<p>Thinking of you both and hoping for positive results. I am sure he is disappointed. Hope he can rally and be stronger and more independent. I hope the school was compassionate and helpful. Take care!</p>
<p>The school was amazingly compassionate, and will, I think, be helpful.</p>
<p>In a way it’s a relief. I hadn’t KNOWN things weren’t going well this quarter, but I was getting bad vibes and had the feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop. Now it has.</p>
<p>Oh, CardinalFang, I am so sorry to hear of this turn of events.</p>
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<p>I know what you mean.</p>
<p>Thinking of you, and wishing you both the best.</p>
<p>Thanks for your sympathy, NorthernMinnesota and DragonLady.</p>
<p>CF, just popped on for a minute to catch up, and I’m so sorry. Hugs to you and Fangson.</p>
<p>CFang… so sorry to hear about your son! How do they make that kind of decision? i.e., he hasnt been back that long, has he? And just to be more informed of kids with special differences, while I understand “shut down” from my D’s ADD point of view, what does that entail for a kid with Aspergers or more relevant, your kid in particular?</p>
<p>CF, what an unpleasant surprise. However, I’m very impressed that the school paid attention to him. Kids with Asperger’s often become invisible. I have this fear that my son could completely shut down and no one would know or care.</p>
<p>I’m grateful the school was on the situation so quickly.</p>
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<p>That would be my impression as well and is why I ask the question about what it means to shut down to the point where they recommend a medical leave? Actually, I don’t think it only applies to those with Aspergers to become invisible when shutting down so was another reason I was curious.</p>
<p>Oh, CF, I’m sorry to hear that. You and your S are in my thoughts.</p>
<p>There were a couple of times in HS where Son was sent to the school psychologist after a shut down episode. Both times, he was referred by his choir teacher who knew him well and was concerned. That’s the troubling thing about college - no one knows him well enough to know what’s normal and care about him.</p>
<p>CF, I am so impressed with your perspective. Knowing that it was a risk to allow FangSon to try being away, you let him take the risk. To see it as worth the risk is wonderful. Hopefully just a bump on the highway, and this first attempt will pave the way to the next.</p>
<p>He wasn’t going to classes and wasn’t keeping up his personal life either. I think he might’ve just been sleeping and maybe surfing the internet.</p>
<p>CF - Hope things work out. Good luck.</p>
<p>Oh Dear CF. Please keep us posted. That is not just a little bit scary, That is frightening. I am so sorry, but I know you can get this worked out with him. It might mean he has to be closer to home. Oh dang I am upset for you. We have such great hopes for our kids. Believe me you deserve these {{{{{HUGS}}}}</p>
<p>I agree with LaxTaxi - that giving our kids the chance to take risks and see, even if they don’t go so well, the benefits is really wonderful. And I also agree that I hope lots of virtual hugs will help. </p>
<p>Truly impressed that the school took such care to make sure the kid came first. Not all would or do.</p>
<p>CF, Am so sorry that your S is having such difficulty, but I am very heartened to hear how the school was on top of the situation, esp. after hearing some of the stories about other kids who have struggled and slipped through the cracks. I am glad you gave him the opportunity to try college away from home, and hope that with some time and support, he can find his way back on a path that will bring him joy and independence.</p>
<p>Woody – sending healing thoughts to your D’s friend.</p>
<p>On a side note – Wikipedia is not a valid source here, either. S2 finds it helpful for Bio when Campbell is a bit too obtuse. Using wiki for research does help cut through the useless Google searches, though. S1 says the math and CS theory entries are quite good.</p>
<p>wow. not the best day. Sorry to hear CF about the news, though it does seem great that the school picked up on it and responded rather than waiting until the end of the quarter.</p>
<p>CF, I sense that you are very appropriately going into crisis management mode and keeping a level head until you get your S home, safe, and settled. Then you can let yourself fall apart a little, if needed. We will all be here for you as you and your S navigate next steps in the coming months.</p>
<p>CF, so sorry to hear of this setback. As others have mentioned, I give you all points for doing the experiment with having him at least try to be away at school. That’s a brave move for all of you. And the next step will be, well, whatever the next step is: but it’s one at a time. You’ll all learn from this and be better prepared for the future. I wish you all well.</p>