<p>Oh no, missypie, I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend. Deepest sympathy to you, your family, and your friend’s family.</p>
<p>Well, I guess I could have texted D at school. By second period the son’s classmate texted the news to everyone he knew.</p>
<p>Missypie, may your friend’s memory be for a blessing. Sening comfort and strength to his family, collegaues, and many friends.</p>
<p>I am so very sorry. It’s always hard to lose a parent, but I think for a senior in high school that has got to be especially difficult.</p>
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<p>Remember all the tears we all shed through out the milestones of senior year/graduation/moving to school? How will a recent widow handle it?</p>
<p>missypie, I too am sorry to hear about your friend. We have friends who learned last spring that the husband, a charming, lovable guy, had cancer that is likely untreatable (although he’s having chemotherapy). His two kids were going off to college in the fall and his wife really took it very hard. He’s still alive but in August and September, she was beside herself, saying, “We’d planned to have a great time together but now the kids will leave and I’ll be all alone.” Very tough.</p>
<p>My dad died very suddenly almost exactly two weeks after my H and I were married 20 years ago. His not being there for when my younger children were born and their never knowing just how cool a guy he was has been really sad for me, but at least he was there to walk me down the aisle. I asked H today about his will - as frankly, mine hasn’t really changed much in terms of decisions. We talked today however about a new executor in case we’re both wiped out. My dad didn’t die without a will but it wasn’t very recent as Missypie points out. Since my parents were divorced and my dad was remarried, there were a lot of issues since he hadn’t really updated it - OR his life insurance (which went to my Mother). Frankly, I don’t know what I’d do if my husband died so young. And to be really honest? I barely know where half the stuff is. I keep telling him to make me a folder so if something happens it will all be right there. OK… I am now working myself into a slight panic attack.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry for your loss. Your concern for the family re: non visitation will be respected, I think. Prayers.</p>
<p>I hope someone is studying the poor people who succumb to this flu to begin to understand why some survive and some don’t.</p>
<p>Missypie, I don’t even know what to say, I’m so, so sorry. Let us know how we can support yo as you support your friends. hugs :(</p>
<p>Missypie, sending you sincere thoughts and hugs. I am so sorry for you having to go through this…</p>
<p>owlice - I didn’t think petitions were denied? How does that happen? Hugs your way, too…</p>
<p>Regarding updating wills–depending on what state you are in you may be able to use an online program and have it notarized (a simple will). On a lighter note–we were discussing such info with 25 yr D when we were leaving for our trip. She was horrified to learn that the final sums of money would not be available to her or her brother until they are 35 in the event that something happened to us. Education and connected needs would be liberally provided but the rest much later. Can’t imagine what my own brother would have spent an inheritance on at age 19. I would have traveled the world, which is not a bad thing. Still, most are wiser at 35 than at 25. It rainy and dark here and this is a sad day for missypie and scary for the rest of us. S will be home to see his GF 
this weekend and he does not know it but he will be getting the H1N1 on Sat. morning.</p>
<p>Missypie - I am so sorry.</p>
<p>Missypie, my heart goes out to your friend’s family and to you.</p>
<p>To followup on the PSA, not only update your wills, but let people know what they need to know to get access to them. My H and I made a trip a few months ago (first time leaving D home alone for almost a week). We had recently updated our wills. I told her who our attorney was and where our safe deposit key was. She was a little startled, but agreed that she was in fact technically an adult now and should know about these things. It was actually a good opportunity to talk about those awkward “what ifs”. I guess those teachable moments continue.</p>
<p>oh Missypie: I am so so sorry. Like Counting Down said, may the memories of your friend comfort you, may thoughts of him as he was eventually cheer you and may his spirit become a source of support to you, his family and the rest of his friends. Sudden losses are so very hard to cope with. Prayers go out to you and yours.</p>
<p>Y’all are so sweet. Sorry to have monopolized the conversation yesterday. Last night’s dinnertime conversation quickly turned to how my friend’s family would get money (the wife is a SAHM) and how they would get money if I passed away. (Last week there was a murder-suicide of parents of kids in D’s HS, so the thought of being orphaned was on their minds anyway.) Nice to be able to say that we have decent life insurance. I had to admit that I don’t know the password for our on-line banking (that H does) and I actually don’t know the location of our safe deposit box (the bank has moved a few times.)</p>
<p>I handle all aspects of finances. My wife knows nothing but she knows who to call: my executive assistant, my broker, my accountant for personal and corporate taxes, and my lawyer for most personal and corporate issues (who is married to one of her college roommates). Between them, they know everything or know who to call. I sorted all that out for my mother when my father died because there was no one to call. Good thing I knew the password to his computer. Boy was it a lot of work.</p>
<p>^Exactly Shawbridge… I just want a folder with all the numbers because the last thing I could be thinking of is who to call when it comes to an emergency like that. I don’t think I’d be able to think!</p>
<p>one other thing to do is make sure your life insurance is what you need it to be. I have not be able to up my insurance in years, and knock on wood your health stays good, if you get diagnosed with anything then it is what it is.
My D2 is getting the H1N1 I feel quility but worry that she is in the risk group. has asthma. and is traveling abroad, and i am ill. Missypie’s friend brings it all into reality. Its so hard to know . Its also at her school.</p>
<p>My son’s school’s health center (as I’ve posted) keeps posting updates on their website. The number of flu cases as quadrupled in the last 6 days.</p>