<p>Oh boy! I am really chuckling. SlitheyTove, FlMM, EOA----hahaha!!</p>
<p>Just a thought but, if we allow S or D to share room with GF/BF at home, will they ever… move out?</p>
<p>32578233 and RenaissanceMom, so good to hear from you after long absense. RM, what a cool report on your S. I’m so happy he’s adjusting and gaining the wisdom to let things go in order to make room for what’s most important. Congratulations on his acting accomplishments and honors.</p>
<p>Welcome back RenMom! Sounds like your DS has had a pretty good first semester; I’m glad to hear that he’s so happy. And good luck to your advisee! I would not have been able to go through the application process 2 years in a row unless I absolutely had to.</p>
<p>Older D has a very serious BF and he has spent a few nights here but he sleeps in the guest room and there is no sneaking around at night. Her dad & I are aware that they spend most nights together @ school but that is something we accept, not something we actively promote. She definitely knows she can talk to me and does but she respects our feelings and has never even asked if they could bunk together. FWIW, I know that she sleeps in the guest room when she visits him at his parent’s house also.</p>
<p>I think it really does boil down to what one is comfortable with and I don’t find it silly or hypocritical. It just is what it is.</p>
<p>DH and I refused to sleep in same room in presence of his DD who was 13 - even 4 days before our wedding! Fast forward 15 years and she brings first serious BF home - and DH is a wreck while I say they are grown adults (late 20s!). They are now married and DH still has a hard time with his ‘baby’ so kudos to those who can get over it early. That said, let me see how I deal when issue comes up with DS. Like many others - not there yet, at least as far as I know…which is generally very little!</p>
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<p>Oh, ah ha ha ha…oh, dear! As much as I really do miss DS we have gotten used to the empty nest/freebird experience surprisingly quickly. When DS was in middle school, I think, I told him in some frustration over homework that he’d better not shape up because he wasn’t going to live in my basement after he graduated from high school.</p>
<p>Ever the pragmatist, he said, “We don’t even <em>have</em> a basement!”</p>
<p>Point. Missed. By a mile.</p>
<p>So far no GF that we know of, so we don’t have to address the “where will she sleep” question imminently…as far as we know. He’s pretty closed-mouth about his personal life so for all I know he’ll show up Thursday night with one in tow.</p>
<p>RenMom - we’ve really missed you. Several times people have asked about your whereabouts. Thrilled to hear about your DS’ amazing first semester. We had the same experience leaving our DS at school. We were okay b/c he was so happy and still is. I remember you telling us that you were going to help a student with the admissions process. She sounds like a lucky girl having you on her side. Keep us posted.</p>
<p>Mid college we allowed the bf to sleep over in D’s room but we had 2 younger S’s, we might have felt different if the were D’s. Although we didn’t expect any “monkey business” & have never seen/heard any. I guess it’s the benefits of living in smaller homes, lol. Although perhaps this is why D isn’t married & she is in her 30’s, oh well.</p>
<p>S 2015 had xgf fly down to visit him @school, which we said “who would let their FR D fly down to visit our S”?</p>
<p>1.5 weeks to go for what has been a difficult first semester for S, but he has learned a lot, apart from the fight song & Greek alphabet.</p>
<p>Idinct said: “he has learned a lot, apart from the fight song & Greek alphabet” Like this!!</p>
<p>Welcome back RenMom. I have been supporting a potential EOP candidate in his quest for college admissions. It has been interesting. My fingers are crossed that he gets in some place he likes, but I am not quite as invested as you are in the outcome. Can’t imagine doing this again any time soon, though. Ugh.</p>
<p>Welcome back, Renmom and thanks for the update. I’m glad to hear that things are going well for your S. Good luck to the young lady you are helping with admissions.</p>
<p>welcome back renmom. It sounds like everything is going along quite well.
