<p>missypie: Just returned from being out of state. So very sorry to hear about your friend’s passing. Many hugs and prayers sent to you and his family. May you find some peace and comfort in your memories.</p>
<p>downtoearth. Sorry to hear about your D. Traveling does make it extra scary. </p>
<p>S2 called last night and seems to have gotten H1N1 as well. Tooks some tests yesterday, unprepared and feeling awful; started feeling bad on Sunday. I think his father talked him into staying in his room today and not sure he could get out of bed anyway as his condition deteriorates, but he is beside himself about missing tests today and getting behind. (He is not speaking to be because somehow everything is my fault.) There is so much pressure and such a fast pace in college that getting sick just puts you right over the edge. Has made for a very stressful day today as all I can do is worry on his behalf. Missypie’s experience just puts a big knot in my stomach about all the what-ifs.</p>
<p>D2 is also sick but I think it is just a cold. Runny nose, congestion,barky cough, 101 fever. Feels better with sudafed type meds. Hope I am not misdiagnosing her and she has the flu! :eek:</p>
<p>Aww, Analyst – the burden we bear as Mothers - it’s always our fault. At one time I threatened to quit saving for college educations and instead put all the cash into future therapy account. I was hoping that if it was still going to be my fault, there might be some relief in that I was now literally paying for my mistakes!</p>
<p>As I said on the pet peeve board - which puts the save haven of Class of 2013 in perspective - my son has gotten so many emails about H1N1 from the school, the dean, RA’s etc, that I honestly feel he no longer attunes to the message. It’s oversaturation at this point and for some reason his mail is no longer linked to his Iphone and so it’s not like he can take them as they come. So… he’s email is getting clogged. </p>
<p>He will be miserable on too many levels to count if he really gets sick. He HATES… and I repeat… he HATES to miss class. I can’t even imagine his horror is he had to make up tests! I think that schools are being really understanding with absences. I’ve read as much on both my S’s school website and older D’s.</p>
<p>Speaking of which… I think I’ve mentioned she is back in school FINALLY of her own volition AND, since she turns 25 at the end of the month, is also paying for it. She’s taking loans for some of it but H&I agree we will pay them off for her if she gets good grades and stays in school. We have not told her this as we really have learned with her that she has to be doing it for her and her alone. She is a child who cannot be bribed under any circumstances. Son? As we know, he’ll answer detailed emails if there’s cash involved. </p>
<p>Anyway… I just cleaned out my file cabinet (actually, I wanted to get rid of one and so was consolidating). I was just visually reminded of all the trouble we had with the public school when older D was there. She was diagnosed with ADD (inattentive type) back in elementary school. The high school was so unsupportive and uneducated that in going through all my files I ended up throwing away nearly 5 inches of my own research and correspondance with her school. I compare that to where younger two kids went and while I realize it costs us a fortune, I probably spent at least half of that in printing ink between 1998-2003!! Man, have times changed for the better.</p>
<p>D texted me this morning (why won’t that child just call?) to tell me she had a fever of 102, body aches, chills, runny nose, congestion and a cough. She called Student Health and they told her she had H1N1 and to stay in her room. Roomie will pick up “Flu Packet”, which has meal tickets so others can bring her food. Right now she says the worst part is trying to climb up or down from her loft.</p>
<p>We’re headed to PW on Friday. I wish it were today!</p>
<p>“I was now literally paying for my mistakes!”</p>
<p>Thank you for the smile. I needed that. Congrats on your D going back to school. She sounds motivated and ready.</p>
<p>H1N1 seems to be hitting our little group here in a big way. I will keep my fingers crossed that all of our kids have a mild case and bounce back quickly. Our older son is very bad at being sick because it so rarely happens to him. He managed to not get H1N1 when it was a huge epidemic in Rio this past summer (their winter), with the university closed, teachers all sick, people on the street wearing masks everywhere, etc. He can be spotty with his communication so I was feeling downtoearth’s nervousness about the fact that he was so far away, but I think the big danger has passed there since it’s now summer.</p>
<p>Our younger one has had his share of medical challenges, so has the stoic thing down pat, which usually means he tries to ignore his symptoms as long as possible. At the same time, when he gets sick it seems to get complicated more often than not. He almost died from an anaeorbic pneumonia when he was younger. I know this flu can turn into a pneumonia so I’m definitely nervous. His RA has been alerted and has a room right next door, so that gives me some comfort.</p>
