<p>My thoughts are with you, mamom. It’s a difficult decision but you are doing the right thing letting your son deal with this as an adult.</p>
<p>Pi Day - oh, goodness, that takes me back! So much happier to be here a year later.</p>
<p>D coes home tonight for a couple of days before returning to school on Sunday. I am hoping her Spring Break trip was as much fun as the FB pics made it seem, but we’ll see when she gets here. It’s hard to believe that there are only a couple of months left in Freshman year.</p>
<p>Happy Pi day. Wow what a year it’s been. Hope everyone is enjoying their students during spring break. My DS arrives this weekend for his break. Should be relaxing for him as DS2 is in school so no big plans. </p>
<p>DS2 isn’t going to have any fun for his spring break. He has to have dental surgery and will be on some good drugs for the recovery. I’m not looking forward to watching him hurt, but it will all be worth it when he has pretty teeth! (They have to uncover a tooth and will have to go in the hard way–through the palate to get to it :eek: ) They need to fix it so he has a tooth and so that tooth doesn’t damage the root on the one next to it. That’s at the end of the month. I’m hoping he feels better by the end of his spring break so we can do a little something fun before going back to school.</p>
<p>Thoughts are with you mamom. I agree with what all others have said.</p>
<p>Hapy Pi day. Saw a poster the other day “Come to the Dork side. We have Pi”. (Pi was written as the Greek letter, not sure I know how to do that on CC)</p>
<p>Hmm, I agree the student needs to take ownership. But with a big scholarship on the line I would research the options myself. I wouldn’t necessarily tell him I was doing so nor present him with the info but I would do it.</p>
<p>Last semester S had 5 D’s at midterm, as I mentioned He went down (in person) to the scholarship office & found out exactly what he needed to do. He dropped 1 & brought the rest of the grades up. He didn’t want to come home.</p>
<p>This semester his grades are better, but he had 1F at midterm which he dropped. I have been all over him though since he’s been missing classes. Right or wrong I’m not going to watch him blow this opportunity (if I can help it without meddling) & have to go back to school & borrow $$ like I did. He will have JR standing in the fall & I’d like to see him finish. Grad school or another BS he can do later when he figures out what he is going to do.</p>
<p>Am I enabling. I don’t think so, but some would disagree. In HS apart from getting him up every morning(still a problem), I was very hands off. I didn’t look at his papers, know about any tests& he self tutored himself for the SAT’s, etc.</p>
<p>Now if I can help him with a suggestion or help navigate some bureaucracy in a school of 30,000, 1500 miles away, I will do it until he grows up a little more. But I have not contacted anyone on his behalf, that is his responsibility.</p>
<p>I’m not suggesting that the op change her approach, she knows her son best.</p>
<p>D called to say that she spilled a small amount of water on her laptop and it isn;t working. BF is a computer guy and he took it apart and it still doesn’t work. We have NSSI insurance, and will try to file a claim. I have emailed them, since part of the claims process is to take the laptop to a service center to prove it is broken. I want to find out if we have to go to a specific place.</p>
<p>idinct - been there, done that. I have been way too hands on since S started college. But, there is a limit to what I can do when he is 1100 miles away. I can only ask about HW, tests, quizes, grades, etc. And I only have his answers to go by, obviously “fine” means something different to him than me. He would never go and ask about the scholarship. He isn’t missing classes, he calls me walking from one class to another and will often call me on his way to dunkin donuts to get a coffee, so I know he gets up and out of bed. I still haven’t talked to S about his grades, he is away til Friday, but I will before he returns to school on Sunday. Nagging hasn’t worked, so I am backing off. It will be very unfortunate if he loses his scholarship. But, he has options, like taking time off to work, going to the local state school, etc. Do I want him to go those routes? No, but I can’t be with him 24/7 and force hm to do what needs to be done. So unless he can pull off a “hail mary” before the end of the semester and get that GPA up to a whopping 2.0 he is done at his current school. The thing that infuriates me is he is not majoring in something like engineering, where many kids struggle. He flunked accounting and theology. I took accounting I know what is involved, rote learning, repetition and practice. And not liking a required course like Theology is no reason to not do the work. You can take the course once and be done with it or take it 2X for your learning enjoyment. rant done. </p>
