<p>Military Mom, I hope you feel better soon! That stinks that a cold can’t just be a cold! </p>
<p>I am interested in how the doctors treated your collapsed lung? My d has had 4 of them. It is OK if you’d rather not answer, or would rather PM me.</p>
<p>Fog- so sorry to read about your Mother. Ihope she passes restfully. </p>
<p>MM- hope You feel better soon and D gets her meds. Can the doc call into a local pharmacy, even if it is just a few weeks worth? hotflashes, haven’t experienced that yet, thank goodness. just what you need right now.</p>
<p>fogfog- sending hugs your way…</p>
<p>thanks blueiguana and MilitaryMom for the thoughts and cyber hugs. And momjr – you’ve got it right – it will be intense for the next few weeks, then it’ll die down a bit. And there’s no law saying she can’t still be friends with girls in sororities – and vice versa. </p>
<p>Still keeping fogfog’s mom in my thoughts. And MilitaryMom – hope you feel better. Bronchitis is such a drag literally on each and every breath you take.</p>
<p>fogfog I am so sorry to hear about your mother.</p>
<p>Fogfog- I will definitely keep your family in my prayers. Gosh you have been through much lately!
Classof2015- How hard for your daughter to feel so much disappointment at once. I hope it will be easier in a week or so when she realizes she didn’t “do” anything to miss out on the sorority. Just a stroke of bad luck.</p>
<p>fogfog - I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. Hospice has been a godsend to many people and I hope that the palliative treatment they offer helps.</p>
<p>MM, I hope you can get your bronchitis under control ASAP. As for the hot flashes, I’ve found them to be a PIA at times, but almost okay in the winter when I’m cold and suddenly I’m warm!</p>
<p>Sorry to hear about the sorority woes. My son recently found out that the guys he thought he might room with next year picked room set-ups that left him the odd man out. He’s re-grouping, but feeling a bit out of sorts. I’m trying to embrace the, “When a door closes, a window opens” philosophy.</p>
<p>C’mon Spring!</p>
<p>kathie- arrgghhh. sorry to read about your S’s issues with potential roommates next year. I will have to push son to get something set up soon. He thinks it will just fall into place. He knows he does not want to room with current roomie, and knows who he does want to room with and what dorm he wants, but I don’t think he has finalized anything. And it is not in his nature to lead this type of discussion. (he gets that from me, unfortunately.</p>
<p>fogfog - So sorry to hear about your mom.</p>
<p>Bajamm- it was not a fully collapsed lung, just a partially collapsed. WHat the doctor did was put me on a high dose of steroids for several weeks- that was the first time I have ever been on such a high dose for more than a day but it did come in helpful since I was moving then in about a month and the insomnia added to productivity. That plus round the clock expectorants and of course the antibiotics, was all that was needed. I was told to take it easy which was fine since my move was going to be a military move and nothing I needed to pack except our suitcases and that would be right before the movers came. But it gave me energy to organize a bit.</p>
<p>FogFog - Hugs…I am sorry that your mom isn’t doing well. </p>
<p>MM - Feel better!</p>
<p>Oh, the housing woes - my D is going to room with her current roommate but has decided not to team up with a larger group. Sophomore housing at their school is almost all apartment-style living…they will end up being placed in an apartment (shared room) with other kids…they are looking at it as an opportunity to meet more people on campus.</p>
<p>MM: Hope you feel better soon!</p>
<p>Fogfog: So sorry to hear about your mom.</p>
<p>As for housing woes, I think sophomore year is a tough one. Fraternity/sorority housing can cut into available options and the lottery systems don’t usually favor sophomores. My son has been a little slow to get organized in this dept. and I don’t know if it’s lack of communication on the part of his school or his own sluggish reaction. He’s not quite the planner/organizer that I am, so I find it a bit frustrating. He’s the one who will have to live with the consequences, so I guess I shouldn’t let it worry me. Here’s hoping our students end up in good situations next year!</p>
<p>MM - I hope you’re feeling better shortly. Sorry to hear MDad always seems to be AWOL when you are sick. Murphy’s law…</p>
<p>Housing sure seems to be a source of frustration and anxiety. This is one area Bluejr dodged a bullet and made out okay. He and his roommate get along exceptionally well (just a random assignment, go figure) and decided to room together next year. They picked up two more guys and applied before winter break for housing. They were lucky to get their first choice in a garden-style apartment dorm. The location isn’t great, but as far as upperclassman housing goes it is much better than most. He’ll have to figure out the bus system next year or, as we’ve suggested, take a bike. First year students don’t consider Greek housing for second year since they have to commit to housing in early December and rush isn’t until mid-late January.</p>
