Parents of the HS Class of 2009 (Part 1)

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<p>missypie–hope your friend will be on the upswing, soon–scary. </p>

<p>JSM–glad your daughter is enjoying life! You were the first to jump in the college pool back in June so it’s always good to hear the updates from someone a few months ‘out.’ </p>

<p>historymom–I bet your daughters will do wonderfully! Hard to say goodbye.</p>

<p>Ouch on he breakup, eddieodessa. </p>

<p>I’ve been working on my ‘disassociation’ from son’s choices in college – he’s a grown up, he’s in charge of his life. I’m making some progress. I think it’s good, in the end.</p>

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<p>oh missypie - how horrible. will keep you and your friend in my thoughts.</p>

<p>historymom- I hope the day has brightened for you :)</p>

<p>JSM - great to hear your positive report.</p>

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Jolynne - I am having that exact conversation with myself at this very moment. D has joined an EC which seems to be taking up LOTS of her time. It’s beginning to feel like the same pattern as HS - an EC that she is “passionate” about, way less passionate than she was about her studies. No evidence yet that it is interferring academically but I am worried. Because that is what I do.</p>

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<p>I am making a big pot of chicken soup with both noodles and matzoh balls–you know, good old Jewish penicllin! The ultimate comfort food for those in distress or those under the weather. I have a whole cabinet of big bowls at the ready…</p>

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<p>As I posted earlier in the AU forum, H and I saw S3 this weekend back “home” in Ohio–he asked to meet us there from DC when he heard we were going for a visit.</p>

<p>We learned a lot more than he generally tells us straight out by overhearing his conversations with old friends and teachers–we all went to both the boys and girls soccer games while we were there so we could see a lot of old friends at one time. It was good to hear him so happy and enthusiastic about his academics and his campus life.</p>

<p>But the most interesting part of the weekend was when he talked with H and me about how he didn’t quite fit in with his old high school friends any more–they just seemed very immature to him all of a sudden. He seemed a lot older to us, too.</p>

<p>He’s only been in college since August but feels the changes already–it happens so fast. He’s definitely a young man/young adult now, definitely not at all like a 'high school kid."</p>

<p>My last baby is getting all growed up.</p>

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:slight_smile: Thanks SJTH, good to see you again! And to be back where everyone understands. :wink:

Same here, exactly. During a particularly rough week (which I only knew about because of Facebook), I told geek_son that I know he has what it takes, I’m so proud of him, and I have confidence that he’ll put it together and succeed. Briefly opened the floodgates. He’d been under so much stress and he said it meant so much to him to hear that Mom believes in him. Sometimes I hold my breath, because all I see from here are all the crazy antics and the late-late-night posts. But he is the guy I dropped off six weeks ago, and that guy has earned my respect and confidence.</p>

<p>… I will not drown my worries in chocolate!</p>

<p>… Hair color and margarita mix, no such promise. :D</p>

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What, they haven’t changed their Facebook statuses to “single”?? Could it be there are still gentlemen in the world?</p>

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I would be too, and I hope so too, but the good news is it sounds more like a fight than a random killing. Sounds like if the daughter isn’t looking for trouble, it’s not going to find her.
[UConn</a> student killed outside Union - News](<a href=“http://www.dailycampus.com/news/2009/10/19/News/Uconn.Student.Killed.Outside.Union-3806264.shtml]UConn”>http://www.dailycampus.com/news/2009/10/19/News/Uconn.Student.Killed.Outside.Union-3806264.shtml)</p>

<p>JerseyShoreMom, what great news that your daughter has adjusted so well and is so happy!</p>

<p>missypie, is this the same friend? So sorry. More prayers.</p>

<p>Jolynne and PRJ – me too, me too. I think my kiddo has learned from at least some of my mistakes, but I know he’ll probably have to go out and make his own brand-new ones to learn from. And there are no shortcuts!</p>

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This! I just keep telling myself it’s all going to work out, he’s been raised right and he did what it takes to get there in the first place… it’ll be easier after I’ve seen him in person again.</p>

