Parents of the HS class of 2010 - Original

<p>lol, IloveLA!</p>

<p>scualum - I hate to say this, but I think your D should take the SAT IIs, just in case she decides to apply to a school that requires them. I realize it might be a waste of time and money, but not that much of either, and it’s better to have them ready to send rather than scrambling to take them in the fall, or even worse, in the winter. If they’re not necessary at some schools, she doesn’t have to send them, but if she does well, sending them might benefit her.</p>

<p>msref - I wish I had something like that to use to bribe my D to do just a little prep. LOL.</p>

<p>zm, I agree with CountingDown. Have her put it somewhere on her application - ā€œWhen I had the opportunity to visit the X dept. at the invitation of Y, I was very impressed byā€¦ā€ or something along those lines. She could use the ā€œAdditional Infoā€ space on the Common App for this.</p>

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<p>I’ll second your advice regarding taking SAT IIs to keep options open and stress levels down. From what I’ve read and heard, the SAT IIs are less anxiety producing than the SAT Is, except maybe for the homeschooled students who use them to prove their subject competence and take them by the cartload. Well, some stress can be caused by figuring out when’s the best time to take them around the SAT I, AP exams, etc.</p>

<p>In a couple of years, SAT IIs will become a moot point for CA students interested in the UC system. For now, it is de riguer.</p>

<p>I don’t know how ds does it. He left the house at 6 a.m. and won’t be home until 11 p.m., but he’s trying to apply for a summer camp and needs a teacher rec by the end of the month. His teacher said he’d write one but needs a resume. Thankfully, ds has one from a job interview last year, and I said I’d try to update it for him this morning. I just did that. He sure does look good on paper! :)</p>

<p>BTW for those with sons, what incentives (ā€œbribesā€) work with them? Except for a select few, I don’t think earrings (one piercing or multiple) will do it. </p>

<p>For our S, I think he knows, once he gets his DL on an auto transmission, we’re not going to be spending the training time on the third car we kept for him (a manual 2000 BMW) unless he shows the proper, well, balance, shall we say, between his work and his play. I swear, with him, no matter what’s going on, come hell or high water, he must have his minimum of four hours a week of network programming (e.g. House, Heroes, etc.)</p>

<p>Well, hopefully, the upcoming ā€œhell and high waterā€ isn’t the March SAT.</p>

<p>Hey, four hours a week isn’t bad!</p>

<p>I’ve never bribed D. I don’t reward much either. I figure it’s her headache if she doesn’t make the schools I know she can due to laziness. I will help as much as I can, but ultimately it is her choice. </p>

<p>I did let her get a second piercing last month. It looks horrible IMO but she loves it.</p>

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<p>That’s a great idea, but this isn’t a ā€œtopā€ school and doesn’t have an additional info section and there’s only one essay, which she wants to use for the wow factor. I was thinking that she could email the geographic counselor for our area and say that she’s going to be on campus that day and ask to say ā€œhiā€ to put a face to the name. Is that too pushy?</p>

<p>I don’t think it’s pushy at all.</p>

<p>I think that sounds great, zm.</p>

<p>About bribes, we’ve never done them, though I have friends who have done bribes/are doing them in regards to the upcoming SAT. If ds was looking at tippy-top schools I’d be tempted, but he’s not aiming that high and is reasonably happy with his current score. If he scored really well I’d probably reward him with a favorite dessert. His currency is anything with fat and sugar.</p>

<p>ZM - that was exactly what I was going to suggest - expand the visit with the department to include activities with admissions - a meeting with an admissions staffer, a campus tour, an on campus interview, a ā€œsit in on a classā€ - things like that which would normally be done on a campus visit when the department was not involved. </p>

<p>My DS went through a similar process when he was going through athletic recruiting - some of the schools recruiting him were extreme safeties - so he made a point of ensuring that he had a connection with admissions at the same time. Often times the athletic department secretary would coordinate things for him - perhaps the department could do this?</p>

<p>FindAPlace - I’m glad you agreed with me. I’m all about reducing stress…lol. </p>

<p>As for incentives for your S, I haven’t found too many material incentives that work for my S, but threats work wonders…lol. The threats usually go something like, ā€œif you don’t clean your room by Friday, then you can’t go out Friday night.ā€ S is 12, but I see threats as being the way to go with him. For the most part, my D is incredibly self-motivated, and I don’t have to use threats or incentives. I didn’t push her to prep for the tests because I knew her scores would be good, even if they weren’t perfect. Now she can decide for herself if she wants to retake, but it will be with the agreement that if I pay for her to retake, she has to do some prep - not a lot, but a practice test or two.</p>

<p>Youdon’tsay - yay for your S looking so good on paper. And I agree, 4 hours of tv per week isn’t bad at all. Neither of my kids watches much tv, but S definitely spends at least that much time playing video games with friends on XBOX Live.</p>

<p>QM - my D recently mentioned wanting a second piercing, but she has to wait until summer because of sports. Maybe she’ll change her mind before then? Doubt it!</p>

<p>ZM - that sounds like a great plan. Good luck.</p>

<p>My kids hardly watch TV at all anymore. They are both on the computer 24/7. ;)</p>

<p>ZM,
Asking to drop by the admissions counselor while she’s there is also a good option. Better than dropping a note afterwards.</p>

<p>Wow – I’ve been away for a few days, and it’s hard to catch up! This is quite a verbose thread. I can’t imagine what it will be like next year at this time! :)</p>

<p>S is taking the SAT this month and had planned to do some prep this last weekend, but then proceeded to come down with influenza. He started getting sick on Friday, but H didn’t take him to the doctor until Sunday morning Grrr…(I was out of town Thurs - Sun). He is still home and probably won’t be able to do SAT prep this coming weekend because he will still be trying to catch up. Sigh.</p>

<p>I’m not bribing S to reach certain scores on his March SAT. But, I am giving him an incentive to focus, study, concentrate, and TRY! If he can convince me that he’s doing that, I’ll pay half of the cost for a PS3.</p>

<p>Alas, it’s not working. In fact, things are getting worse! His (2-part) score has gone 1270 –> 1200 –> 1150. WTH?!!? </p>

<p>Those scores would OK if he could demonstrate he’s TRYING. But he can’t. He completely skipped all prep we had agreed upon for last week. At this point I say, no PS3. But do I dare tell him? Then he might really give up. </p>

<p>Ugh. What a hole I’ve dug. </p>

<p>Well, I guess he does care a little. After the third full practice, he called himself dumb and said the (3-part) 1720 was bad. That’s unusual for a kid who’s usually cocky about his brains. He really sulked and moped around the house all day. </p>

<p>I tried to perk him up, but I don’t think I helped. Heck, even I’m kinda mopey about it. It’s the reason I haven’t posted here much recently. Oh well. </p>

<p>Don’t misunderstand me. I DO love the kid on the couch. I DO! </p>

<p>It’s just, you know…</p>

<p>DougBetsy - sorry to hear about the troubles your S is having with the SAT. Sounds like he’s a little stressed. Not sure how much free time he has, but maybe instead of practing full tests, he can just practice the areas that give him the most trouble?</p>

<p>Sorry, DB.</p>