as to having the GF/BF share a room…I don’t know how I will react when the time comes, so my opinion now may come to be moot. I know that it’s naive to think that the kids are celibate (I wasn’t), but promoting it in my home just doesn’t feel right. I know that I would definitely check out the comfort level of the other set of parents.</p>
<p>This time last year waiting for the ED decision…which was a rejection and then dealing with broken hearted kiddo during his final exams. And then pushing him to do his best on all the other apps he had put off. All works out the way it is supposed to and he is in a great place, but I am so glad to be a year past it all!</p>
<p>GF sleepover-we are not there yet. Both boys have twin beds so when the time comes “One of them would probably try to roll over and accidentally fall out the window.” :D</p>
<p>S1 called and was upset that he got a B on one of his classes. He still has two more finals to go but he did not think he would have GPA of 4.0 (3.8 as now) for this semester. I am very proud of him for what he has accomplished. OTOH I worry that he is hard to himself. I wish I could be there and give him a hug!</p>
<p>I know we are supposed to be talking about our kiddos, but I must insert a quick note about my new PC. I bought a Dell all-in-one with a 23" HD touchscreen. Think of an iPad on steroids. It is awesome. If anyone is considering a computer purchase, I suggest you go for it. PM me if you want more info.</p>
<p>The discussion of sleepovers, or not, during ED release days just shows how far we’ve come in a year!! I held my breath and popped into the parents 2012 thread expecting to find the stress level through the roof. They were discussing how old they were!?! Talk about stress!! :eek: I think I’ll keep my age and opinion to myself, while respecting everyone else. I am glad to see the discussion brought so many friends out of the woodwork!! So nice to ‘see’ so many of you!!</p>
<p>Ha, SDF!</p>
<p>@FMM. I hope we are not limited to talking about our children. One of my goals now that D is launched is to think a lot more about me and to put my own life back on the front burner. It’s not easy. I still find myself answering “how are you?” with updates on the kids, and I am not clear yet on exactly what I want to do with myself in the next chapter. I am experimenting with some options, but it takes a while to build a business. In the meantime, i miss having a schedule outside the family and the economy is not helping. Even volunteer jobs require current resumes and, apparently, young <em>perky</em> people. I don’t begrudge these positions to our recent college graduates who need to build creds even if they can’t get paid. But I would like to feel that, with two graduate degrees, I could find some way to contribute to my community. Grr. Sorry. Rant over.</p>
<p>^^ HighHead…so true.I am in a similar position
Can’t believe that at our young age we are now often too old…
With multiple degrees and a variety of experience you would think we’d be able to fit many places…</p>
<p>I peeked into the 2012 thread…
have been thinking about kids and how those big announcements are coming</p>
<p>I am not telling you how old I am et etc :D</p>
<p>I am as old as my tongue, and a little bit older than my teeth. </p>
<p>:D</p>
<p>I am old enough to know better and much to young to care… or something like that. </p>
<p>Can’t believe that they would turn away volunteers or ask for resumes! Come see me High Head, our community will take you! I still have a ninth grader but do find myself trying to figure out what I am going to do when I grow up! My BFF is a real estate agent and wants me to get my license so I can show houses (she hates it, I love it) and she will do the business end. I am thinking about it. But there is that part of me that feels like I should be making a difference so unsure what to do…I guess we need to enjoy the adventure of rediscovering ourselves!</p>
<p>I work full time, but still I find that I have so much free time on my hands now. I had served on our school board for 8 years, which was very time consuming, but I finished with that in June also. I am in the process of trying to find more things to keep myself feeling productive (and to avoid cleaning my house 
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<p>highhead - I’m with you, only one graduate degree (MBA) but with that, 10 yrs mgt experience…I was offered recently a non-benefits, hourly job, of some substance actually but no room for advancement, for $12/hr. Neighbor without any degree, no college, hasn’t worked in 10 yrs got a job as a bank teller at the same rate. Can’t decide whether I should take courses to get something current on my resume or volunteer work or start a business or just give up. I don’t have the extra cash to just take coursework unless it will pay off in the long run What I do have is alot of free time.</p>