<p>Hugs to EAO D. </p>
<p>I am dreading this weekend when my D finds out who wants her. I may need a few slapping moms to help me (or the frying pan)!</p>
<p>The frying pan works wonders.</p>
<p>Fogfog–{{{{HUGS}}}} to you. </p>
<p>Eao–so sorry your DD didn’t get the sorority she wanted and was led to believe she’d get into. Never a good time when your child feels badly. I’m sure she will bounce back quickly.</p>
<p>Roommates–DS has 3. Two he is definitely rooming with next year. The 3rd has been fine, but not engaged with them and spends lots of time elsewhere. They “think” he is making other plans but haven’t had a chance to talk to him. Hopefully they will do so as soon as they get back to school. I’m glad that they are wanting to include the other roommate if he doesn’t have other options. If they need a 4th they need to find one soon. DS has a friend who is interested and one of the roommates has a friend also. Decisions, decisions! I’m just glad he has even been thinking about it! :)</p>
<p>I’m headed to Florida tomorrow for “work” to do some scuba diving. I’ll have several students as well as being a trip leader. I’ll wave to FLMathMom while down there!!</p>
<p>nmmomof2, hope it works out for your D! Will keep my fingers and toes crossed. (And keep the pans ready just in case)</p>
<p>Roommates, don’t get me started. That was last weeks drama. Luckily they are able to have large groups of friends to room with, its deciding who rooms with whom!</p>
<p>Still haven’t spoken with D but did get a text saying things were better today. Will talk with her tonite, I am dying to know how last night at her EC went. I did do a bit of research, her Uni went computer for sororities last year and did say that because one sorority had trouble recruiting (the one D got the bid for) and the others were limited as to whom they took until third sorority had equal recruits, kind of like a draft. That may explain what happened but hey whatever it is that ship has sailed. Her text sounded better.
VAmom2015, have fun in Florida, don’t forget the sunscreen!</p>
<p>Hi All
Thank you for your kind words and warm thoughts.</p>
<p>On sororities…uhhh yes it can either go well, go ok, or poorly. Many moons ago I was at a school with 15 frats and 8 sororities. Each sorority has a certain reputation…some for being the pretty blonds, the pretty brunettes, the “future homemakers”, the “easy/fast” ones, the “smart ones”…and so on…They rush the first weeks of school which makes things tough. The strangest part for me was the rush --it was like “speed dating” where you went in groups by time into the daytime-dry “parties” The sisters sang songs about how they all love eachother etc …while the "pledge-wanna be"s… sat to watch. You had only a few minutes to make an impression on the girl you met coming through the door. It was a little unnerving.
At least it was a lot easier on the girls than the frats during rush/pledging. As a “rush” girl you were invited to the frat houses to drink up and party…Those guys were put through alot…
Even worse when they got “lavaliered”, pinned or engaged…</p>
<p>Oh fog, the abuse the guys got when they made those commitments was so bad. It’s a wonder anyone ever got a pin/lavaliere/ring. I think most of that is against the rules now (it may still happen though?).</p>
<p>Military Mom, thanks for your response! I don’t think d ever had steriods for her collapsed lungs, though was just on bed rest for the first one. After that it was chest tubes to reinflate and surgeries.</p>
<p>on sororities: I am glad my d has no time or interest. With 19 credit hours, a 15-20 hour/week job, being on the rowing team, and being a social butterfly otherwise, I am not sure when she would have time to do the required sorority stuff.</p>
<p>I am so sorry for the kids who were so disappointed.</p>
<p>I know next to nothing about sororities or fraternities and maybe I want to keep it that way. :)</p>
<p>I have said before-the frying pan makes housecalls!</p>
<p>Eao, I’m sorry that your D was is unhappy with her rush results. It does sounds like she had bad luck and ended up with her 3rd choice because of the computer match. My D1 said that sometimes the sorority does not get girls that they really want because of the way the system works. I’m guessing that those upperclassmen did rank her highly and expected her to get a bid from their sorority. I’m sorry she’s hurting.</p>
<p>MM: I hope you feel better soon.</p>
<p>Fog - so very sorry to hear about your mom. </p>
<p>Seems like we’ve had very little good news on this thread over the last couple of days and I am having a similar kind of day…Older DD just called, very upset because today was the day she should have heard from her 1st choice for grad school if she was selected for follow-up interviews. To make matters even worse, her very-serious BF was accepted to this school’s law school so will probably end up there. She still has 3 other schools to hear from but was so down - I could tell she had been crying and I just wanted to jump into “mom mode” and try to fix everything…</p>
