<p>aniger-my d only applied to safeties and true matches, so I think she really is not very anxious about hearing from the schools. What we are more anxious about is finding out what the merit aid packages will be!</p>
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Lucky! Get my D to clean hers, will ya?</p>
<p>D is out trick or treating with friends…for the last time! Bittersweet! No trick or treaters here. We live out in the country…rarely get any! Used to bring D down into the adjoining suburb to trick or treat with friends.</p>
<p>Congrats to your daughter, Hollie Sue!</p>
<p>thanks everyone for all the good wishes :)</p>
<p>I’m so happy for those of you whose kids are receiving acceptances already! That must feel great!</p>
<p>ST-d is so passive about the process it is annoying! </p>
<p>holliesue-Has she met my s? The only good thing about his passiveness is he isn’t freaking about acceptances.</p>
<p>Speaking of acceptances, congrats to all. None here yet but hopefully we will hear some good news soon.</p>
<p>Congrats to your D Holliesue! Big relief getting those acceptances. </p>
<p>Kathie- S has been getting a lot of phone calls. He didn’t want to answer but I told him he had to tell them no or they would keep calling. U of Montana called quite a few times. I told 10yo D they offered him a horse if he would come. It is pretty funny having S fend off all these unsolicited calls, usually it is me telling someone no I am not interested. Oh and he never gets phone calls on the land line, so he knows to be wary when he does.</p>
<p>Holliesue–I’m adding to the congrats. </p>
<p>S1 received a fat envelope when I was out of town from his top choice U. Both he and my H looked at it and put it aside. It was two months before they were expecting any word and they figured (d’oh) it was just FA paperwork.</p>
<p>Let’s just say stunned celebrating ensued when they finally…hours later…thought to open the envelope.</p>
<p>This may be why moms should run the world. :)</p>
<p>Good luck to all the kids in their EA and ED pursuits.</p>
<p>madbean- “This may be why moms should run the world”. So true and so funny!!!
I was astounded that the envelopes sat there for two days and only got opened when I went through the mail. Oy!!!</p>
<p>holliesue: congratulations!!! good news.</p>
<p>as for us, my S’s last teacher rec was finally submitted a little while ago. Finally his nov 1 EA/ED apps are now utterly completed.</p>
<p>aniger, re: safeties. My S’s top choices are ivies, top 10 schools and yet I must say, he really loves one of his match schools and also believes he’d get a great education at his safety to which he was just accepted. I’d encourage your son to do two things: 1. keep a open mind; 2. search long and hard for a safety/match that he’d be please with – they are out there. Admittedly, for my son it was easy to find these schools because he’s pretty committed to his college major/concentration-- neuroscience. Still, the number one school in that major, MIT, is not on his list because he’s equally interested in history, literature and other humanities, and he wanted a school with strong departments across these disciplines. He also was turned off by its heavy frat/drinking culture.</p>
<p>One other suggestion which you may have already done: Last spring I began a thread searching for good college suggestions based on his stats and interests in the college search forum. I also searched for other threads regarding good schools for neuroscience. In this way I gather great info and advice that my son followed up on to create his college visit list and then his finalized list. Ultimately, his goal was to create a list where all the schools would be a decent fit, albeit he loves some more than others.</p>
<p>Congrats to Hollisue’s D! </p>
<p>Here’s an issue that came up at our house yesterday. S2 told me that a close friend of his had decided to apply ED to Duke. I felt badly because, although S2 has many schools on his list, I knew that he liked Duke more than most when we visited. ED is not an option for him because we really need to see what merit aid he might be able to get elsewhere. It would be a real long shot for him to get merit aid at Duke and, given its selectivity, he would probably just be happy to get in. I have preached love thy safety (including financial safety) for months and months. And, I’ve discouraged him from having a “first choice”, since I want him to put the same level of effort into every application and essay. He has a nice list of schools (though no rolling as I had hoped) and I think he’ll end up liking where he ends up. BUT, I was still a tiny bit sad when his friend was applying ED to a school that I know my son would love to attend. When I asked him if he wished he could apply ED, he dutifully replied, “Oh, I don’t have a real favorite yet. I’ll wait and see where I get in and what the merit aid looks like.” Anyone else wishing your S or D could apply to a top choice ED without worrying about the money?</p>
<p>holliesue and D: congrats!</p>
<p>Congratulation to everyone else who already go acceptances!</p>
<p>aniger: Your S doesn’t need lots of safeties. Just one or two that he likes. I wish him to get accepted to his dream school, but think about it as your investment portfolio; you can invest in high risk/ high reward stocks, but want to have some CDs for safety as well. </p>
<p>Re: Halloween. We ended up with more candy than we started with. Horror!!!</p>
<p>There wasn’t any real progress in terms of college apps in our house last weekend. S worked on supl. essays, but didn’t have anything finished. He still has 5 schools to apply to. He has 2 safeties on his list, but they are not rolling admissions schools. We will hear most of the decisions in April. Anyone else like us? Well be passing drinks and chocolate here for long time. I would offer you my Halloween candies right now, but I am sure most of you have your own.</p>
<p>ohiomom- oh yes!!! If only money were not a concern…D didn’t even apply to schools where it was clear that even if she got the top merit award we couldn’t afford it. Ruled out alot of school based on financial critieria. There were a number of top schools where D might have gotten in, but was at the lower end of the 50 percentile statistics. knowing that we realized she wouldn’t get any merit aid, hence couldn’t afford it, and didn’t even look at those schools. Money is a MAJOR concern for us as we know we won’t get any needs based aid, but are FAR from wealthy enough to afford full sticker price.
