<p>Missy - I am so so sorry!!!l. What a nightmare! His poor wife and kids! Oh I am filling with tears here. How completely sad and terrible. How very very sad.</p>
<p>And like you, I have no idea how often son checks his mail. I sent him a box last monday and he has yet to get it. He says it wasn’t there, but it was sent priority mail! I think I won’t be sending him perishables anymore if I send him anything.</p>
<p>Frankly, I don’t know what is going on. He says the school sends email to tell them they have a package. I say the school sends them an email after the students haven’t picked it up for a week! Sent him another medium flat rate box FULL of raisin oatmeal cookies on Saturday mostly because I was trying to perfect a recipe and we have no need for dozens of cookies around here. They “tasted” good, but appearance is a problem. Does anyone have a good raisin oatmeal cookie recipe that doesn’t have them baking too thin? Then again, I feel packages I send are very unappreciated.</p>
<p>It will be interesting to note if he picks up the letter I sent with his pay off inside. Our youngest keeps saying I only send to S and not older D, but doesn’t quite get that the older D has her own apt and is 25. Sending her cookies to stuff her 5’4" 110 pound frame is probably not as well received as it should be for a suite full of 6 guys. Her 16th birthday is next week. I so wanted to do somethng special but she just doesn’t want to do anything that requires inviting people, even a special dinner party out. I am having issues with no matter what I do, it doesn’t feel I’ve done the right thing.</p>
<p>However, thinking about Missy’s friend does give us all a new perspective. It can be lost - all of it - in a blink of an eye. My thoughts of strength go out to this family who is so greatly suffering. I am so so sorry for the loss of your friend.</p>
<p>I’m so so sorry your friend didn’t make it. The loss of a wonderful friend leaves such a big hole in your heart. I’ve suffered the loss of three very close friends over the years and I miss each of them still. All I can do is send you a hug.</p>
<p>Trying to figure out if I should text my younger Ds to tell them. They both have tests today and I’d prefer they not be told until school is out, but I’m worried that at least the older D will get a text from someone else telling her. (Boy, this is an issue our parents didn’t have to worry about!)</p>
<p>Thanks, all, for the divorce support, and kmc, for the retainers and Undercover. Modadunn, the recipe on the Quaker Oat container – on the inside of the lid, not the one outside – is the best I know of. </p>
<p>missypie, I am so sorry about your friend; how awful and sad this is. My thoughts are with you and your friend’s family.</p>
<p>And I would not text the news; I’d call them after their tests.</p>
<p>Missypie–also just so sad for you and esp. his family.
I agree with owlice–call them after. If they hear about it before they will still want to talk with you.</p>
<p>oh how horribly sad missypie—we all know how you have been praying for this friend all this time…my heart goes out to this poor family whose life has been changed forever. it really does remind us how life is so fragile. agree with others here that its better to talk with your kids later. virtual hug to you~so uniquely painful to lose a friend</p>
<p>Just as a PSA, please all of you parents, make sure you have wills and if you had them done when your oldest was born (what we did) look at them to make sure they express what you want. My friend was a very dilligent lawyer, so I’m sure all that was taken care of, but I’ve heard lots of stories of bad things that happen when folks die without a will.</p>
<p>oh, missypie. words fail. I am so, so sorry for you, your family and your friend’s family. I wish all of you comfort and peace in the days ahead.</p>