<p>Proudmom: Those phone calls are tough! Maybe the grad school got behind on the calls and she’ll hear tomorrow. If not, hopefully she’ll get good news from one of the other schools. The BF thing will be complicated, but they may be able to weather a long-distance relationship for a few years. Hugs to you and your D.</p>
<p>Can someone please post some good news on this thread???</p>
<p>Sorry, guys, it won’t be me with the good news. Is it the time of year? Thanks to fogfog for the support , and best wishes for our kids recovery from sorority woes, housing problems, health issues, grad school news, and all the rest. For me, the good news is that you are all out there listening and caring.</p>
<p>I guess I sort of have good news… I haven’t heard from d in forever. I know she is alive, she posts on FB. So, is no news good news?</p>
<p>Bajamm- We can count that as good news! </p>
<p>My good news–a 2nd grader told me I had pretty hair today. Does that count? Lol</p>
<p>That is good news momofzach, congrats on your pretty hair! We will all sleep better tonite! LOL!!! Glad I can vent with you all, sometimes it all seems so small and irrelevant but it matters to us moms and its nice that you are all out there to share the joys and the sorrows with you!</p>
<p>Momofzach - congrats on having a good hair day…lol. And thanks for making me chuckle, I needed that.</p>
<p>I am so grateful that I found this thread so many months ago - it’s such a relief to know I can vent here and you will all understand.</p>
<p>I have some good news. I got a hair cut, so at least until I wash it and try to style it myself tomorrow, I am having a good hair day. :)</p>
<p>D1 did call and seemed much better than she had been over the weekend. She seems to have 2 plans for living next year, and both involve living with sorority sisters. She still has a possibility of living in the house. One of the girls who got a spot has no real intention of living in the house, but is holding the spot until after the housing lottery for the dorms. The other plan is to go in a school sponsored apartment with some of her sorority sisters. All that matters is she has a plan, and a back up plan. She said “Mom, remember, I have 3 different color coded calendars. I like to plan things.” Don’t worry dear, I kind of knew that already…</p>
<p>One more piece of good news. Her BF was asked to join Tau Beta Pi, the national engineering honor society, since he is in the top 5% of the senior class at school. He asked me if it he should bother joining, since he has to do a few things (5 hours community service, etc.). I told him that I when I walked by the Tau Beta Pi ‘bent’ at college and used to think “I will never be smart enough to be asked to join.”</p>
<p>Sorry to be a day or two behind. First, fogfog…so sad to hear about your mom. Big hugs coming your way. Second, hugs and chocolate to all those with RA, bf, sorority and fraternity woes. All difficult things to deal with.</p>
<p>Third is good news. I went to Soma to return a shirt today and bought a fabulous dress. It is black, floor length, strapless and looks great on. The bust area looks like a beautiful row of open black roses and then it just flows beautifully to the floor. All my lumps and bumps are neatly hidden away. Best of all, I had a coupon and my Soma member discount so it was very reasonably priced. Now I need an occasion to wear it.</p>
<p>Tomorrow is my first day as a volunteer tax preparer. Report to follow.</p>
<p>Fog - We have added your mom and family to our prayer list.</p>
<p>Rescued from page 2 again.</p>
<p>gsmomma – sounds like you have raised one resilient young lady! Glad she has a plan --sorry – 2 plans!</p>
<p>FLMathmom – the dress sounds gorgeous! Have not seen a Soma store near me but if I do, I’ll check it out.</p>
<p>Met up with a girlfriend who told me about a friend’s S who bombed freshman first semester – got kicked out – came home, went to Hofstra, did well, transferred to Arizona, did well, and now he’s making a 7 figure income (not that money is the only marker of success but he isn’t the bum his mom thought he might be). I’m already trying to figure out how to make sure S’14 doesn’t go wild with the freedom and decide he can skip classes, etc. I wish high school was tougher in the ways they’ll need experience in – picking out their own classes, managing living on their own, etc. I’m trying to give him some life lessons bit by bit. I made him refill his own prescription yesterday (ok – he called CVS and punched in the little code, but still!). Next up: laundry.</p>