<p>Missypie - It sounds like there might be some other parents who feel the same way you do. Any chance of maybe figuring out who they might be and presenting a united front? I know it would be a lot of work but in the long run (the next 4 years) it could pay off. Just a suggestion, I think you are in a difficult spot here.</p>
<p>I totally agree that the squad should do some sort of volunteer effort. Our HS requires every club/sport/activity to do one.</p>
<p>At the meeting I was trying to look around and notice which moms were being really quiet…there weren’t a lot but there were a few. My guess is that the greatest support would come from the ones who have stopped attending the meetings.</p>
<p>Missy --you’re probably right. You’re talking scrapbooks that cost much more than high school yearbooks, and those get opened about once a year after graduation. At best.</p>
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<p>Yeah, I’m anxious to see one (but not own one.) Our HS yearbook is gorgeous - lots of full color pictures, a supplemental DVD for late sports, etc. and it costs no where near that much.</p>
<p>Just an idea that might be useful…</p>
<p>my sons have been involved on teams where the boys were expected to help fundraise for extensive travel expenses, etc…
one thing they have sometimes done is run “clinics” for younger age groups as a fundraiser. At times they have offered evening indoor soccer “camps” at holiday time so the parents can go Xmas shopping, etc…</p>
<p>could the cheer girls do something similar perhaps?</p>
<p>They do that. I assume there is a quota that we each sign up a certain number of girls or we pay.</p>
<p>question. My D and I were disagreeing. if a girl sends nude pictures of herself to boyfriend and boyfriends’ friend sends it all over school, who is at fault? My D says kids do this all the time. I say because “everyone” does it doesnt make it right. She says girl is humiliated. I say she shouldnt have been doing it. These kids are too young for this. I went on to explain that one should not post something public if you dont want it to bite you in the bum later on. anyway I think they are all culpable. She thinks the girl did nothing wrong. criminal charges are being tossed around. I may be “old fashioned” and I try to understand our world, but this type of behavior is not right in my book. kids involved are 15. My d feels bad sometimes that she does not have a boyfriend and she is very pretty but I am glad to avoid this craziness, focus on school.</p>
<p>We must all be busy theses days…this was on page three! :eek:</p>
<p>D2 was sent an interesting email from her new transfer school. Asked if she would consider early entrance to their law school after junior year…no LSAT, looks at GPA and ACT scores. Need to get more info. She said it was “interesting” but not sure if that was her thing.</p>
<p>Edit: Yikes dte! Heading out to work out…I definitely have an opinion on this and will share when I return!</p>
<p>The only way the boyfriend’s friends could send the pictures to others is if the BF sent them the photo to begin with. There is a lot of blame here, IMO. First, the girl sending nude photos. At 15? She absolutely should be humiliated, but not for the pictures making the rounds, but for her own stupidity in having such a low sense of self that she found this a reasonable thing to do in the first place. Where is her self respect? Secondly, what kind of BF sends pictures of their GF naked to his friends? Dump the dude for sure. As soon as the GF hit send with her nakedness she opened the door for disrespectful behavior to ensue. While I am not sure of the criminality behind the actions (isn’t there a kid on some sexual predator watch list because of doing this same thing?), I do think the impulsivity of some kids is leading to huge consequences that can and do affect them for a long, long time.</p>
<p>Frankly, I just can’t get by the fact that any 15 year old girl would assume this was a good idea by any measure.</p>
<p>I feel sad that kids can get in trouble - big criminal trouble - in ways that we never could. There have always been boys and girls who acted without thinking but now their thoughtless “sexting” can make its way around the world forever. Some of these kids are being registered as sex offenders which can follow them for life. Folks over 18 who send on the pictures/emails of a person under 19 can be charged with distribution of child pornography.</p>
<p>A girl at our HS had a similar issue her freshman year and it has followed her for years - how do you make everyone who has that picture delete it? Because of that I have lectured my Ds endlessly on this issue - at some point, your boyfriend when you are 15 isn’t going to be your boyfriend anymore and that’s when the world sees your picture.</p>
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<p>It sounds as if your D is a serious student, so the program might be right for her. Depends on the kid. My friend talks about a guy in his frat who did that - while everyone else was having a fun, wild, crazy senior year, he was a One L…yikes! I can’t imagine going through the first year of law school while living in a frat house.</p>
