<p>glad to hear it H-mom.</p>
<p>Here’s to a little easier time for all us worried mom’s next year! I think we are due.</p>
<p>congrats to kids with jobs. and getting through the year!
Its old but I like “put me in coach” by John Fogerty. I guess that song is going into the baseball Hall of fame. or SOME hall of fame as it is played the most often. Allstar cant remember the artist. please remember I am still detoxifying. dont know any rap, hate it, love country going to see Taylor Swift with my D’s. I dont think she has a song though (lol).</p>
<p>peonies I am with you I have a 2012, and I just dont want to go there. and although my d is top of the class I feel rather intimidated by that thread as my d has not done anything like those kids are doing. I think she will get into a good school. Its just hard to go there right now.</p>
<p>peonies and dte: I am with you; though my s is in the high school class of 2013. I have ventured into that thread but there are some seriously rabid parents there with kids who are type AAA. My guy, not so much. Currently he is content with a gpa between 3.0 and 3.5 and doing enough so that he does alright but doesn’t stand out.</p>
<h1>TM you are right Hear hear!</h1>
<p>Thanks, downtoearth and historymom, it’s nice to know I’m not alone. My d is pretty hard-working but also mellow - not AAA, either.</p>
<p>Raising my hand for the class of 2012 as well, but I looked at that thread once and thought for a brief second, “my kid will never amount to anything if this is the competition!” Then I shut the thread and realized my 2009 wasnt much different than she is and did just fine… BETTER than fine, in fact. And one thing I learned for sure is that grades, gpa and the rest are great, but there are other parts of growing up that are just as valuable. Junior year is definitely one of the hardest and I see no reason to start that any sooner than next September!!</p>
<p>Thanks for all the suggestions on the music folks. I broke down and asked D, and she is making me a CD but I’ve already said she has no veto power or creative control on the project. It’s hard to make sure everyone feels valued when some don’t play a whole lot and since my oldest sat on the bench for the majority of her HS career and yet never quit, I am very much aware of everyone’s dedication, or at least try to be.</p>
<p>It is too hot in MN for May. Just saying. Ugh!</p>
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<p>Truer words were never spoken. H read S2 the riot act a couple of days ago for not responding to an email question, among other things. S2 said he had tons of unread emails. H told him that was an unacceptable practice. H also found that S2 had not bought the book for his current summer school class and was just “figuring it out” on his own but at the same time complaining about how much time that took! H ordered him to buy the text book–immediately.</p>
<p>Today H got a one word email that said “Thanks” in response to his email to S2 that he had paid his $6 lab fee. H also received an email receipt for the cost of the textbook. I pointed out to H that means S2 actually listened and changed his behavior as a result of H’s rant. We will take that as progress.</p>
<p>D is pretty good about responding to my emails…eventually. Since H communicates with her less frequently he gets better results when he texts her and asks if she can talk. She almost immediately calls him. </p>
<p>S went off camping last night with some of the guys from work. The first night he has been out and away, our land line phone rings at 2:22 am. H and I had taken advantage of the children’s absence and went out for dinner and had reclaimed the television to watch both lacrosse and hockey so had a few beers and had been up later than I like to be. Needless to say after answering the phone and finding no one on the other end my heart was pounding and I couldn’t get back to sleep. Having no calls or messages on my cell, I am assuming it was simply a wrong number.</p>
<p>oh sabaray, I hate those middle of the night wrong numbers, especially when the kids are out. it takes a long time for my heart to stop pounding. (and I hear you about reclaiming the TV - much as I miss my kids, there is something to be said for a glass of wine AND control of the remote ;))</p>
<p>another 2012 mom here who is completely intimidated by that thread! I keep popping in there looking for a community like this one, but I always scurry right back here. I didn’t join CC until midway through D1’s junior year - was the 09/13 group that hardcore early on? D2 is a strong student, but can’t start taking APs until next year and SAT2’s are unheard of in the sophomore year here.</p>
<p>Considering how many of us also have '12’s we might have to start a new thread and entitle it something like “Real life 2012” or something like that. :)</p>
<p>Sometimes I will get butt called by son at weird hours, especially if he’s most recently called or I’ve called him. I’ve learned to not freak out so completely. If it was his only phone call, (aka prison) he knows to leave a message!</p>
<p>Well, I joined CC almost 6 years ago. D was starting 8th grade. I think I found CC through a google search but mainly used it as a resource while fully realizing opportunities available to others were simply not available in our community. I’m definitely one of those parents though who had a roadmap for scheduling throughout high school- mainly so D wouldn’t be bored out of her skull with what guidance thought an appropriate schedule would be. I was fortunate to find several posters who gave me the benefit of a advice through PMs and I found that far more helpful early on than the public threads.</p>
