<p>Just like anyone “single and available”, to become “attached” you have to put your name out there as “single and available”. I seem to remember your son is doing off season conditioning with the football team. I would suggest he mention it during conditioning casually, “Hey if you happen to know anyone on the team that is looking for a ‘fourth’ for housing, I’m new this semester so I’m looking.”. It in no way screams or suggests loser. It may be slightly out of your son’s comfort zone, however if no one knows he’s looking, no one knows to include him. The football team would be where I would suggest he start. Perhaps the coach may even have the name of any other second semester transfers he could contact.</p>
<p>blueiguana,</p>
<p>I hadn’t thought of him asking someone if they knew of anybody looking. I was thinking more direct “are YOU looking.” Your way is much better so I will suggest it.</p>
<p>I wish he would ask the coach, but I don’t think he has a relationship with the coach and would not do that. I’m pretty sure the weight room is just the players right now. The official spring practices start when they get back, the same time as the selections are due. If only the selections were a little bit later!</p>
<p>I was in the shower WISHING he was still young enough and it could be appropriate for ME to call the coach and say that poor little S2 doesn’t have a roommate and can he help out…Sure miss the days when I could fix all the problems.</p>
<p>This week’s problem is that his back is very sore. I am no radiologist, so I shouldn’t have looked at the MRI images he got last night…but I don’t think it looks good. Google is a very bad thing. It causes as much worry as it helps provide information. He goes to the ortho on THursday. I hope he will be ok. i hope he can still play football…I hope his back won’t hurt him forever. I wish I had that magic wand to make it all better.</p>
<p>I also know I magnify what I perceive to be difficult for him (roommate) because this back problem is going on at the same time. One situation at a time is enough!</p>
<p>Thanks for the support!</p>
<p>njfm - Good luck to your S.</p>
<p>My D is in a similar predicament. And every time she makes a new friend, it’s either a boy or someone who already has a roommate. At her school, they put sophomores who don’t have a roommate in at the BOTTOM of the list - after the freshmen and transfers. If she could just throw in her hat alone at this point she’d be thrilled, but that could be a disaster. So she’s very stressed about getting a roommate picked before the deadline. </p>
<p>I’ve suggested the same thing to her - ask friends about THEIR friends (especially her friends who are boys who might know girls she doesn’t).</p>
<p>njfm - My S will also hesistate to ask around for fear of looking like a looser. heck I was like that in college too. I think this is a good opportunity though to practice doing something uncomfortable. Let him know what the worse is that can happen by letting folks know he is looking for a room mate. It really isn’t that bad, he ends up where he is now without a room mate. There could be 3 kids out there waiting for someone like him so they don’t get stuck with someone they don’t want. I have mentioned to my S severel times make plans now before folks start pairing up. he assures me he is all set, but I am not so sure he has anything definite “yes let do it” vs “good idea we should room together, we will have to talk about it”.</p>
<p>Emmybet,</p>
<p>ANOTHER good idea! He does know more girls, so he could ask the girls if they know any guys. These girls would also know the “type” he would get along with.</p>
<p>His good friend (girl- may have been friends with benefits? I don’t know the exact workings of their relationship) might transfer to his school in the fall. He was wondering if they could have mixed roommates! I’m pretty sure they cannot, on campus, and Fr and So have to be in campus housing…Not sure if Jr and Sr can be mixed in on campus apts or not.</p>
<p>I really like her, I hope she transfers and they can date! (smart, pretty, athletic) Wishing for that magic wand again!</p>
<p>I think my D is hoping the on campus options don’t actually pan out so she “has” to rent a house off campus. We are sooo not enamored of this as the Pioneer Valley does not have student apartment complexes or housing enclaves to which students gravitate.</p>
<p>Gsmomma - I think we have the same laundry doing husband!</p>
<p>njfm - I also miss those days when I could “fix” my girls’ problems! I realize that they are going through one long growth opportunity but there are definitely days when I’d like nothing better to pick up the phone and resolve an issue for them.</p>
<p>Emmy - really? Whose bright idea was it to put the single sophomores at the very bottom of the list? That just does not seem right!</p>
<p>My hubby does his laundry and my boys do theirs. I am very lucky. Way back when we were first married I put some of his t-shirts in the dryer. oops. they shrink. I guess I did it more than once so he just started doing his own! He is fussy, he hangs a lot of his “golf” shirts and some t-shirts to dry. He also dried some things for a limited time and takes them out. Hey, if he thinks I’ll mess something up it works for me!</p>