That said she has applied to 8 schools, all of which I am certain she will get a good education at and will be happy there! Obviously some of the schools are higher on her list than others :)</p>
<p>Renmom, I think we exchanged pms before. My son is also interested in neuroscience, but with alot less certainty or focus then your son. He also wants a school strong in humanities, especially classics. MIT is the only science focused school he is applying to, bec he thinks they are strong in non sciences and because he liked it when he visited.</p>
<p>Congrats to all for the good news.</p>
<p>I am in the camp of the procrastinators and have lost my job to my husband on this process so I don’t have much to add! I am assured he has a good handle on S and they work well together-I have visions of them trying to submit everything last minute and the computer crashing but I would rather keep my longstanding good relationship with my S intact so I have to accept my demotion.</p>
<p>I will continue to lurk though to keep an eye on how everyone else is progressing. :)</p>
<p>“have lost my job to my husband on this process…”</p>
<p>^^lucky you…how did you manage that? </p>
<p>It reminds me of my husband doing laundry; the first time he ruined it, I told him that he lost that job (now I know better; he probably did it on purpose!!)</p>
<p>LONGSTANDING GOOD RELATIONSHIP. </p>
<p>Sometimes I feel like I need to plaster that all over my house!</p>
<p>Last night this was the conversation at our house:</p>
<p>Me: What’s on your schedule the next few days?
Her: Not much, a couple of music rehearsals.
Me: You know that the essays come first now, and I’m going to say no to any social stuff that comes up.
Her: Of course! I told you I’m going to work on them!
Me: OK … but you also told me they’d be done this weekend.
Her: No, I said I’d WORK on them this weekend. Now I’m going to finish them.
(you can imagine round 2, round 3, etc.)
Me: What about scheduling that one audition we talked about?
Her: I haven’t decided yet.
Me: Well, when you do, I’d be happy to set it up [in my role as program manager].
Her: You know, I can do those things myself.
Me: Hey, OK, I’m just offering. That’s great</p>
<p>Part of me is jumping for joy that she’s insisting on taking charge … and part of me is scared to death to leave it to someone who had mail from a month ago (including MY mail) sitting on the floor of her car …</p>
<p>Honestly once she submits Common App to the 5 more schools on her list, she has plenty of options, all good. If she doesn’t get the rest of this together - life will go on. And she almost surely WILL do all of these things she promises to do.</p>
<p>LONGSTANDING GOOD RELATIONSHIP</p>
<p>It is the primary goal. Repeat 100 times a day. Getting her to college? I keep reminding myself that 1) it’s going to happen almost no matter what we do at this point, and 2) all of the “extras” that get me stressed are about HER dreams. I honestly have no dreams “for” her, but my organizer/manager side gets triggered by this whole experience and makes me someone I don’t want to be.</p>
<p>Off she went today. Bets are on she’ll come home and get one essay done, and so forth for the next few days until the apps are all in (there’s only one more she wants to keep mulling until Dec).</p>
<p>LONGSTANDING GOOD RELATIONSHIP. </p>
<p>I keep reminding myself that if all I do is prod and poke at her this year, our celebration could get tainted with “if only you’d” or “I told you so” when spring comes. I want us to be happy, and excited, and for her to feel “I did it!” I don’t want her to think “Mom really made this happen, not me” nor “I’m stuck with the crappy results of my own laziness.” She will do what is absolutely right for her at this time and that is fine with me.</p>
<p>I bow to you, Pepper03!</p>
<p>I am trying to lose any of my jobs to H with no success.</p>
<p>Keylime, yes! Son will not hear until April on from almost all of his schools. He was stressing out quite a bit about a month ago so I suggested he add a super safety school to his list (and one where he would get tons of merit money) just to get one admit. We are going to visit it today and his app will go in sometime in the next week or two. If for some reason he doesn’t get into any of his other schools at least he’ll get a lot of money and they have a 3-3 program with Albany Law School he qualifies for.</p>