<p>Me too! I’ve tried disengaging, becoming unavailable, etc. But then she bugs her Dad who then turns on me to ask why can’t I do A, B or C? After all, according to him “you are FREE all day!” Maybe I should start charging?</p>
<p>Havent’ read that award thread… but here’s irony:</p>
<p>Son won “most likely to get away with anything” in HS. But the letters from the Dean suggest he didn’t get away with jack doo doo his freshman year in college. Still… he made the Dean’s List. Did I already brag about that? Of course, this is by our own calculations. Wonder if the school sends something that proves we aren’t making it up. :)</p>
At D’s school, “Dean’s List” is stamped on the bottom of the semester grade report that is sent to us at home. (I guess this is assuming you, as parents, are authorized to receive a copy of the grades?) Not sure if that designation is also shown when D checks grades online. At any rate, congrats to ModaS.</p>
<p>That is the most terrifying thing I’ve read in a long time If it was my H, I would have been running from the explosion! Glad your H is actually competent to complete the tasks he starts!</p>
<p>My daughter just finished her only final yesterday (Theatre major), a junior level math course, and thinks she did well enough to get a B+ in the class, depending on the curve. That made me think - do we even know what her grades/average were this year - all three terms? Everything is sent to her via email, we get nothing, and without a piece of paper coming home, I think we don’t pay much attention!</p>
<p>Guess I’ll ask her when she gets home tomorrow.</p>
<p>My house has so many half-completed projects I wouldn’t know how to describe them all. Once D gets her stuff moved out hopefully we’ll be able to get a handle on things. I’d be like missypie, though- running from a potential explosion!</p>
<p>We have family for Thanksgiving and a huge party (350 people) around the 4th of July every year and that is what completes all our projects. I get my lightbulbs changed twice a year whether I need it or not (husbands job), floors polished, painters are outside right now painting house trim, carpets cleaned, bookshelves built, etc. My husband even cleaned all his junk and papers from 3 rooms! Makes the party worth it in ways I never would have thought of.</p>
<p>amtc, we never knew S1’s grades. In fact, we didn’t even know what classes he was taking. He had been a good student in high school so we trusted he would be a good student in college. He was told to maintain above a 3.0 GPA and he told us each semester that he had with no additional details. In contrast, S2 was not a good student in high school so we obsessed over his performance in college this past year. I’m trying to let go now and accord him the same degree of trust we gave to S1. Therefore, emails now have to do with the Lakers, a concert, and other fun stuff he is doing, not school.</p>
<p>H did go out last night with the parents of the two students he has a house with (at one Dad’s insistence). That parent micromanages his student’s spending and wanted to discuss all kinds of minute financial details (like how many cable channels they were getting on the TV and how many garbage cans they were paying for). The other parent happily gives her son an unlimited spending budget and tends to encourage extravagances (like paying $200 for a football ticket so her son can sit with her at the game when he can get in for free). We give our son a fixed amount (as if he were in the dorm and on the meal plan) and expect him to manage his money completely on his own, which we expect to include many mistakes from which he will learn valuable lessons. Three kids, living together, with three very different financial arrangements with their parents. That, in itself, is kind of interesting.</p>
<p>There is a holiday on Monday in Australia, so S1 is going with a group of co-workers to the Great Barrier Reef this week-end. I’m jealous. The exchange rate in Australia right now is awesome.</p>
<p>Analyst, the financial aspects are indeed challenging when managing between multiple individuals. Leasing details are complete, arrangements for the electric are made, all else is covered. </p>
<p>Next week is going to be challenging. Some tentative interim housing has not materialized as thought so D will be at home and basically commuting for the week. It should not be bad as it is for a short period. Plus, then she can pack some of her stuff up instead of it all being for me to take care of. Hopefully we’ll all be able to co-exist for the week but already getting lots of attitude from S re: D’s “preferential treatment”. </p>
<p>We received an email from the state school with the autism program. Son is one of two finalists for the male slot. Now he has to apply to the school, send transcripts, we need to visit, etc. Son doesn’t know what to think or how he feels about it, doesn’t know if he wants the slot or not. I’m just saying to complete the process and what will be will be…it’s in the hands of God, or fate, or whatever. Registration for next semester at community college is next week, so hopefully he can register without actually paying for a while. We see the psychologist for the results of his testing on Friday, so maybe she will have some good input, too.</p>
<p>Did y’all hear about tornadoes in central Illinois late last week? I just looked at Facebook pix of H’s cousin’s house…a roof sitting on a pile of rubble. There were 40 pictures and by the end, the whole thing was leveled and there was just dirt. Here is what appeared to have survived: silver toaster from the 60s; an icecube tray; and the dishwasher. You’ve got to admire the resiliance of central Illinois farm folks…they set up a picnic table and lawnchairs and fed all the people who were helping clean up.</p>
<p>missypie, I grew up in the midwest and one of my most vivid memories is the middle of the night tornado that almost roared down our street. Dad had just completed his dissertation and our entire family ran across the street to the storm shelter with nothing but the briefcase holding his dissertation - the most valuable thing he owned at the time. </p>
<p>Virginia had a tornado watch for most of the state this past weekend but thankfully nothing developed.</p>
<p>One year in law school there was a tornado nearby when I was studying for finals. All I could think of what “what if my notes and outlines blow away”? So I can totally see where your dad was coming from!</p>
<p>Good luck, missypie! Hope he gets in the program!</p>
<p>Does he have some other idea of what he wants to do next fall?</p>
<p>Fang Jr really wants to go back to his college next fall. We’re not making the official decision until August, but I don’t see how he could possibly be ready.</p>
<p>I think Son would be fine with the “original” Plan B, which was staying at home and taking more foreign lanuage and a science class 1st semester at the cc, then working up to 3 classes second semester.</p>
<p>Congrats to S Missy!! Will cross fingers and offer good karma. After all… choice is what you hope for!</p>
<p>There must not be any curve at S’s school. He got a 93 and a 92 in two of his classes - and both earned him A-. You get what you get and then you got it… as my D25 used to say (circa 1988) about my mother’s Christmas gifts. :)</p>
<p>LOL…my Ds both have November birthdays and my MIL (who summers in Minnesota and winters in northern Illinois) sent heavy wool sweaters to the girls for years. We were all relieved when she started sending checks.</p>
<p>Well, it isn’t a tornado, but we’ve been under “imminent flash flood” warnings all day because of a bridge that has partially washed out upstreem, pooling some huge amount of water behind it when the creek is already close to max water levels because of snowmelt. So far we’ve gotten three reverse 911 calls, three text messages, and four emails – can’t say that the county isn’t well connected. Each tells us to “watch.” and all of the paths adjacent to the creek have been closed. Needless to say, I’ve gotten NO work done today. Our house is on the high bank of the creek, so we’re theoretically okay, but all we need now is just a little bit of rain further up the canyon to have real trouble. </p>
<p>So instead of work I’ve been doing some more genealogy research – one of my great aunts was in a silent movie about the perils of white slavery – nice girls being kidnapped and sold into prostitution - and it is available on netflix, in something of a surprise, so that’s now in my queue. (And it was pre-Hays code, so I’m curious to see how racy it was. Apparently people had to see it several times to “fully understand the terrible problem” according to one of the newspaper reports.)</p>
Of course, this is by our own calculations. Wonder if the school sends something that proves we aren’t making it up. :)</p>