C_q (and anyone else here) , let me know if your travels bring you to the DC area, especially near Dulles Airport.
I have good news to report- D’s fiancé got another promotion!
Yay, FallGirl.
FG - great news!
MP be gentle with yourself. you had the courage to try something new, and its really hard with the learning curve. Its hard when you are the expert and now need to learn again.
Believe it or not I am still sick. I am going on the premise I did not clear the sinus infection, if it is a new one, I must have an affinity, as I have not been out much and have been meticulous about hand washing, and cleaning the computer, mouse, handrails I am really frustrated and back on antibiotics.
going to drop flowers of at the BWH.
Fallgirl awesome, D! daughter boyfriend (not fiancé) got a promotion too. What is it with some getting engaged and others seeing no need.
Feelings are hard particularly for men. Some counselors also are not a good fit. I wish people could see facing their feeling is not as threatening as appears. but that is from a person who is pretty above board.
Thanks, DTE. I really needed that word of encouragement today!
Great news, Fall Girl.
And if your travels bring any of you to Colorado, give me a shout.
MP – I agree with DTE --be kind to yourself. I suspect that your work is of higher quality than that of many others around you. And good luck on the eye doc front. (Related question: is the lighting in your office good, or does it glare or bounce off your screen? Bad lighting makes for very tired eyes.)
Good morning. Woohoo Fallgirl!
Missy hugs. Just remember the universe is perfect, so you wouldn’t be there if you didn’t have a contribution to make 
I find that when people are most worried about their work they’re actually doing their best work
DTE, be well. Sendin ya the healing fairy dust.
CountingDown, I was a terrific intelectualizer in my depressive youth, so I can likely relate to your son. Sometimes when you’re clever it’s hard to open up to a counselor if they’re not cleverer than you I know that sounds strange…but I think its true for a certain type of personality. I don’t know if it would help him, but a book that helped cut through my own young angst was by Wayne Dwyer…just a really pragmatic approach to mental health. The book was his first, Your Eroneous Zones: http://www.amazon.com/Your-Erroneous-Zones-Step-Step/dp/0060919760
Might be worth shipping it off to him. For the young-20s me, it was empowering to learn to examin and control my responses to life.
Maybe ask him what he thinks about his counselor. You might hear that he thinks he or she is kinda useless if so, time to find a new one. With a certain personality type (eg, mine) you need an alpha-dog/uber-therapist to get any traction, IMHO!
Y’all are just way too nice to me. (Much nicer than H who seems to say exactly the WRONG thing when it really matters.). Anyway, I started thinking that of the people I am working with, the person with the least amount of tenure has been here 9+ years and before that, was outside counsel for the company. Another guy has been doing this for 16 years and another woman about 25. I am comparing myself to them which is unrealistic…except that they are paying my firm an armload of money to have me. For now I need to get a grasp on the major deal I am expected to handle and leave the deeper worrying for another month (or never.)
The world as we know it has ended. Sky Mall has filed for bankruptcy.
ohhh–I actually purchased 2 things a year ago for them at amazing prices (figured out how to get first at a discount and second 1/2 off). But otherwise have never used them. No more plane magazines!
Cq came to dinner last night. She and H talked about their childhoods in Pakistan. It was a nice evening and we will be taking her to Multnomah Falls on Saturday, weather permitting.
mp and dt–hang in there. I admire both of you for taking on new experiences. I seem to growing more leisurely by the day.
arabrab, actually there is a road trip in our future–hopefully in the early fall. We will be in Denver as well as Boulder so maybe we will meet!
FG and dt–happy days for your S and D’s BF promotions. Gads, they really are adults now!
cd–agree that he may not be getting much from his therapist. The problem is that if he is comfortable sliding by and the therapist is not provocative nothing will change. The stats show that men often do better with a female because there is not the same loss of pride and often it has been a female who they have confided in the past.
Hope he feels better soon.
RM–now here is a great idea. When you H is gone for the day have a cleaning lady and clean along with her. Do not tell H (I sound terrible!) until you have done this 3 times. You will be happier and it will be a done deal by then. Tell him was your Birthday gift to yourself. Anyway, not telling is not the same as lying…
Make sure H gets an amazing dinner/evening
:x on those days.You work full time–nuf said.
