<p>Meeting 8 HS people who I haven’t seen in quite awhile, well 1 or 2 that I do keep in touch with. Pressure, it’s like a reunion. I’m on the treadmill now, is it too late? As long as I’m not the worse of the bunch, but with this group I think I might be. I’ve seen pics on FB.
I had originally approved S2 to live off campus next year, but pulled my approval this week. But guess what, the kid he was going to room with parents signed his portion of the lease yesterday. So now I’m torn he & I made a commitment & I feel bad if he cancels. I spoke to the parents last night and didn’t mention it. I have a few ideas on how I can use it to achieve the greater good, but really didn’t want to do it.</p>
<p>Thanks for the yummy breakfast - and then headed to the treadmill!</p>
<p>A funny story about boys/men. My father was the quintessential absent-minded professor. He was a dr. at a hospital 2 miles from home. Sometimes he walked and other times he drove. One night he had to return after dinner. He came home about midnight - my mother asked him where the car was AND the dog - who he had taken along for the ride. My dad looked extremely puzzled - he had totally forgotten and had walked home. She sent him right back!</p>
<p>Sorry for all those whose kids are having rocky days and happy for those whose kids are getting interviews, etc. Housing lottery for DS starts in March; he is very nervous b/c on campus housing not guaranteed and he really wants to stay on campus which we think would be much better for him also. Told him to stay on top of dates and follow the procedures (rather complex) and see how it all works out…</p>
<p>Dare I say - go Pats!</p>
<p>Oh I forgot to tell you all some good news. DD is a chemistry major and I was so afraid she would never get an intership or any work experience in college. She got a TA job this semester. She is at a LAC so they have a better chance for these opportunities. Some of her freshman friends were confused since she is a first year student. Credit wise she is a second semester sophmore. I think it is great they allow kids to do this.</p>
<p>momof 3GG - great news. Congrats to your DD.</p>
<p>bajamm - if financially possible, I side with “go for it”. Sounds like an amazing opportunity Maybe she can stay on afterwards and sightsee. Certainly worth applying. </p>
<p>Idinct - enjoy your ‘reunion’. </p>
<p>Dare I say - thank goodness football season is over tomorrow!!</p>
<p>ld - more hugs to you. It sounds like you’re feeling really raw right now. Please try not to think of anyone as “doing the worst.” Try to let things be as they are and remember that it’s not on you to make sure everything and everyone’s OK. I know that’s very hard sometimes.</p>
<p>Idinct - have fun at the reunion. </p>
<p>momof3 - congrats to your D on the TA position! what class?</p>
<p>siemom - yes, go Pats! I just got back from a grocery run to stock up on our superbowl party Sunday. </p>
<p>This falls into the catagory “the things they say”. D turned 12 today. She wanted what we didn’t get her on her xmas list. Mostly GC’s and some purfume. We got her 5 GC’s and the requested purfume and decorated them to look like flowers. Put them in a basket with confetti and flowers. Took some time to put it together. First thing she says to me this morning? “Where is my ballon? You always get me a ballon.” …sigh a Mother’s guilt. I almost picked one up at the grocery store when I went superbowl shopping, almost.</p>
<p>Another “boys will be boys” story just came to mind. I was in the Coach store yesterday buying a wristlet D wanted for her birthday for S to give her. At the register next to me, the sales clerk asked a teenage boy (with several friends) if he wanted the bag gift wrapped. “um, no.” “It’s free, she said.” “no thats alright.” One of the other boys (probably the smart one) said “so what are you just going to hand her the pocketbook in a shopping bag?” Made me smile. And yes the boy decided to get it gift wrapped.</p>
<p>mamom, your things they say comment reminded me! I thought it was funny yesterday…</p>
<p>I sent my d a box of valentines candy, notecards, miscellaneous stuff. She texted yesterday to say it came and to ask if I can send HEALTHY stuff next time. What woman wants healhy stuff instead of chocolate for Valentines day?</p>
<p>I did ask her what consitituted healthy, because it seems like everything is processed with too much sugar, too much salt, or is perishable. She picked all the salty stuff as being the healthiest.</p>
<p>sigh. maybe I won’t do the valentine’s box next year.</p>
<p>mamom - I guess the second boy either was taught by his mom or dad the ‘right’ way to give a gift (altho some say there is no wrong way). Reminds me when DS would remind his friends to send thank yous after interviews, etc during the app process. He couldn’t understand why their moms didn’t teach (read nag) them. I guess when all is said and done, they appreciate knowing the proper way to do things even if they don’t always remember.</p>
<p>Two comments: 1) Kids are way better at telling other kids what the right thing to do is, than doing it themselves; and 2) my girls will always accept gifts of chocolate!</p>
<p>Morning all. Not a great day for me - funeral of a peer and now at the office. Sigh. I know should be grateful for good health and employment but I am feeling down (and procrastinating). </p>
<p>D has the sorority ice water socials today. She was commenting on how much work she has to do by Monday and all I could think about was the 15 or so hours devoted to sorority stuff this weekend. I bit my tongue and said “have fun.” Hypocrite or supportive mom? I pray she makes it through the next week with her self-esteem and friendships intact!</p>
<p>Contemplating the summer stuff here as well. There are a couple of potential opportunities that would be good resume builders and wonderful experiences, but “net zero” (to borrow a great phrase). D could swing it with her savings, but some bank building would be really fabulous. It is nice to be able to discuss the topic here.</p>
<p>Native NYer here, so, Go Giants! It should be a great game regardless of the outcome. </p>
<p>Back to Dodd-Frank implementation planning now (I am sure you are all jealous!)</p>
<p>mnmom - so sorry for your loss. Hugs flying right to you.</p>
<p>mnmom - sorry about your loss.</p>
<p>Happy Birthday to mamom’s beautiful D! Tell her: it’s never too early to start lying about your age :)</p>