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<p>I SOOOO wish I could do that!</p>
<p>Yes to the heart pounding when the phone rings at odd hours - especially when both Ds are out of the house! My mother also calls at odd hours (like the middle of the night) because she sometimes gets 3 am mixed up with 3 pm. (She doesn’t have alzheimer’s; the circumstances of her life make it understandable that she gets mixed up). I always leap out of bed when the phone rings. </p>
<p>There are so many different paths through HS, and sabaray’s experience with having a plan makes good sense. Taking SAT IIs after 9th/10th grades makes sense for some students, and for others (like my D1), it made sense to wait. Even the most selective colleges only require 3 SAT IIs, so I’m not sure what the upside is in taking more - especially if it means starting the testing earlier in HS - though admittedly that is the right course for some students. Even with waiting until the end of 11th grade for SAT IIs, D1 fit in the three she needed and now attends a highly selective college.</p>
<p>Next year D has a big load but not all are honors or AP. but she is also class president and will have a big role in the school newspaper. It is enough, anymore and she will be a wreck, H and I were comenting on how hard her year will be next year. I would rather she be sane than going to the most prestigious school. Granted there are some kids who are just crazy smart and can do all of that, and still maintain their sanity,and good for them. I also know some people personally who exagerate . I just know what is right my child, although I wish she would do crew, but she refuses. LOL</p>
<p>sabaray, had your S checked in yet? I hate those middle of the night calls as well. </p>
<p>For all of you with kids yet to go through the college application process, my guess is you will be much more relaxed this time around. It’s kind of like bringing the first baby home from the hospital versus number two. For me it was a combination of (1) being too tired/busy to worry as much; (2) realizing that there is a lot that is simply out of my control; and (3) realizing that nothing is perfect and mistakes can be corrected. I haven’t ventured into the other threads but the group here can be the voice of calm reassurance that once the admissions decision is made the parents will quickly move on to other worries of equal or greater caliber.</p>
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Actually, in our case, the admission process for D2 was much more stressful. Maybe because I wasn’t on CC with D1 … (I’m only half-joking).</p>
<p>But it was also due to the fact that D1 had a small set of schools (4) she applied to; and she was admitted with merit aid to all (and all rolling admissions). D2 had NO idea what she wanted; had the record to aim for the top; and after a few early admissions had to wait til late March or early April for announcements of admission and aid. </p>
<p>Having said that, The Analyst is spot on with #2 and #3 above, as well as in saying how quickly we do move on to other worries … </p>
<p>But, seriously, do you think all our collective calm reassurance would tamp down the high anxieties on some of those threads? Yeow.</p>
<p>I am wiser having gone through it before. I was anxious to correct mistakes that were made to move my D1 to either side of the bubble. but now realize that it isnt under my control. I am just not one of those controlling moms. There is a mom at her school who controls everything but her sons perform. My kids do not respond to that. Sometimes I wish I played the game better. But it usually works out for the best. I don keep this attitude venturing out too far so I skim there and read more here. Sabaray did you hear yet?</p>
<p>Eggson has been home for 3 weeks. He just came out of his room with an armful of dorm sheets, blankets, mattress pad. “What should I do with this stuff?” he asks innocently. </p>
<p>I pointed him to the washing machine. Ugh. The fumes followed him there.</p>
<p>Son has returned home. It was, in fact, he who “butt dialed” our home at 2:22 am. You may recall that back in Feb. he had lost his phone. It was cheaper to suspend the service than to cancel it, so we gave him a “spare” cell # that we use for calling relatives and the like. This has been a point of contention for him as it is an “undesireable” phone with a particularly difficult touch screen. He wants to replace it. I think he should have to live with it as a consequence of losing his phone. In any event, he could not get the phone to shut off so pulled the battery, letting water into the touchscreen where it condensed. I’m honestly not sure how all of this happened. In his mind the phone was ruined. In my mind, it could go into a container of rice and lo and behold, the water is gone. Phone still works. </p>
<p>It’s going to be a long summer with him. He was perplexed as he got his first pay check - he was expecting to be paid for three weeks of work but had forgotten how pay cycles work- and was paid for one week. He already has big plans for his paychecks. His mother does too.</p>
<p>Well now, sabaray, if your son wants to buy himself a snazzy new phone, after he pays whatever rent you are charging him and whatever other required expenses he has, then I guess he should do it. But if he thinks <em>you</em> should buy him a new phone because he broke his old one, that’s a different story, and if you did buy him a phone, you would of course buy a cheap one rather than a snazzy one.</p>