<p>Coffee is on. Meatballs and chicken wings will be ready by game time.</p>
<p>Classof2015: I understand why you’re so worried about your D. I like proudmom’s suggestion of having your H try discussing things with her.</p>
<p>Scoutsmom: I hope your son had fun last night.</p>
<p>Momof3: Congrats to your D on her TA position!</p>
<p>Mnmom: Sorry for your loss.</p>
<p>class of 2015-I agree with having DH nudge and with the fact that your D is an adult and if she forgot and neglected to carry her inhaler, then the finger points at her. I don’t think there is anything wrong with quitting something that is not working if it is a well thought out choice. So many times we continue during our lives to do things we don’t like, aren’t good for us, or are just unpleasant. Of course, some we have to. Perhaps your D needs your H to sit down and work out the pros and cons of the situation. Doyou think she feels an obligation to the coach to continue? I know kids playing D3 sports who were blown away by the increase in intensity from HS to college. One quit, she didn’t know what she was signing up for.</p>
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<p>Quite true. DS is playing a Club sport at a D1 school and has commented that the workout and practice schedules are as or more intensive than the HS varsity program he was in. He intentionally did not want to be recruited into a D1 varsity program due to the conerns over his schedule. It appears that his foresight regarding college athletics and their time requirements was right on. Anyone else out there finding the same thing with their S or D?</p>
<p>DD '14 started driving classes this morning. Six Sunday mornings for 4 hours each for her classroom requirements and then on to in-car driving time.</p>
<p>Looks like there is a football game today. 
No preference here other than for a good game. Saturday was a successful sports day with wins by Georgetown, Mizzou, Ohio State and the Cavaliers over the Mavericks last night. All I need today is to get lucky on my Super Bowl squares and I will be happy. :)</p>
<p>Thanks all. She is a TA for a chemistry lab section. </p>
<p>Class 2015 sorry to hear about your dd. </p>
<p>Those with girls that do sports I hear your pain. DD is playing rugby this year. Makes me so scared because they are so tough and she is not that big. She sprained her ankle in her gym class thursday. I was scared she was going to get hurt with rugby but instead she gets hurts playing some type of game you would play at recess. </p>
<p>Reminds me of the time she did competitive gymnastics. She did it from age 4 to 12 years and never got hurt. Then she quits doing gymnastics and a few months later breaks her finger talking. Yes talking. She was gesturing while telling a story and hit it on one of the cement blocks that holds the lights up in a parking lot.</p>
<p>Thanks mamom, momjr, momof3greatgirls. I think I’m going to suggest things H can say to her. I think D gets so locked into The Decision She Made that she can’t back down or see any options. Like: medical leave of absence from her sport for the Spring and she resumes in the fall if she’s healthy (and gets decent grades). </p>
<p>I remember meeting one girl on the Middlebury running team – an excellent Div III NESCAC team – but this girl just did XC (not also Track). I think that’s perfectly reasonable – do one season; not all. Being a year round athlete was tough in HS; looking impossible in college.</p>
<p>I worry quite a bit about my D’s self-care while she’s at school. There are times I think about ways in which I might or might not intervene. But mostly I figure this is just another thing I’m going to have to let go. </p>
<p>The kind of vocabulary I use with her is similar to a bajamm’s suggestion - I tend to say things like “I’m sure you’ve already thought of this” or “I wonder if some people try XYZ to deal with that” or “Isn’t it hard when X happens? I find life so confusing sometimes.” I try to look at how I talk to her as I do with adult friends to whom I never would want to sound preachy, whose maturity and judgment I respect automatically. I’ve found my D will express some of her deeper fears and lose the bravado if she understands we’re just talking, not that she’s on the line about screwing up.</p>
<p>You guys were chatty this weekend!</p>
<p>Regarding Mothers of daughters and giving advice… My D1 once told me “Mom, you know me better than I know myself.” That being said, she does have a tendency to be more emotional with me than with H. She does call me or text me much more than she contacts H, so when she has reached her limits, I call in H for back up support. He is much calmer than I am, and can play the ‘good cop’.</p>
<p>Another one of my favorite topics was talked about over the weekend- DIII college sports. D1 was a semi-recruit in the fall. She did not play one second of any game. She will readily admit that the other girl who plays the same position is better than she is, but D1 was never given the chance to play, even when the starter was obviously ill. She attended every practice, every game, and did preseason work out with the team. There was no goalie coach this year at the school, so the main coach paid no attention to the goalies. At the end of season meeting, D1 brought up all of her concerns to the coach. The coach admitted that she never thought about the goalie, since she was more concerned about the field players. After much thought, D1 has officially decided not to play next year. She said that she would rather spend more time on other activities. She wrote an email to the coach, thanking her for the season, and telling her the reasons why she will not continue. She does feel much better now that she officially made the decision.</p>
<p>I went to D1’s sorority new member luncheon. She had the super secret initiation in the morning, and the families were invited to a luncheon. It was very nice, and I got to meet all of the girls in the sorority. They all seem very nice, and they do not appear to be the rowdy, party or stereotypical sorority girls. I met the girl who she plans to live with in the Fall, as well as her parents. They are not exactly what they are going to do, but they plan to be together. It seems that her friend did get a spot in the house, and they think that one of the girls who was offered a spot is planning to cancel. I was talking to some of the older members, and they said that in the past they have had a hard time filling the house, so this year is unusual. They are not requiring a deposit at this point,so the girls who are not 100% sure if they want to live in the house have nothing invested in a decision.</p>
<p>Frustrated! This is when I hate being so far away (2000 miles) from my kiddo. He takes medication and it’s important that it not be generic b/c of intolerance. So…dr. writes prescription when kiddo home for break - wrote substitution allowed. Wrong. Called and got another prescription sent – meds arrived today at home (after back and forth about send home or school) and they are generic b/c “physician authorized a change”. Aarrgh. Would be ok if DS tried them while at home but not at school - can get into too much trouble too quickly. Dr. knows all of this. Just sent kiddo a hipaa form so I can speak with dr. directly. I know the insurance company pushed him b/c the non-generic is very expensive, but hello!
