<p>CF, great minds think alike as always. </p>
<p>Son has done a good job of going to meetings; he goes to work regularly and without complaint. He is generally more cheerful and agreeable. But the reality is that his job will end in August and he needs a plan for the future. I am of the mindset that it is better to develop this plan now. Son is in indecision mode. If I offer him a choice of dinner items, he can’t even decide on that.</p>
<p>If he is having trouble deciding, probably best to take the toddler view and not give him very many choices. He <em>has</em> to decide about a job after August, but maybe you should just deal with the dinners and not put him to the guess.</p>
<p>Any advice about dealing with the distraction that boyfriends can have on the susceptible minds (and attention spans) of sixteen year old girls? In a way, it’s nice that she is enjoying some of the social aspects of HS, but this is affecting her study habits and the seriousness of her attitude toward her work.</p>
<p>D1 has not done her laundry or unpacked. been home three weeks. not working yet UGHHH. she lost her contacts blamed it on the cleaning people. ( a friend gave me a free cleaning from her busisness so I could have D2’s confirmation. ) I say its buried in her room. she just wants me to go online and get her new ones. I need the numbers from the contact boxes to get the rebate #1 and she needs to prove to me its not in her H…hole of a room.#2 I notice its just like these things are expected.</p>
<p>sabaray glad it was just a butt dial!</p>
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<p>I try to do so but don’t always succeed. I do it for speed but also we’ve had numerous experiences of bags being lost and then shipped to us days later and one of bag being ruined.</p>
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<p>As tempting as it is, CF, there is actually a structured decision making approach as part of his therapy that we’ll be following to assist with impulse control. Making good decisions was always an issue for him but hopefully with a method in place he’ll be able to work through his choices. </p>
<p>Hope everyone is having an enjoyable holiday weekend.</p>
<p>Both S & D have been working hard with H & me over the last couple of days, opening up our beach house and all the work that entails, both inside and outside. That’s the good news. My rant falls into the “what are they thinking?” category. Both of them showed up to do some major yard work in flip-flops! S was out there to help H replace sections of our fence that had fallen over during the winter storms. The work involved both a sledge hammer and a huge crowbar and he’s out there in flip-flops? Needless to say I sent him inside to put on shoes, telling him he might like to keep his feet intact. The next day D wore flip-flops to help H clean the yard and haul branches. She said the only other shoes she brought were her good running shoes and she didn’t want to ruin them. So it makes more sense to ruin her feet? A-a-a-ck! Kids!</p>
<p>Sabaray… would love to know more about the tenets of “structured decision-making” and how one might set that kind of thinking up.</p>
<p>Son is working here for his dad for about a month, going back east to work for Uncle for about a month and then coming back here for the last few weeks of getting his stuff back together before returning to school. He knows that he needs to make enough cash to last him through the school year - we pay tuition and books and his job is to cover the rest. I know his younger sister is a little bummed but she has a relatively busy summer and frankly, their sharing a car is already bugging her. </p>
<p>According to the school website, professors should have all grades turned in tomorrow am and they should be online by tomorrow night. He’s only waiting on two, but if he gets what he expects he’ll land on the college scholar’s list. Usually these things don’t mean much to me, but for some reason this one does this time around.</p>
<p>Modadunn, good luck to your son in terms of grades, and on (hopefully) making the college scholar’s list. That is quite an achievement!</p>
<p>downtoearth - While my daughter is not yet home (next Wednesday) I am glad to hear what is happening in your home because I am certain that will be the situation here!</p>
<p>We have a huge (300+ people) party here on July 3rd with many people sleeping over so July 1st will be the final clean up date. If it’s not done by then, I take over and beware!!!</p>
<p>I’ve been really good so far in that I have not asked her what flight she’s coming home on (or even if she’s booked a flight yet) or if she’s done anything regarding shipping her stuff home. She wants to do it all herself - go right ahead!</p>
<p>Back from out of state and the graduation was beautiful! Teared up at both the Baccalaureate Service and Commencement. I can’t believe D1 has graduated! Still in denial that my baby is an adult! When did this really happen? H and I hosted a nice luncheon between the events at her apartment and then fiance’s family had a nice grad party for them at their place. The weekend made me feel very nostalgic. </p>
<p>Moda…soryy I was gone when you needed song suggestions! I have made several of the sports videos for teams over the years. If your D wants more songs let me know…Heart of a Champion is a good song but it is a little"rappy" but you can edit if need be. One of the things our girls really liked was to get an individual photo of each girl and then some candid groups of them together and set it to a nice “friends” song…Me & My Gang by Rascal Flatts, You’ve got a Friend in Me from Toy Story…you get the idea. Always brings tears and laughs!</p>
<p>Other songs:
Remember The Name</p>
<p>Congrats on the graduation!</p>
<p>Our school district makes a big deal of the Top 20 grads at each HS (kind of nice, so not all the focus is on the Val and Sal). The yearbook published picutres of each and where they are going to school. I think the economy had really hit our local families hard. Here is where they are going:</p>
<p>State Flagship - 13!
Other state U - 2
Local schools that give great merit aid -3
Harvard - 1
Stanford - 1</p>
<p>As for other threads for our younger students coming up: I have an "11. I spend very little time on the '11 thread. As others have said, the parents are quite intense and are disinclined to listen to the advice of folks like me who’ve been through the process before.</p>
<p>Sports Songs:
Simply the best…Tina Turner
I Believe…from Olympics…gives me goosebumps!
Unstopable…Rascal Flatts…US Olympic song
Live to Win
Don’t Stop Believing
You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet
The Final Countdown
Nothings Gonna Stop Us Now
One Dream and Ordinary Miracle by Sarah McLachlan…from Olympics</p>
<p>Check out these songs for more ideas.
<a href=“http://top40.about.com/b/2010/02/16/atts-team-usa-soundtrack-supports-the-2010-usa-winter-olympics-team.htm[/url]”>http://top40.about.com/b/2010/02/16/atts-team-usa-soundtrack-supports-the-2010-usa-winter-olympics-team.htm</a></p>
<p>NM, I almost teared up thinking about graduation. I am so happy for you and D1.</p>
<p>Hi Everyone - hope everybody had a lovely weekend. We went to our town parade this AM and it seems like it was a week ago. Such a long day. S and I are fried as behooves our northern european heritage - despite multiple applications of SPF45! H and D definitely got the Mediterranean gene for tanning!
I need advice from CCParents ‘13: D is visiting college boyfriend next week for a long weekend (yikes!) and is a little stumped for a hostess gift. The significance of such item looms large in her mind - not that I don’t agree!<br>
I remember one hostess on CC recalled a favorite college boyfriend of her D who brought a croquet set. I don’t think this family is a croquet type family; more of a huntin’ and fishin’ type. Any ideas??</p>
<p>PS NM Congratulations on the graduation!! Many more milestones to come!!!</p>
<p>woody, Mariposa makes metal (silver-colored finish) household items with an aquatic theme. One possibility: whale-shaped bottle opener; the tail is the opener. Though compared to a croquet set, this might seem a little cheap.</p>
<p>What about a board game? She could find out from the boyfriend what they have. It could be an icebreaker.</p>
<p>I second the board game. When Eggson visited GF’s family there was no hostess gift, I am sure… Because I didnt think of it. When GF visited us, there was no gift, but she did INSIST that we all sit down for a rousing game of Scrabble. </p>
<p>It was a great way to get to know one another. She’s a pretty smart cookie.</p>