would be different if she had either a family with abundant resources, or no family support system.</p>
<p>Some of her friends with access to resources were able to move directly to where they wanted to work, and could afford to live while they sought employment. Many of her friends from monied backgrounds were able to use connections to leverage jobs. Others have been able to take unpaid or underpaid internships.</p>
<p>Since she didn’t have resources/connections, luckily she did have a support system. She was able to move home and we provided her a place to live and food to eat and a car to drive. She was able to save most of the money she made in her temp job. This basic support allowed her to continue pursuing a job she wanted. If she didn’t have that support, she would not have had the luxury of turning down some employment offers when she knew they weren’t what she wanted.</p>
<p>I don’t know if the young man will be eligible for any unemployment? </p>
<p>Being poor is rough. Without a support system it’s even harder. I’m glad your S and his friends are helping out.</p>
<p>Sounds like the young man is depressed, it is hard to have the energy to do things when you are.
Pre-op appointment yesterday, I talked a mile a minute , which I do when I am nervous. I am such a poor actress.
I got approval for my on line course, this is a major leap of faith for me. I am reading the book, crucial accountability, I am finding it very helpful. It is so hard when people tell you to speak up or how to speak and deal when it doesn’t go well. </p>
<p>Happy National School Nurses Day! Thanks to all you nurses out there, school or not!</p>
<p>Shaw–your son is a mensch. Just like his dad/</p>
<p>I’m heading out early in the morning to go to IL to see my mom for Mother’s Day. Will return late Monday. Should be lots of yard work and lots and lots (and lots) of listening to her talk. I sure wish she wasn’t a teetotaller.</p>
<p>Thanks boysx3 (for both compliments).</p>
<p>DTE, wait. You are having another surgery? How did I miss this?</p>
<p>of course what would life be without a surgery every year or so, need to correct some issues form treatment.
MP we will be listening a lot tis weekend too, taking MIL to the lake, she repeats over and over. she loves the lkewe want her to be happy. </p>
<p>Good luck dte, I hope all goes well!</p>
<p>And thanks missypie! I was given flowers, chocolate and a gift certificate at work today… a bit surprising actually! I guess they like me. ;
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<p>sorry typos again. we get lattes, pizza wahoo. </p>
<p>Good luck, dte, I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
DTE and Woody (and anyone else I missed) - Happy Nurse’s Week. I was a med tech (in a “previous life” before I became an accountant) and developed a huge respect for the nurses I worked with. </p>
<p>Thinking of you dte! Sending the good health karma/wishes your way.</p>
<p>Moda…how is the house hunting going??? Miss your posts!</p>
<p>cq…waiting anxiously to hear the news for your D!</p>
<p>Have a safe trip missy! Enjoy the time with your mom.</p>
<p>Heading to the lake in a little bit. MIL and FIL coming tomorrow for the day. We are putting in the boats. That will be our celebration with H’s mom. </p>
<p>Mostly I’ve been reading along and then in mid post get distracted. While it’s nice the new system saves drafts, the probability that we’ve moved on from what I was responding to is highly likely! First of all, DTE - I will keep you in my positive thought place. Feel well soon!</p>
<p>Secondly, while I might say I wish I was more like Shawwife, the absolute truth of that statement is I wish I was married to someone like shawwife! Mostly, I just want to say how nice it is to read the impressions of someone who truly knows he is a lucky man. I hope you share the same directly with her. Feeling appreciated and respected is never a bad thing!</p>
<p>House hunting absolutely sucks. As does living in a rental with black couch and black carpet, black granite countertops in both kitchen and bath. All looks perfectly great when perfectly clean, but it is nearly impossible to keep it so! From crumbs to cat to toothpaste - I feel a little like Im living in a petri dish of sorts. Not in a germ way but in a microscopic way. Literally, every piece of lint glows. </p>
<p>Our choices in houses on the market in the area we’d hope to live are the following: way to small for us to see ourselves living there comfortably, needs way too much work or is above our budget. It’s definitely stressful overall. Let’s just say, this big move has unearthed some differences in opinion that I didnt realize even existed! I will be equally transparent to say that I am not entirely convinced I am not being led in a direction where all my things will remain in storage for a very long time. Then again, it could be that I am just disappointed in my husband’s procrastination and just can’t figure out why that is. Its not that I haven’t asked, but there comes a time for some definitive opinion, if only just to share out loud. Could just be a bad week… fully likely. It’s just that I got on board with the idea of selling and then doing the next thing. And now the next thing seems very much in stall mode. Of course, it is true that the only one we’ve truly come close to agreeing on is likely really more than we should be spending.</p>