There was another thread in this forum about when to intervene - this is when Mama Bear intervenes.
Thanks for the vent. Off to make superbowl snacks to take to the party. Have fun everyone!</p>
<p>siemom - I’m not sure how your son’s meds work, but I take a ton of meds daily. I get 90 days sent to me at a time via mail order which keeps the cost down. Usually I can submit the renewal 4 weeks in advance. I keep track on my calendar and make sure I always have a sufficient supply as I cannot go a day without.</p>
<p>siemom – I have found the hard way that I need to instruct the physician on how to write the scrip. They will check the box “can be filled with generic” because usually they think they’re doing you a favor – the generic will be cheaper. But with my medical plan, the generic costs twice as much. It’s as if the insurance company figured out what people were doing and jacked up the copay on the generics. Sorry about that! I have heard the “buy in bulk” thing helps you avoid this.</p>
<p>We interrupt this half-time super bowl show for a quick plea for knowledge and assistance!</p>
<p>My DS left his bag on Amtrak. Does anyone have knowledge of how he might get this bag back if it is turned in? I called Amtrak customer service and the lost and found at the end station for the train (Boston South). Will they send the bag back to Trenton? Will they offer to ship it if we pay?</p>
<p>Any information you might have would be appreciated. It’s always something, isn’t it???</p>
<p>VAMom, my info on Amtrack is 15 years old, my then 3 yo d road the train with my sister from our parents house to Chicago, 4 hours from where we lived. My H went to pick her up. My sister handed him the claim ticket for the luggage and ran, she had less then two minutes to catch her train back home. He didn’t know what the claim ticket was for and came home with D, who had been gone for a week. He had not been handed a suitcase, he should have figured out the claim ticket was for something important…</p>
<p>Anyway, I called Amtrack and they mailed us the suitcase at their expense. The rules may have changed…</p>
<p>VAMom - Did you get an answering machine? Or a person? Was his name in or on the bag? Anything in it to identify him? </p>
<p>I would make a list of every possible place to call/email (L&F and cust service at beginning and ending terminals for Amtrak and location such as Grand Central Station in NYC). On this list write as thorough a description of the bag as you can and where you want it sent. Give the list to your son and have him make the calls and write the emails. I suggest doing it ASAP and then have him follow up in the AM. He can also go to the station and follow up. His goal is to get a real person to make sure the right place has the info. Try to keep the panic out of your voice. This is a life lesson he has to fix. </p>
<p>This is just my opinion. Every family handles things differently. I tend to cover every base. When my son was a child he left a bag on a bus (Montauk to NYC). We called L&F and arranged a convenient pickup time and place. It was no big deal.</p>
<p>FLMM–Thanks for the suggestions. I made the initial calls since he was still traveling when he called us. I spoke with someone at customer service who took all the information and put it out to all the stations on the route. She gave me the L&F for the end station and I called and spoke with someone who also put in a report for that station, since I would guess it might end up there at the end of the line when they clear the train. I’ve given all the info to DS and it’s now his responsibility to follow up and find the bag. He asked how to get it back and I told him to work it out with Amtrak! Hopefully he’ll get it back soon. He has his ROTC PT clothes and new running shoes in the bag and has a PT test on Wednesday (physical training). Guess he’s going to stick out like a sore thumb tomorrow at PT when he will not be in proper uniform. Did I mention he’s the one who always forgets things? :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Siemom - I hope you are able to resolve your S’s med problems quickly and without a lot of additional trouble. So frustrating when you try so hard to work something out and then someone else takes their eye off the ball - especially when it involves something this important.</p>
<p>VAMom - sorry you’re having to deal with the lost bag situation but maybe this will be one of those “life lessons” we talk about so often. Taking some grief about his uniform and having to do the work to track the bag down might ensure that he becomes less forgetful, who knows?</p>
<p>VAMom - sounds like you’re right on track (OOOh!).</p>
<p>I dropped off D for her ride back to school on the megabus last night. She took a “red eye” bus which arrived in Minneapolis at 6:45 this morning and then took a shuttle bus which dropped her off on campus - in time for her 9:00 class. She really wanted to spend an extra day at home; if she took the earlier (more reasonable) bus she would have had to leave very early yesterday morning and would have spend most of the day in transit. She checked with me when she was making reservations, and I said that while I would prefer that she take the earlier bus (basically pulling an all-nighter the night before the start of second semester may not be a great thing) it was her decision. We’ll see whether it was a good one or not later in the day - she thought she’d be able to sleep on the bus and only has one class today. Six more weeks until spring break!</p>
<p>Siemom - yikes. What a mess. What should be simple just keeps getting worse. Good luck getting it taken care of. </p>
<p>VAMom- hope you “found” the bag. I travel through Boston every day, H works right near SS. If there is anything we can do lets me know. </p>
<p>gsmomma - luncheon sounded very nice. What a great way to meet all her new “sisters”.</p>
<p>I found a link (somewhere) that mentioned that the 2010 version of Publication 970 came out on Feb. 10 last year. So, perhaps later this week, the 2011 version will be released.</p>
<p>Wow Middle of Page 2, hope you are all having so much fun you have no time to check the internet! Happy Monday!</p>