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Tears of joy. :)</p>

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<p>Ah, a Presbyterian here wishing for a Jewish mother…(a guy here at work is Jewish Mexican…he says he has the ultimate mother…)</p>

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<p>S2 commented in his email today that the work is “getting pretty difficult” and it is sad how much high school leaves out that seems pretty important as he studies it now. He has a big English paper coming up, but is looking forward to writing it because of the topic (Star Wars). He is also happy about finishing the last group assignment and getting a new group now in his engineering class, punctuated with a big Yahoo. He ended his email with some questions for us, followed by advice to have a good week and keep warm. Reminded me of the maturity boysx3 is seeing. </p>

<p>S2 was home week-end before last and most of his friends came home as well, including one flying in from Ole Miss. They all had a wonderful time together. He came iin at 3:00 am on Saturday and the person dropping him off honked the horn as they pulled away from the house. I told him that was inappropriate and it turned out the mom was driving. I was surprised how much time S2 devoted to us. When his cell phone rang at the dinner table he turned it off and apologized without even glancing at the number. </p>

<p>I have been reading other’s posts on illness with crossed fingers and well wishes. Jolynne, how did the discussion with your son go on his thoughts about a potential change in major?</p>

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<p>So sorry to hear about the first broken hearts. kmcrindle–I think my D would instantly fall in love with a boy that asks for chocolate cake. </p>

<p>historymom–I can’t imagine leaving two. I’ve been thinking it’s getting easier to have D away, but I wonder if that sorry feeling is doubled when there are two? </p>

<h1>theory–thinking about you and the testing today.</h1>

<p>Geekmom–in nearly two years at CC I’ve not learned to quote-, but that is beautiful, “This! I just keep telling myself it’s all going to work out, he’s been raised right and he did what it takes to get there in the first place… it’ll be easier after I’ve seen him in person again.” I try to remind myself of this all the time, and wonder why I am surprised D continues to make good choices in her life. Maybe it’s because I know the mistakes I made.</p>

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<p>"…wonder why I am surprised D continues to make good choices in her life. Maybe it’s because I know the mistakes I made. "</p>

<p>Amen.</p>

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<p>Missy,</p>

<p>I’d be glad to adopt you! I’m always making soup and I am always happy to share it with friends!</p>

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<p>Prayers to your friend Missypie, how terrifying for his family and his friends.</p>

<p>Testing was <em>fine</em>, I hear. There is more testing to happen the next time S is back from school over winter break. I am supposed to put together a <em>history</em> of S’s school career with us much back up material as possible - however all I have is his HS years and 2nd grade. I have until December to do this, so that’s fine. She’ll use it all to write her report and recommendations. I liked her quite a bit, and so did S. I guess I’ll know something come January…</p>

<p>Meanwhile, I am getting a scratchy throat, a cough and my ears are bothering me. Grrr
I’ll take some of that loverly soup, please</p>

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<p>boysx3 - I predict you are going to be very popular this winter! I was just thinking I should stockpile chicken soup for all the flu cases presumably coming our way.</p>

<p>oh dear #theorymom - I hope some of boysx3’s soup, plenty of other liquids, and a good, long night’s sleep will help you kick whatever is ailing you.</p>

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<p>I hope all the sick kids and people are getting better (especially Missypie’s unfortunate friend). According to one of my son’s surgeons, there have been studies that suggest that homemade chicken soup does in fact provide medical benefits but only if you leave the fat in, as Jewish mothers used to do.</p>

<p>Congrat, NorthMinnesota on your 30th anniversary. Paris was spectacular. The food was wonderful (I had my favorite, foie gras, in four separate meals) as was the coffee. Museums were super as always and this time, we climbed the Arc de Triomphe, which I’d never done before. We walked for miles every day and had a great time.</p>

<p>ShawbridgeD took the PSATs, with extra time and Ritalin for the first time, and thought she did extremely well on the math. We’re hoping for that and reading comprehension. But, she wasn’t shaken by it, which was good.</p>