<p>Moda, it might be my mood today since I’ve been up since 3:30 am prepping to host a majorly over-attended meeting (68 people…only 46 had confirmed) and then a press deadline and a hot proposal with an impossible condition…BUT I’m thinking a Tuscany Villa for a year might be a wonderful change of pace 
So let’s run away!</p>
<p>Moda, I read the paragraph about ShawWife in your previous post to ShawWife and she felt very appreciated. So, thank you. I probably do not voice my appreciation as much as I should and could. Reminds me sometimes of that Willie Nelson song “You were always on my mind” although I am better than that.</p>
<p>I’m not feeling great today. Worked until 3:30 AM last night getting out a proposal to a big German company so that my German colleague could revise and get it back to me so I could revise before noon this morning. Slept until 10, revised the memo, and went back to sleep at noon. Trying to juggle travel next week to Germany and to a visit in NJ – my mother is being honored with a full day of learning (and speeches?) at a Yeshiva in Jerusalem for her commitment to learning (and I guess Conservative Judaism) and as well at her synagogue. They are going to have a panel discussion on Women in Conservative Judaism as part of it as she was the first President of a Conservative synagogue, at a time when women were not allowed on the bima (a raised platform on which the rabbi and cantor stand and on which the Torah is read on the Sabbath and festivals). In Conservative Judaism, she was controversial at the time (I was a teenager, I think). Now there are female rabbis and cantors. Can’t leave there in time to catch a flight to Germany, so the only options will leave me trashed on the day of the meeting. But, it will be a big contract that I’d like to get.</p>
<p>I am such a bad mother. S called last night. He and his wife are planning on cooking dinner for me Sat. night. I kept my mouth shut but I don’t want it! I was so into the fact that my H was going to be gone for a race. I was planning on coming to work for a bit, maybe stop and do a little shopping on my way home if I left work on time and just generally BE BY MYSELF!!! Something I haven’t had in a while. Now I will not come to work, will not shop for a bit, and will have COMPANY and they will probably leave the kitchen a mess. I should be a better mother but I was going to enjoy my time alone. Oh well – while most of you would probably think this is a great thing for the kids to do – I’ll just have to get up at some awful hour tomorrow to get everything that I want/need to do done and smile when they get there. Then once they leave try to get some work done from home after which time I’m sure my H will be home. So much for a few hours to myself. I know – I should be thankful – but currently I’m not…</p>
<p>RM -you wont get any criticism from me as I totally get this. Love my family, but cherish the rare times that I have a day where I am completely alone. And with the work stress that you have been under lately, that goes even more. It is a nice offer from your S and DIL , so you have no choice, though. Can you try to say something (in a joking way and with a smile) like " oh and since it’s for Mother’s Day I know you’ll be cleaning up afterward,too? At least then you wont have to clean your kitchen </p>
<p>I would maybe be a little more direct…. I love you dearly, but I had this somewhat selfish day planned. Thing is, they might be looking at it that it would be ghastly if you didn’t have company on Mother’s Day!! So basically, neither side is truly wanting to do it, but feels slight obligation. Since you didn’t do that at the time, I honestly don’t think it’s too late RM. Call the DIL… Say you’d like to let them off the hook… and then invite them over for NEXT sunday for family dinner. </p>
<p>No judgement here, RochMom! I’m with you all the way!</p>
<p>I just got my nails done and they are the color of raw chicken cutlets… oh well.</p>
<p>Happy Mother’s Day to my resident cyber moms
Hopefully, you get spoiled today…but even if you don’t, well, spoil yourself!</p>
<p>My mom and her partner are in town and there’s a plan afoot to go to the sculpture gardens and lunch there if the weather cooperates. My own treat for me from me has been to crank up the heat on the pool for an inaugural swim…it’s supposed to get up into the high 70s today. But at the moment, steam is rising off the pool in the cool morning air.</p>
<p>At any rate, have a happy day!</p>