<p>yes she was gypped. And I am sure you are right about the evolution. At least I sure hope so. As for me, I am trying to take just one day at a time and trying to feel positive about S’s desired trip home. This is a kid who never gets homesick, has been many places afar without his P’s. But looking at 10 days without his familiar classmates and having to probably reach out to others who are staying (likely a good part of the international students) feels daunting I think. In other years it may feel easier, so for now I get a surprise, sorta, visit from my kid. Something to look forward to.</p>
<h1>theorymom – thanks, I think she is doing great! We actually hear quite a lot about her fun – but that may be in part because it consists of things like rock climbing, “gaming” (D&D), special events at the college (jazz show, comedian), watching movies with friends, and because she’s not a drinker/partyer. She did say she was up really late one night – playing “Catchphrase” for three hours. Sounds good to Mom.</h1>
<p>Zetesis my d is the same way, hiking, her campus is politically active plans and waits in line to see speakers hoping to see Hillary. Was up all night writing a paper. I just think that leads to bad habits. I worry about her getting too tired and sick. Cant control what she does but she does love it.</p>
<p>Ah memories! It was right around this time of year -35 years ago - that I pulled my first all-nighter. Having failed every weekly calculus quiz, I stayed up and simply memorized the book without an iota of understanding. Next day I simply plugged in the numbers and got a 98. I was then asked to the professor’s office to explain how I cheated. Good times…</p>
<p>How did you explain it?</p>
<p>I told him exactly what I did. It ended there.</p>
<p>I had been feeling down. I just felt a nagging that something was going on with S at school. But he was not telling me, and then when he asked to be tested…well…my mind started churning and I imagined him friendless, sliding into gaming for escape and no longer liking school.</p>
<p>But, I had nice long conversation on the phone today with kiddo.
Things sound OK - sigh of relief - my overactive imagination was way off. I WAS right that there was something going on, but it does not feel insurmountable.</p>
<p>He hangs with his roommates and kids on the floor mostly and I get the impression he is having some fun on a regular basis - nothing he wants to tell ME about anyway. But he is also working hard. He says his math courses are very hard and not exactly as fun as he thought they might be - lots of work - but he also said, “I know I will not regret having taken them” - is this my kid? Tears of joy!</p>
<p>He got an A on his one mid-tem, a B on his math (a shock and wake up call) and flunked the third one - one we ALL though he would excel in. One in which he was getting 95s on all his assignments. </p>
<p>Interesting (and makes me feel better about the ability of this college to work with LDs) the professor talked to S and asked him (because of the discrepancy between his in-class and homework - compared to a timed test) if he had a documented disability. He told S that, if he did, he could have given him as much time on the test as needed. S said he had not been tested for LD but was going to see if he could be tested this winter. So the prof transferred him to a less advanced class in the same subject so he would not fail. The new prof told S she would count all his homework scores, but not his mid-term score. So the hope is he will come out ahead in the class and come back with documentation that would allow the professors to make accomodations for him. This makes me feel very hopeful. Now if I could just get the psychologist to call me back.</p>
<p>Woody - too funny. I used to have a memory like that. photographic. That is how I studied. Now the mind is full of little holes (the word seive comes to mind)</p>
<h1>tm I use the phrase “my mind is a sieve” at least once a day! I think I learned it from my own mother ;)</h1>
<p>That sounds like good news around for your S. I am very impressed by the way the faculty members handled his situation, and by the fact that S has both asked you for help and was able to directly address the issue with the prof. </p>
<p>I too worry about D’s academic performance, about which we know next to nothing so far. She way underperformed in HS, but it wasn’t until just before she left for college that we had her tested for LD and got a positive, albeit mild diagnosis. I feel terribly guilty about not doing it sooner, but the LD coordinator at her college reassured me that it is very common for bright kids with LDs to compensate and go undiagnosed UNTIL they reach college.</p>
<p>i cant say enough about having it documented and in the system. o f course my D has a well documented and not discrete diagnosis. her disability is unilateral so she compensates but coming from a small school to a large school was a concern so we just wanted them to be aware. usually what she needs is compensatory seating. She has always known what to do. It has never held her back even was a catcher in softball with the head protection and a good one at that.But I am glad we went to the office of disability on orientation so there would be no suprises in case anything came up.
I have had freinds tell me the same that when there is a LD sometimes it has not been caught until college.</p>
<p>One of my best friends married a doctor. He didn’t figure out he was severely dyslexic until med school when they did testing for learning disabilities. Go figure. </p>
<p>No learning disabilities here per say, but there is some executive functioning issues. However, the sieve that is MY mind is a constant battle.</p>
<p>i could be wrong but its called “mental pause” I do find that it is worse when stressed. seems i remember better on vacation or maybe just less to have to remember LOL Everyones kids seem great should all do well.</p>
<p>H and I just got off the phone with our D. This was her first week of classes and they all seem to be going well. The Chemistry lecture is very easy but the first problem set blew her mind. We just reminded her to use her resources and that includes the professor and teaching proctor. She doesn’t seem worried though. Her whole lecture section was at a loss. </p>
<p>In terms of the social thing, she says on a scale of 1 to 10 she is at a 25. Went to a couple of frat parties last night and had fun. Her group of friends have a “party plan” so everyone arrives back at the dorm safe and sound. No homesickness (She actually laughed) but we never expected any. I think we miss her less than we excepted to as well. My H and I are just so excited for her that too much sadness seems, well…ungrateful. </p>
<p>Biggest issue is that our cell phone carrier gets horrible coverage on campus.</p>
<p>executive functioning issues, sieve, or mental pause…It doesn’t matter what it’s called. I have it. :)</p>
<p>I think I have it … what is it we’re talking about?</p>
<p>Me too. uhhh have what???</p>
<p>Dunno. Something about sieves?</p>
<p>great (or seive-like) minds think alike _ cross posted with you Z!</p>
<p>and again…</p>
<p>My excuse for the what-ever-it-was-you-just-said-that-I-forget-the-name-of is that my brain is like a big computer and the hard drive is full so I can’t really navigate or find the files anymore and I need an upgrade but man there’s a lot of stuff in there, really ; ).</p>
<p>So, in short, I attribute my increasing dotteriness to having been waaaaay too smart and curious in my misspent youth. The young don’t necessarily believe me, they just pat my hand and say “there there,” but it certainly makes me feel better.</p>
<p>HI all, just checking to say I am…checking in. Given the recent posts, I can safely say I forgot why I was checking in to say I was checking in. Do I have children in college? </p>
<p>Happy Sunday all!</p>