<p>The boys both started around age 12. They had tons of clothes but always wanted certain ones to wear. I’m not doing laundry when there isn’t a full load and there are plenty of clothes, so they started doing it!</p>
<p>It’s FB official; D is ‘in a relationship!’. The boy is not ScoutSon, but we have learned that our kids are in the same college (next door to Fog’s and EAO’s), so they probably know each other. Thank goodness I can comment here. I’m afraid to comment on FB in case I sound meddling.</p>
<p>Just learned today that my mom can move into Assisted Living NEXT WEEK. So, it’s back to PA …</p>
<p>Proudmom and EAO-Thanks for the kind words and warm thoughts. I hope H will find a job soon. So many people looking for jobs H says that some openings closed down the applications a few hours after posting due to the overwhelming responses. Thank goodness that I have a job.</p>
<p>Lol on the phone upgrades, I finally dumped the original iPhone it was 5 years old. I got the 3 for 1 cent. Gave the upgrade to S2 and he broke the 4s after 1 month, so he is back to using an old 3.</p>
<p>Bad news about the UK laundry. S will be buying a lot of new clothes or investing in febreeze, his favorite alternative.</p>
<p>Good news here, the company I’ve been temping at for the last 9 months has offered me an actual job. Phew, that was a lot of work to get one job.</p>
<p>S has dug himself into a bit of a hole for the semester, but he works best under pressure.</p>
<p>This is what the Housing Handbook says:</p>
<p>"Room selection preference will be given to students who have already matched themselves with their roommate(s). These students should contact their RHD to receive assistance in locating others without roommates. Should all attempts to locate a roommate fail, these students should complete their housing agreement online and pay their room deposit in order to be considered for housing. The Office of Residential Life and Housing will select a room and roommate for you once freshman and transfer students have been assigned. </p>
<p>“Returning resident students who have not selected a room during the room selection process in April will be assigned a room on campus for the following fall after all new freshman and transfer students have been assigned. For housing consideration, students are required to be registered for classes.”</p>
<p>So D can contact Housing and say she needs their help finding a roommate, but she’s not sure how effective this will be. I’d say she has LOTS of incentive to learn to be assertive and find someone herself. What’s tricky for her is that she is in specific housing for a very small percentage of the school (in a good way) and she would like either to stay there or be with people in her major. So it behooves her to schmooze and find someone herself.</p>
<p>I still don’t understand why returning singleton students get the bottom of the barrel, but I guess they have their reasons, and there it is in black and white.</p>
<p>Emmy - I still think that’s just so unfair but I guess you’re right - hopefully it will motivate your D to put herself out there and find a roommate. </p>
<p>On the hubby-doing-laundry subject, my DH also does laundry. He was banned from doing my clothes or the girls (he ruined a few things by either washing them in Hot water or drying things that needed to be hung to dry). He washes his own clothes and all of the towels so that’s a few loads I don’t have to do each week.</p>
<p>Congrats HH!!! Such a romantic day to have that happen! :D. </p>
<p>Good thoughts on tomorrow’s interview with bajamm’s DH! fingers crossed :)</p>
<p>Emmybet, that seems very unfair. I think fr and so get first dibs for on-campus housing at S2’s school, which makes sense because the upperclassmen are more equipped to find off campus housing. What you copied doesn’t seem to differentiate between classes, hopefully that is the case at your D’s school.</p>
<p>H started doing his own laundry when I refused to make sure it got folded right when dryer stopped. Yes, I know it helps eliminate wrinkles, but I iron everything anyway. I started having S do his laundery about jr year in HS just so he would kow how to do it. </p>
<p>HH congrats to your D! Good luck with the assisted living move, will that mean you do not have to make as many trips to help your parents? </p>
<p>Just mailed S a package this morning on my way to work. Wouldn’t you know when I got to work i see a txt on my phone from S (sent at 2:30am) asking me to mail his baseball glove out to him. Why didn’t I notice that before I mailed the package, there was plenty of room in the box. Guess he will get a couple of packages from me this week.</p>
<p>HH been there-it’s tough but once they settle in a lot better-hope it goes OK.</p>
<p>Highhead: Congrats on the nice news for your D. Good luck with your mother’s move. I agree with Pepper that things should be easier once she settles in.</p>
<p>Idinct: Congrats on landing the permanent job!</p>
<p>Ldinct - YIPPPPPEEEEE!! Glad your foot in the door got the offer finally!</p>