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<p>We took the kids to Paris when they were 7, 10 and 12. We discovered that they loved to climb anything that could be climbed - Notre Dame, Arc de Triomphe, the stairs to Sacre Couer. Intriguing that kids who complained if we were parked too far away at the mall love to climb stuff on vacation.</p>

<p>Envious of your trip!</p>

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<p>Hello friends. I’d decided to detox from CC when this thread got a tad too confrontational for me, but have spend a couple of hours catching up and realized I just missed all of you!</p>

<p>No big surprise for S, but we rarely hear from him. Visited for PW a couple of weeks ago, and he is absolutely THRIVING at college! His lack of effort in HS didn’t present him with choices he was excited about for college, and he ended up picking his stepdad’s alma mater very, VERY grudgingly. When we saw him, he was involved in an intramural and working out in the gym (both firsts), talking to his two roomies about which dorm they want to be in next year, buying the student sports pass (this from the boy who HATED all sports), shopping in the student store for spirit wear, loving his ancient civ class, talking about studying in the library and his great midterm, pre-curve test score…happy! Of course, mom has to have the big talk about the lack of contact, but I am thrilled.</p>

<p>The empty nest is blooming at home!</p>

<p>NM, I’m sorry to hear your D isn’t getting the experience she and you had hoped for, but it sounds like she is resilient, and if she does transfer, she’ll be far ahead of the curve for the challenge she’s facing now.</p>

<h1>TM, so pleased #TS is doing so well. His grades will be fine - college is about learning, and he’ll do that.</h1>

<p>S’s silence does make me a little crazy about the H1N1, but when we took one of his roommates to dinner, he DID promise to call if S got sick. Hope all of you and yours are okay, and Missypie, my prayers are with your friend.</p>

<p>Glad to be back - I think we need to do a virtual care package party, complete with cocktails and some of Owlice’s specialties.</p>

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This thread, really? I must’ve missed the show. Welcome back, cpeltz! I’ve just come back too, after taking the whole summer off. :slight_smile: How wonderful that your son has settled in so happily! And the virtual care package party sounds like a lovely idea. :D</p>

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<p>Hello all – I took a break this weekend to get caught up on work (lots of grading and the like), after having been out of town the last two weekends.</p>

<p>Also, I thought it best not to read about everyone’s kids being home for break, since our D is far away (although, PRJ, thus missed your kind note!). D has been a bit blue there; I, a bit blue here …</p>

<p>Counting down til Thanksgiving now…</p>

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<p>I missed any fuss too, gone until mid-September. Welcome back Cpeltz. Thanks for checking in. And WOW does your S sound like college was just what the doctor ordered. You should feel thrilled and proud</p>

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<p>Z - sorry about the blues.</p>

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<p>Z- so sorry to hear about the mutual blues. Any thing specific or is it a general way of being?</p>

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<p>Double Amen. I honestly believe this is a real issue for me. Raised in a label-loving family with two older sisters, Brainiac and spunky sporty type were taken so I was left with hell-raiser. As a clue that this was my destiny (at least in my youth) was the family Christmas photo taken when I was about 4 months old. Sisters were both dressed in little santa suits and I was dressed as a devil - I kid you not!</p>

<p>It’s so weird now that I am obsessed with “doing the right thing.” It’s a therapist’s summer house for sure. </p>

<p>Missy - please know that we are all holding your friend in our prayers. I do hope there is much better news very soon and the complications will un-complicate quickly. </p>

<p>Sent son a care package today that held his gloves and some baseball hats for his unruly hair. I honestly have never seen his hair as long as it was when we saw him over PW. To think he wont have a hair cut until Thanksgiving is almost impossible to consider. I also sent him a HUGE carmel apple (his favorite), some candy (natch) and crystal hot sauce to help spice up the cafeteria food. I also sent him those little mini pumpkins but will send him a halloween laden box at the end of the week with things that will be fun for all.</p>