<p>Class0f2015, so sorry for your D, I feel your pain, my D ended up getting a bid but not to the sorority that she wanted. She says she is not going to join the one that did give her the bid (I think she should) but this has left her feeling (in her words) “Humiliated” All her friends got their top choices she got her third. A tearful day yesterday, feels stupid, wants to come home etc. A bit worried as she has not returned my texts today but she is supposed to be in classes now. Last night she had to go to her EC and the girls training her were two “older sisters” who had been really encouraging and supportive about D getting into “desired” sorority, I am sure it was an interesting night so I am anxious to hear. She was dreading it and I thought it was a good thing as she could get over her “humiliation” and maybe find out what happened. She says she just feels so left out!</p>
<p>Can I just say that as a mom I want to slap those girls for not picking my wonderful daughter! LOL I told my D not to base her self worth on a bunch of girls who she “girl flirted” with over the weekend, and who didn’t pick her! She is very social and has lots of friends so hopefully this too shall pass!</p>
<p>FogFog, so sorry about your mom, sounds like a lousy week. On the bright side, D did have lunch with Fogfog Junior yesterday after rejection, not sure if she was good company though! I hope she gives other sorority a try but she can be stubborn like that!</p>
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– ABSOLUTELY! I want to slap 'em for ya! Then you can come slap the ones who dissed my D! Now we’re talkin!</p>
<p>Seriously EAO1227 – that’s a toughie – I know why she doesn’t want to take the one she didn’t put as her #1 choice, but at least she got a sorority who wants her! I’m sorry for her tears. It’s a rough process. D was telling me a lot of girls were upset over how it played out. People were given the impression they were “in” then they were disappointed. When it came down to who got picked, apparently each sorority “ranked” their potential sisters. I wonder – do they make these rankings public? Kind of icky…</p>
<p>^^fwiw, EAO and classof2015 the process is the same everywhere…they have to rank the potentials or otherwise the computer won’t match sororities to pledges…</p>
<p>All schools use the same computer system, I imagine…</p>
<p>The whole thing is “icky” but then again, I went to a school that did not have sororities so as my girls tell me, “Mom, you don’t understand”…</p>
<p>^^good advice, and all true. Everyone ranks --it’s the only way to select between candidates. Maybe it’ll work out for her in the fall.</p>
<p>Classof2015! LOL, lets go…seriously though would like her to give other sorority a chance I think its like you said, she was given the impression that she was in. A bunch of the sisters asked her if she was excited. She said “very, but I don’t want to get my hopes up and then be crushed” They said, " Oh get excited!!!" What impression does that leave one with. As I said earlier this too shall pass, just hard when a sorority is based upon you as a person and when you don’t get picked it makes you question yourself and wonder what’s the matter with me. She goes to a pretty competitive school where everyone was a star in HS so its just one of those lessons. Just wish she had “failed” at something earlier so that she knew what rejection was like…she has always succeeded. Welcome to the real world. Love that kid and I know she will be ok, just hard to not be able to help or make it better! Its nice that your D has some friends who didn’t get in either, misery loves company, D said most of the girls she rushed with got into “their choice” which makes it hard, on the bright side none of her roommates rushed, well one did but dropped out when she didn’t get asked back to one she wanted before bids came out…</p>
<p>Rodney so true on the “mom you don’t understand” I told D that I didn’t rush a sorority in college cause I didn’t think my ego could take the rejection. Told her I was proud of her for putting herself out there, even if it didn’t turn out the way she wanted. Interesting that they rank there potentials, maybe she got ranked high in the other and so they gave her to that one…food for thought!</p>
<p>D1 had a similar situation during her sorority recruitment. She narrowed down her choice to 2 out of the 4, and preferred one slightly more than the other. She got into her #2 choice, but her closest friends at the time got into her #1 choice. She was upset on bid day, but decided to go with the house that gave her a bid, and she is happy. </p>
<p>The whole process can be awful. I am just glad that at her school the sorority recruitment seems much more low key that at some schools- especially the SEC schools where they go BEFORE classes start in August to rush.</p>