<p>H got a call from our D. At a track meet in TN; couldn’t breathe; did poorly. She has asthma; she has an inhaler. I’m thinking her becoming vegetarian was the WORST thing a long distance competitive runner with anemia could do, but nobody listens to me. Coach took her off the relay, so now she has to sit through the meet and get back to campus late.</p>
<p>I’m going to post this also in the Athletic Recruits forum to get their advice, but this is what I’m thinking: QUIT THE G.D. SPORT!!! Which I’ll convey, subtly, calmly, in lowercase letters to D over the next few weeks.</p>
<p>Running, and winning States got her off the waitlist, but IT’S DIVISION III!!! COME ON! </p>
<p>I guess what I’m saying is: it might be too much for her.</p>
<p>I texted her: “sorry about the meet – I love you” – even though she didn’t call me about it. What – does she think H wouldn’t tell me?</p>
<p>Moms – tell me your thoughts – when stuff is really bad, D’s don’t call mom. They know if they hear our voice saying “honey – what’s wrong?” they’ll burst into tears.</p>
<p>Classof2015, My d is also a long distance runner with asthma. She is also missing parts of both lungs due to lung surgeries because of chronic collasped lungs on both sides. She is not running for her college team, though she does run 5K’s and half marathons on her own. She is also a vegetarian but is not anemic.</p>
<p>I would suggest writing an email/letter to your daughter as one adult woman to another and do not expect a response.</p>
<p>Remind her that you care about her and that you want her to do well in her endeavors. I wouldn’t tell her that you think she should quit, just remind her of what she needs to do to feel good, be healthy and be successful.</p>
<p>How can she take care of the anemia? Does she need to take iron pills or eat something more iron rich? Remind her of what she needs/can do for this.</p>
<p>Remind her to use her inhaler as prescribed, both the mainentence and emergency one. Maybe quietly get her an epi pen and ask her to have it in her duffle bag, telling the coach, manager, captain, and other teammates it is there. </p>
<p>I was livid when I found out my daughter had run her first half marathon without her emergency inhaler, even after the doctor had told her that running was an emergency for her and she HAD to use the emergency inhaler immediately before starting a run. I told her if she was going to continue running, then she needed to figure out how to use it right before the race and carry it with her for any race longer than a 5k. She has started running with shorts that have pockets so she has it with her. A fanny pack or carrying it in her hand would also do the trick.</p>
<p>We have to remember that our daughters are adults now and will make decisions that we don’t like. We need to respect that, while reminding them that there are ways to do their chosen activities safely and maturely.</p>
<p>Wow bajamm – thank you for your response – I will try to send her a letter. I feel like she tunes me out. She has an inhaler (which she uses before each race). I know that there are awesome runners who are also vegetarian, but I feel like it’s just making things harder for D.</p>
<p>re: iron – she has been on iron pills since 10th grade. I thoroughly researched iron-rich foods and made lentil soup; bought wheat germ, kale. She didn’t always take the pills. People at the local running store told her to take liquid iron; she said it hurt her stomach. She came home for her 4 week Xmas break; she’d left her iron at school. She told me this about 3 weeks into break.</p>
<p>Honestly – I think she is not fully taking responsibility for her own health care (despite the fact that she tells me she’s an adult). </p>
<p>So with the anemia – the question is – is she not taking it? or is she taking it and not absorbing it?</p>
<p>I hate to say this but our discussions over this topic devolve pretty rapidly and she is resistant/hostile.</p>
<p>Classof2015, without knowing your D, I would be inclinded to think that she may miss taking an iron pill from time to time, knowing she forgot to bring them home for winter break. It may be compounded by not being absorbed well.</p>
<p>Maybe in your letter, remind your d that since she is an adult, it is her responsibility to figure out why she didn’t feel good at today’s track meet and figure out how to fix it. Have your letter’s tone assume she has been doing what she is supposed to be doing. Suggest that if she has been taking her pills as prescribed, and eating iron rich foods as suggested by you (and health care professionals?), then she may want to speak with the team doctor/trainer about other ideas for the absorption issues.</p>
<p>If the asthma appears to be the problem then maybe the dosage or something needs to be changed in the inhaler.</p>
<p>Just give her ideas/options as to what the next step can be.</p>
<p>If she gets too uncomfortable at these track meets and has to sit there not running too many times, then she will either start doing things right or quit on her own.</p>
<p>
</p>
<p>No info on this, but I know frustrated sons call their moms! Just got a call from mine - there’s no way he can get to all of his assignments this week. A lit paper due and a stats mid-term on Friday, two rehersals this week for a concert, the concert itself on Sunday, and, of all things, the freshman screw tonight and his roommates promise that the date they set him up with is “really cool!” </p>
<p>I told him to relax, enjoy the party, and putting off reading Paradise Lost till spring break sounded like a good plan. Is it terrible that I’m hoping his date will really distract him?</p>
<p>Idinct - how fun that you will have a mini-reunion! Hope you have a great time and forget everything else that’s going on in your life right now.</p>
<p>Momof3 - big congratulations to your D on her TA position!</p>
<p>Mnmom - so sorry to hear of your loss and good luck to your D during recruitment. I hope she is able to strike a balance between all of the sorority engagements and her studies. </p>
<p>Classof2015 - I think you got some great advice from bajamm; the only thing I might add is a suggestion that possibly you let DH do some of the nudging. It sounds like they have a good relationship also so maybe it might help her to hear these suggestions from you both?</p>
<p>proudmom - -great idea. It takes me out of the loop (which I fear is becoming a bad dynamic) and perhaps she’ll listen to H (with whom she is definitely close). Thank you</p>