<p>here’s to a speedy recovery for all your sick kids. My H is aking my D2 to get H1N1 vaccine now. I do worry about my older D as she already doesnt feel well. She says its part of dorm living. Everyone is sick. At my D’s school she went to class sick for test. professor said NO Makeups. do you think kids are taking advantage?</p>
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<p>How harsh! The few schools around here that still give perfect attendance awards are suspending their program this year so that sick kids won’t come to school just to get Perfect Attendance.</p>
<p>I think if a professor said no to make ups I’d be making a casual inquiry to the dean to see if the school has a stated policy on flu. Proof of illness as consideration? Something? That seems not only harsh, but dangerously so. I think I’d be asking D if that was what was originally stated (before H1N1 went rampant) or if it MIGHT have changed since then.</p>
<p>I have to ask, did everybody but me send a thermometer with their kids? I’m just thinking that there’s no way he’s going to know what his temp is, if he gets sick. Also, climbing up and down from the loft bed in a feverish delirium is worrying. I still remember from my own college years, the time food poisoning swept the residence and I was in the top bunk that week. Not nice.</p>
<p>Nope, didn’t send a thermometer - wasn’t on any of the checklists I saw!</p>
<p>Yes, I sent a thermometer with D but only because of an email from the Health Service suggesting so.
Her college had a sweep of H1N1 right off the bat in early September, including the death of one student. Now, not so much. I think my D had the flu in September - we are now debating the vaccine, hmmm…</p>
<p>We sent the thermometer when S was home for a visit a couple of week-ends ago because some other poster had a sick child with no way to take a temperature. </p>
<p>S went to school without much more than the clothes on this back, but after that poster’s comments I gave him a big bottle of Vitamin C, kleenex, thermometer and Tylenol to take back to school after his visit home. CC is always an excellent source of suggestions.</p>
<p>I haven’t heard from him at all today so I guess I am going to break down and call. I’m just worried about waking him up.</p>
<p>Got the memo after we dropped him. If you recall, he thought additional stain removers along with his laundry detergent was ridiculous, he also rebuked a first aid kid intended to help with wounds with blood. (Seriously, who the hell complains about bandaids and some antibiotic topical cream for heavens sake). I cannot imagine his response if a thermometer showed up. Plus… there are a ton of kids and I know he has rubbing alcohol. I’ll trust he’d figure it out if need be OR one of the girls in his group of friends would!! (I know - sexist - but it’s in the female DNA to “take care”)</p>
<p>No answer.</p>
<p>yes I sent a thermometer, but she says it doesnt work right, not effective if you dont know how to use it. Yes that top bunk seems like too much aches and fever and climbing not fair. Analyst, I would be calling to any way you know anyone else like the RA phonenumber who could check on him and not disturb him. or is this not allowed? I defiantely would want the update. I try to let go but the health thing is hard to.</p>
<p>This is making me realize I don’t have a phone number for RA or roommate. Ironically, we went through a similar scare with S1 falling out of contact for awhile and we realized we wouldn’t have any option except to call the police if we didn’t hear from him eventually. I finally got him and demanded phone numbers for several people in Rio we could call to track him down if he didn’t answer phone or email in the future and I was really worried. I then did the same thing for my mother and sister. For some reason, S2 fell through the cracks. I have cell phone numbers for some of his friends at college, but I know they are in different dorms and pretty far away. I think I will look for a general number for the dorm and try to track down that RA.</p>
<p>OK a thermometer is definitely going back with him at TG. I’m not totally negligent though, I did send kleenex, tylenol, advil, bandaids, ointment, nasal spray etc. This weekend when he came home he lets it slip that he had pink eye earlier that week and had the thrice daily eye drops and couldn’t wear his contacts until Wed. Somewhat inconvenient as a dance major. I guess it’s rampant there.</p>
<p>Hope those kids down with the flu have a speedy recovery with no complications. It’s so hard when they’re unwell but beyond our reach aside from sporadic updates.</p>
<p>Analyst - security office will have the numbers. Trust me, I have done it, you can too!</p>
<p>Analyst… have you said whether or not you text? Can’t recall. But I’d send a text and ask for proof of life. He MAY just not have the energy to give all the details and so is ignoring answering (or hearing the ring). However, sometimes when I know son is busy and just need a quick answer or want to tell HIM something (requiring no response) I’ll just text him.</p>