I am off to get blood work. I have been having upper body, mainly arms, fatigue. So far the dots do not connect. I suspect it is low sodium or magnesium. Sodium has run low for a few years and I have cut my water intake by 1/2. I love water so this is a loss to me.
Shaw have a relaxing trip. I adore your wife’s work and would love to see it in person someday.
Great idea Oregon. Unfortunately it is very odd that I’m home and my H isn’t unless it’s during race season and now even less since he’s still recovering from his surgery. Only 4 more months to go! This morning before I went to work I did 2 loads of laundry, vacuumed my kitchen and family room, washed the kitchen floor and bathroom floor, cleaned the bathroom and powder room, went to the gym, and I was at work art 7. I am doing a better job cleaning since I only do a bit at a time. Hopefully this will allow me to have some of my own time on the weekend and the house looks okay as well!
Wow RM. You are a beast!!!
wow RM I just live in some degree of disarray.
KNc I like Wayne Dyer sometimes he is out there, but he says many things that resonate with me. Have read more recent things than your erroneous zones.
Looking forward to seeing you this fall, Oregon.
And RM – you are amazingly industrious. I’m working on my first cup of tea at 7, and you’re already at work – having already cleaned the bathroom and powder room, washed the kitchen and bathroom floors, done the laundry, vacuumed – and gone to the gym. I am a slug.
RM–what time did you get up?? I no doubt was just crawling into bed!
I bless my stars that H had a cleaning service (they were awful) so has never batted an eye when we have one (perfectly selected by me). We did go about 5 years after our very special person died with an advanced cancer quickly. We were devestated and could not accept anyone else. The kids were JHish and we worked together. D is Ok but S cleans a mean bathroom and I know his wife appreciates it.
RM, the fastest way to get a spouse to agree to a maid is to divvy up the chores and assign him half…or just quit cleaning 
I’m up typically on week days between 4 and 4:30. I also really think about how much time something is going to take like putting in a load of wash before going to the gym. H would live in a pig stye and be perfectly content. Me not so much. I like to see the floor and not clumps off dog hair. When we have divvied up cores in the past he does them just not really well. We’ll see if I like doing chores during the week and if that gives me some time on the weekend.
Question re resume for ShawD. She is starting to apply for jobs. Given the resume sorting programs, does she put a tagline art the top of the resume describing herself plus the fact that she is looking for a part time or per diem position? Is that how you customize for each position?. Or is that done in the cover letter?. Or do cover letters only matter after your resume had gotten into the good pile?
I get up at 430 only on workdays, and that is with effort, RM you are a dynamo.
Shaw I don’t know about resumes. I hope the smarter people reply.
? I always hate going to work parties as people are very cliquey. (sp) I never understood it, in fact if I see someone standing alone I make a point to talk to them and be inclusive. Am I weird?
Yep… Boyhood… and yep… it was that line that had me tearing up and all too retrospectively moody.
Last night, in what has become a sort of TGIF habit, a number of us gathered at a friends house who is recently single and truly has a real thing about being alone. In any event, a number of friends were up whether snowmobiling or skiing and we ended up with three who could play guitar and the host having about 6 to choose from, including an additional banjo and a few others. It proved to be a pretty good sing along and very fun indeed.
Only have baseboard electric heat here and the new toekick heater with a blower seems to already burned out… thankfully, it’s well within the warranty and had I not been here over the winter, it would have likely just been delayed failure to next winter.
Making the plans to go and see D2 in Denver than going to Sarasota and then Phoenix to visit my aunt and sister respectively. I was going to return to the nook after Denver, but doing a multiple leg trip is far cheaper than ever coming back. Packing for the differing weather seems a pain, but several hundred dollars in savings negates it and says, just check the bag and have room to shop. And I did get new luggage over Christmas. Went to this Tumi outlet and got a great carryon that I likely paid too much for still and a larger duffel type roller that was on clearance.
I hadn’t planned on seeing D2 at all, but she’s invited me for some mother/daughter thing at her sorority and apparently some sort of art installation show for a class. But the fact she invited me meant I was going…
And Missy… if people like you can underestimate themselves, it just seems wrong. I read a recent article about confidence being the one thing that sets people apart… same idea, one in confidence, one without. Well, you get the idea. So know how lucky they are to have you. I know I am!
Watching TCM on demand. have watched Fiddler on the Roof, and now catching a little The Way We Were… love the stage and set design and Robert Redford is just beautiful.