<p>I am so sorry CF perhaps this break will give him a chance to figure out the problems and get on a better track. D’s roomate left early in the semester nobody know why and she is back in January. Many kids do it. .</p>
<p>doesnt Bill Gates have Aspergers syndrome?</p>
<p>Bill Gates has never been publically diagnosed with Aspergers. Some people have observed that he seems to have Aspergers-like traits.</p>
<p>CF, I am so sorry. I wonder if your son appeared to be depressed to RA, and that brought him some attn. Or, perhaps he approached the counseling center himself. My experience is that some Aspie people tend to withdraw and not reach out, making a minor problem into something major. I don’t remember where your son attends, but hope he will be home soon.</p>
<p>Sorry for the news CardinalFang. You sound so together - hats off to you. I hope FangJr. comes home quickly and safely. Hugs to the Fang family.</p>
<p>I don’t think I’m particularly together-- it’s just that what is, is. We have to figure out what’s next. Therapy, certainly.</p>
<p>CF–you sound like a very supportive parent. Good wishes for you and your S.</p>
<p>Situation here and wondering if anyone has any info to help. Nephew, 15, ADHD, ----stealing, smoking cigs, some weed (what do they call it these days??), fighting with parents (he called police! who came and said, “look kid…”).
Parents are looking for a therapeutic boarding school program. Lucky for them $ is not an issue. They are in NV but would consider anywhere. I have been researching with them. Anyone here know of a place they a good opinion of–?</p>
<p>Hyde School, Bath Maine.</p>
<p>I’m more grateful than I can say for all your support, everyone.</p>
<p>CF, just checking after several days absence. So glad for your sake that the school was on top of this. You, S and the rest of your family are in my thoughts. {{{hugs}}}</p>
<p>oregon101, another vote for Hyde School. [Hyde</a> Schools|Preparation For Life](<a href=“http://www.hyde.edu/]Hyde”>http://www.hyde.edu/) A good friend is a graduate (she was there in the late 70s) and her D is there now.</p>
<p>Hey–thanks LT and PJR --passed on the information. Makes me appreciate my S a bit more. He leaves on Sunday. Both H and I think a month is too long for a break as he is so out of the school cycle now.</p>
<p>Ah, Fang, this so stinks, but you’re right, it just is. Hoping you and your S can find a way to not just survive this but thrive through it. You can let go here if you need and there is plenty of support to keep you upright.</p>
<p>Sending lots of hugs and heaps of white light to the Fang family. Some days it’s harder than others to remember the universe is perfect.</p>
<p>S1 just sent us his flight schedule. Right now he is supposed to get into DC at 6:30 am and thinks he can make a 10:00 am class in Charlottesville on the 20th. H will pick him up and drive him straight to C’ville but between customs and traffic (not to mention any possible delay), I think it is just too tight. I told him it’s worth the cost of changing the ticket to get in the day before, if possible. His last day of work was Friday so all he will miss is an extra day of hanging out. My bet is he takes the risk of missing the first day of class. Knowing him, he will make it and tell me I always worry for nothing. We definitely have diifferent styles.</p>
<p>Let it go, TheAnalyst. Just remind him he might consider emailing the professor to tell him of his flight (just in case its a professor who kicks you out if you’re not there first day). I can totally understand the desire to hang out one more day in his position. And there is that very good chance that it will all work out fine. Frankly, with the way international travel is evolving these days, you can’t really even guarantee that he will get through even if he flies the day before.</p>
<p>I really like the email idea. That would make me feel much better and is something he would probably be willing to do (unlike changing his flights!).</p>
<p>CF - I was thinking last night how grateful you must be for the college to monitor this and call you. And I was also thinking about having to pack up his entire dorm room and get everything home. What a job. I prayed for you and Fang Jr. God knows your real name.:)</p>
<p>Cardinal Fang - I hope things will be better for your son. Best wishes!</p>
<p>I am seconding the thoughts of compassion offered by eddie. Hard enough to face the challenge of finding the child help, but given that you also have to pack up the entire room and get it all home is a task that will be hard to get through emotionally, let alone physically. Hopefully there will be some help on the floor that will be in line with the care they’ve shown in calling in the first place.</p>
<p>Honestly, I am now curious what S will do come summer. I suppose there must be storage on campus or at least nearby to move boxes of belongings to for the summer months. I honestly don’t recall what I did with books, posters etc although I was within two hours drive so I imagine I might have brought things home and stuck them in the garage over the summer or something. Putting that on my list of things to ask son. </p>
<p>I sent him a 3" memory foam mattress topper for his bed because he had been complaining about his back and the lacking mattress. It arrived yesterday so I am curious how last night’s sleep was. As for storage needs: I also had shipped him a large tower fan at the beginning of the school year – all of this and more will need to find a home for the summer months.</p>
<p>Cardinal Fang - I am so sorry to hear Fang Jr is going through such a rough time. </p>
<p>I remember how thoughtfully and carefully you two looked at and considered different schools. I’m so glad that his school was so conscientious in helping him.</p>
<p>My best wishes to you and your family as you fly, pack, get re-settled at home, and as your son re-groups and moves forward again.</p>