<p>gsmomma - good luck with laptop. D spilled soda on her mac and I am still working on it. I think it is dead but figure it can’t hurt to try and clean everything up. </p>
<p>vamom- gosh, Ihope the surgery goes well for DS2. :eek: is right.</p>
<p>Mamom,
I get it. You cant force them to learn. You have been supportive this year as I’ve faced the ups & downs. </p>
<p>Parenting is such a challenge. I’d like to go a week without worrying about one of them, but “love the kids on the coach” & I feel lucky to be their mom most of the time.</p>
<p>Mamom,
My brother had the same problem. Our parents said they would not pay for more of the same, and so he took a year off and supported himself. He then went on to finish his degree, get a masters, and get on with his life. Some students just seem to need a healthy dose of the real world round about this time. Best of luck!</p>
yup. Although he frustrates the heck out of me, he is a good kid and I love the heck out of him. His path may not be the one I choose, but it will get him somewhere. </p>
<p>I appreciate everyones advice, even that which conflicts with my position. I may not be doing the “right” thing, but it is what feels right for me and my H at this point in time.</p>
<p>I am sure you are doing the right thing- moms know best.</p>
<p>I spent the early morning in the ER with S. He apparently got vital periocarditis from some cold he had 2 weeks ago. Scary stuff. Appears not to be serious, but we will see a cardiologist later today. Did I complain yesterday, I should never complain. Love the kid on the couch.</p>
<p>I will worry with having to find a doctor at school for follow up when he goes back next week</p>
<p>Ldinct: That does sound scary. It’s lucky that he was home when it hit. I’m glad that it doesn’t appear to be serious. Keep on loving the kid on the couch.</p>
<p>Idinct - hope your son has a complete recovery. One parent looking for a doc local to S’s school got some recs through the parents FB page for his school. Glad he was home when he got sick.</p>
<p>ldinct - no you weren’t complaining! I’m glad you were able to get to the ER quickly and get answers just as quickly - that is scary stuff!! My neighbor had that with ambulances and police - in the middle of the night - he thought for certain it was a heart attack. Hope the cardiologist give you reassurances and he recovers quickly.</p>
<p>ldinct - scary. Glad he was home - this is one of my worst nightmares, that I won’t be around when they are sick!</p>
<p>D is in Florida on a spring break trip with her team. Not too happy about the situation from what I gather. Am trying to tell her that she should not let this ruin her trip, her semester. But don’t think I am getting through. She’s getting frustrated since she feels she can do better than a couple of her teammates, but she is not being given the opportunity. Since when is life fair ?? Hopefully, this doesn’t have a bad impact on her semester and grades!</p>
<p>In other news, S had a fabulous, but crazy week. He had his musical at school. Then a scholarship interview at an elite boarding school. He was notified that he did win the scholarship. He liked the school a lot when we visited and I did too (can actually see him there). So, despite the fact that I didn’t really want him going away, it sounds like it’s going to happen. Still trying to take this all in - an empty nest this fall, rather than four years out ?? He also won an award at a sports banquet and got a standing ovation. This is beginning to feel like senior year for him and I am getting really emotional at these events. Sigh…I am very very happy and excited for him, but don’t really know how I am going to manage come fall.</p>
<p>Now, 4 doctors are debating what he has exactly. Meeting with a cardiac surgeon tomorrow who should have an “expert opinion”. One diagnosis precludes flying which he of course is supposed to do on Sunday to go back to school.
Nothing sounds super serious at this point, lots of running around & tests today. I am psychologically exhausted. Going to take a nap now. I can’t stay awake any longer, I’m sure it will interfere with sleeping tonite.</p>
He went down (in person) to the scholarship office & found out exactly what he needed to do. He dropped 1 & brought the rest of the grades up. He didn’t want to come home.</p>