<p>Modadunn and missypie have said it well. Culpability for this begins with the girl. </p>
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downtoearth. I feel exactly the same way. I just don’t get it.</p>
<p>There can really be serious criminal consequences. There’s a story floating around here about a 12 year old boy who emailed some naughty pictures of himself (but I think it was just his bare bottom) and the cops showed up at his house and arrested him. He didn’t do any time, but his parents’ legal bills were huge.</p>
<p>Again, I feel bad for the kids…many in our generation were just as stupid, but the means to do such a thing were not available.</p>
<p>I mean this in good humor… </p>
<p>Whatever happened to having body issues? I cannot remember a time when I looked in the mirror and thought, “hey, I look great; maybe I should take a naked picture of myself?” Even now when I look back at photos and see myself as the young, pretty damn cute 20-something, I know I didn’t feel that way about myself at the time. Seems to me that self-confidence may be overrated (which is not to be confused with self-esteem or self-respect obviously).</p>
<p>Talked to son last night… another academic spillage. He is in an art show this weekend! Seriously… who knew? He has always been creative but he seems very flattered that the professor has asked that he also do a little talk about the chemical reaction of … well, to be honest, I understood it slightly as he was explaining, but not so well that I could explain it myself. Let’s just say she knows what happens when you melt two different kinds of glass, but he knows why it happens on a very molecular level. Pig in mud, I tell ya.</p>
<p>He is doing incredibly well academically except for the quiz that had them in the woods on a foggy morning identifying trees by their branches. The early spring apparently has resulted in branches holding fewer buds and more sprouting leaves during quiz time. He had studied the buds. I then realized that never in 13 years of primary and secondary education had he ever learned to identify trees… never learned to tell the difference between an Oak and a Maple. This is the problem found when transferring schools in Middle school I guess. The logic followed that in the end, it was probably his dad and my fault that the quiz didn’t go well. :)</p>
<p>I just saw a PSA on VH1 or MTV dealing with the issue of “sexting” so it seems to be a big problem. That is the kind of thing that could follow you around for a lifetime. And you’d never know who had seen you naked. Yikes. </p>
<p>Moda, was working on cleaning up our spare room- found a notebook D had done in 1st grade, I think, where they had to collect something like 20 different leaves and press them into wax paper sleeves for display. Still had it after all this time. I think I’d be hard pressed to pass the tree exam myself. But great news on the art show and presentation. </p>
<p>Brief chat with D this morning. Sick- multitude of GI complaints. Very unusual for her. She was eating some saltines- told her to call the Health Center but she thought she’d wait to see how the crackers sat. Command performance at a sorority social tonight when of course she’d just like to sleep. Always something.</p>
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<p>OMG, Mr. Witten’s 9th grade General Science class…we had to collect leaves from this long list of trees. The American Chestnut was on the list and the teacher (sterotypical coach whose top priority was the team) refused to believe that chestnut blight had vitually wiped out the tree. My dad, bless his heart, drove me to a distant state park where they actually had a remaining American Chestnut. </p>
<p>Of course, that shows you what a compulsive student I was…I’m sure I had a 99 or 100 in the class but I couldn’t stand to get a point off of the tree project for not finding the lone American Chestnut in southern Illinois.</p>
<p>To my relief, none of my kids had to do a tree or leaf ID project.</p>
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<p>Just so you know… their lacking education will be your fault when they fail to pass branch identification. I did the leaf thing too - in 7th grade. Waxed paper and all. My friend is a 3rd grade teacher in florida. Every fall I gather a bunch of fall leaves to send to her - I just make sure they’re different and of good color and pay the postage. Job done.</p>
<p>It’s actually interesting to think about how a tree/branch project would go in our neck of the woods - suburbia that was built between 1984-2000. The native trees are various oaks. Otherwise, we all have the same “builder’s special” trees and it’s hard to find anything different at the local nurseries.</p>
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<p>The wildest thing is when they don’t know how do to something on the computer and it’s my fault…like ***I ***learned that in school!!!</p>
<p>LOL! Missypie…That is what happens in my house with computer issues!</p>